Love Marriage Relationships..... - Page 5

Originally posted by: Nishitah512

When I said fighting her own battle, I did not mean the literal meaning of it. It was more of dealing with problems herself. I agree, Akshara spoke up and told Gayatri that it was she who told her to keep hisaab and apologised to Maharaj ji. There is nothing wrong in that but when gayatri refused to accept that she had told any such thing to Akshara, Naitik stepped in to defend Akshara. I am fine with that. Aksh is too new in the family and others have still not understood her. Right now it is naitik who understands her and he put her point across to the others. Gayatri and co understood the matter when Naitik explained to her. Nobody else could have spoken at this moment because frankly speaking, nobody else knows Akshara as well as naitik does in that house. Akshara will speak up in due course of time but her relations with her MIL are not that strong at the moment. Once that is built and she starts sharing a good rapport with gayatri, she will also start voicing her opinion just like she used to do with others before she was married. They have dumped whole lot of responsibilities on Aksh and expect her to do all of that perfectly. If Naitik had not stepped in yesterday, the misunderstanding would have lingered on. Dino land would have been mad at Akshara for questioning Maharaj ji.
I want Akshara to learn to handle things on her own. Like I have said earlier, Naitik should support her on bigger issues like the college track etc. Her idea of handling things is by keeping quiet and brushing things under the carpet. When Gayatri yelled at her for not wearing the pallu, she didnt share it with naitik although it was troubling her so much. She was so upset but chose not to talk about it. When Gayatri yelled at her for giving Naitik roti without ghee, she apologised and ensured naitik got rotis with loads of ghee the next day. Although she did tell Gayatri that Naitik is conscious of his weight, she could have been more assertive. Being a bit assertive is not equivalent to showing disrespect right?
You say that if a newly married girl sits quietly and listens to all that her inlaws have to say, it is respect ...even if she doesnt agree with them? According to me, it may be good manners. What about Akshara's self respect...voicing out her opinion is not wrong. It doesnt mean she is going to shout from the roof tops but having a conversation does help to sort things out. I dont think it is right to point fingers at somebody (Aksh in this case) when she is not wrong and there is no harm in letting the others know where they have faltered. However, I agree with Tina that it is Naitik who should be bridging the gap between his mother and wife...make her feel comfortable. Once she has adjusted to the family and her in-laws, Akshara will take over.

n "Architect Naitik" has laid a solid foundation for a "strong, sturdy bridge".......which should be able to withstand the mightiest of "storms".......helping each n everyone in the family.... to "cross" the bridge happily....holding each other's hands....... 👏 👏