Your Advice to a heartbroken girl/boy?

Page

Next Last

Mahi

@-Mystery-

Stunner

+ 6

Posted: 16 years ago

This a very general topic not made keeping any person from IF or the world in mind. But it is a very common problem and happens more often than we wish.

Scenario: A girl "A" has been betrayed by her boyfriend whom she was with for the last 4 years. She thought he was very loyal and loved her sincerely. She also loved him too much. To make things worse, her best friend was involved with her boyfriend. Now "A" is feeling terribly depressed. She doesn't want to talk to either of them and is totally shattered having betrayed by the two people she loved the most. "A" is afraid that she'll totally lose it but doesn't know how to help herself. She just doesn't feel like doing anything at all.

In this scenario I've used a girl "A" but it could be a guy too.

Let's think about...

What would be your advice to the girl "A"?

Remember it's easier said than done. Please give her specific advice as to what she should do to overcome her depression.

Would forgiving them help her? As long as you don't forgive, there's this burden on your heart. And you don't have to forget while forgiving, right?

Please advice this poor girl "A" and who know some people out there might be needing just your help.

***If you like this discussion, please press the LIKE button, that's how I'll keep track of what you all want. If most of you don't like it, then we will avoid similar discussions in the future.***

Mahi

Quote

Frequent Posters

JK Dhillon

@Angelic_J

Sparkler

+ 5

Posted: 16 years ago

What would be your advice to the girl "A"? If he cheats he is NOT worth it. As simple as that. There are no if's and but's here. You need to forget him and move on and be with someone who actually appreciates you and you alone.

Remember it's easier said than done. Please give her specific advice as to what she should do to overcome her depression. She should hang out with her friends. Devote time to her family and studies and she should take up some extra activities such as going to the gym or hourse back riding because all those will help her get him off her mind. Plus I highyl advise her to burn ALL of the pictures she has of him and her bff and delete them from her computer/laptop w.e.

Would forgiving them help her? As long as you don't forgive, there's this burden on your heart. And you don't have to forget while forgiving, right? Actually, no I don't believe that forgiving is your only salvation. There is absolutely no burden on anyone if you don't forgive someone however, you DO need to absolutely FORGET about them. Forgiving seems like a noble concept but that's all it is NOBLE not practical :)

Quote

Looks like you are new here. Register for free, learn and contribute.

alisonwhite

@alisonwhite

Beginner

Posted: 16 years ago

Sometimes we have to meet all the wrong people first, before meeting the right one...

Take the bad experience as a lesson in life...

That special someone who is right & suitable for you, is still out there... Only time will tell... Cheer up! Smilez always... 😛

Edited by alisonwhite - 16 years ago

Quote

Delena

@Delena-cious

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 16 years ago

What would be your advice to the girl "A"?

everything happens for the best, he is not worth the love for you and she should be greatful for the fact that she got to know about him...there is always someone for you somwhere and he is simply not the one for you...just try to forget him
Remember it's easier said than done. Please give her specific advice as to what she should do to overcome her depression.

she should start her usual life which she use to live before he came into her life....devoting more time especially for herself, to her friends, family and other important work
Would forgiving them help her? As long as you don't forgive, there's this burden on your heart. And you don't have to forget while forgiving, right?

no i dont think forgiving them will help her even if she did, the pain of betrayal will stil be there...its easy to forgive but hard to forget...

Please advice this poor girl "A" and who know some people out there might be needing just your help.

il quote from OSO 😆 "agar the end teek na ho toh woh the end nahin hoti...picture abhi baaki hain mere dost." 😆.(wow my quoting sucks) .everyone has someone for them out there somwhere...learn from the mistakes and look out for true love until u find them at the end

Quote

Mrs.Edward Cullen

@.Angel

Stunner

+ 4

Posted: 16 years ago

well my own Advice to dem is very simple if they r going to use it and here it's.....

don't ever in ur life fall in love again

or trust another girl/boy ever.

cos once ur heart is broken it's going to be very hard for u to put it together, so why not keep the pain of ur broken heart with u forever and move on with it to make urself a better person who does not need girl or boy to live ur life to the fullest.....

u ppl may not like my Advice but it's way better than to have a girl/boy breaking ur heart over and over again.

Quote

thambu Babu [ thambu ]

@thambu

Elite

+ 5

Posted: 16 years ago

I would like to dedicate a song on this topic... the song lyrics itself is the answer for the question ....

please don't fall in love at first sight ....
just test the girl / boy before falling in love .... test means not an ordinary test it should be a hard test ... try by all means of way untill she / he is successful in your test and when you are satisfied ... then fall in love ..... you will get what you want from your love ....

OR

If you fall in love without the test you end up singing this song

Why did you break my heart?
Why did we fall in love?
Why did you go away, away, away, away?

Dil mera churaaya kyoon
Jab yeh dil todna hi tha
Humse dil lagaaya kyoon
Humse muh modna hi tha

Why did you break my heart?
Why did we fall in love?
Why did you go away, away, away, away?

Ho, dil ko dhadakna tune sikhaaya
Dil ko tadapna tune sikhaaya
Aankhon mein aansu chhupe thhe kahin
Inko chhalakna tune sikhaaya

Seene mein basaaya kyoon
Dil se jab khelna hi tha
Humse dil lagaaya kyoon
Humse muh modna hi tha
Dil mera churaaya kyoon

Why did you break my heart?
Why did we fall in love?
Why did you go away, away, away, away?

Ho, milti thi nazrein jab bhi nazar se
Uthte thhe shole jaise jigar se
Saanson se nikla jaise dhuaan sa
Banta tha mujhse jeete na marte

Aag kyoon lagaayi jab
Bujha ye dil chhodna hi tha
Humse dil lagaaya kyoon
Humse muh modna hi tha

Dil mera churaaya kyoon
Jab yeh dil todna hi tha
Humse dil lagaaya kyoon
Humse muh modna hi tha

Why did you break my heart?
Why did we fall in love?
Why did you go away, away, away, away

the you tube vedio song link is given here for your reference of the song .....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYaB2e10-cQ

Quote

Iman

@robbieluvr

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 16 years ago

Here's my advice:

What would be your advice to the girl "A"?

I know it's very hard to forget your first love so i wont tell her to forget him because it's very hard. All i can say is that you just put your mind in some other place and involve your self in a lot of activities so you would have less time to think about him.

Remember it's easier said than done. Please give her specific advice as to what she should do to overcome her depression.

Just spend some time with your friends, focus on your school work and join extra cricular activities if you can which will help you think less about him.

Would forgiving them help her? As long as you don't forgive, there's this burden on your heart. And you don't have to forget while forgiving, right?

Well, if they'r really sorry then you should forgive them but at the same time you never know if they really are sorry or not but you havve to decide. So if you feel they are worth your forgiveness then you should forgive them but if you won't feel bad for not forgiving them, then i guess you don't have to.

Iman😃

Quote

thambu Babu [ thambu ]

@thambu

Elite

+ 5

Posted: 16 years ago

I must watch this thread regularly ...... May be I get some tips from this thread which will be helpful for me ....

I am eagerly waiting to see some really really nice tips which I think so far not posted by anybody ..... 😳

The tips already posted is generally followed by all ...but it's not a solution for the heartbroken......

I am looking for a top solution on re uniting the heartbroken .... everybody can break up easyly but the question is being in love for all the time through thick and thin is what the solution I am looking forward

Quote

Ambrosia

@Ambrosia

Sparkler

+ 5

Posted: 16 years ago

Originally posted by: -Mystery-

What would be your advice to the girl "A"?

First Behave badly. Don't try to be brave. Don't pretend it's ok.Scream, shout, eat badly. For once, you've got permission.

Make it good for you. Is there something you've always wanted to try but haven't? Then make the time to do it now. Better yet, pick something your ex never wanted to try (or never would let you try). It'll take your mind off things, reintroduce fun into your life and help you break unproductive thought patterns.
Remember it's easier said than done. Please give her specific advice as to what she should do to overcome her depression.

Would forgiving them help her? As long as you don't forgive, there's this burden on your heart. And you don't have to forget while forgiving, right?

This person is now out of your life. Period. Do not call him.One call and you're back at the bottom again. We're all weak-willed, particularly when it comes to people who've broken our hearts. You should probably take this as Karma catching up with you;

Please advice this poor girl "A" and who know some people out there might be needing just your help.

***If you like this discussion, please press the LIKE button, that's how I'll keep track of what you all want. If most of you don't like it, then we will avoid similar discussions in the future.***

Mahi

I wanted to say that I am not the best person to take advice from esp in heartbreaks. But I have seen my friend going through this phase and I have seen her doing what I just typed. The entire process was painful for her as was for me but she was truly cured, but ofcourse it took a lot of time.

Btw great post as always Mahi.👏

Edited by Ambrosia - 16 years ago

Quote

3365

Suspended

Posted: 16 years ago

#10

What would be your advice to the girl "A"? If he cheats he is NOT worth it. As simple as that. There are no if's and but's here.
The guys/girl who cheats is not worth it. and that too if he was doing it purposely. there is no way out of it after that.

Remember it's easier said than done. Please give her specific advice as to what she should do to overcome her depression.

First of all she needs to have tremendous will power to not thinkg about all those things and get out of all that. she/he needs to engross her/himself in work totally.

Friends play a very crucial role in these situations. they r very important in taking out the people from their depression.

Would forgiving them help her? As long as you don't forgive, there's this burden on your heart. And you don't have to forget while forgiving, right?

As u said its easier said than done, so i dont think forgive both the friend and guy is easy. i think its impossible, but if u have to come in contact with them due to profession or relation, then just a "hi-hello" kind of a relation can be maintained.

Quote

1 2

Your Advice to a heartbroken girl/boy?

Related Topics

Explore Topics