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Jess.

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Posted: 15 years ago

#51

Originally posted by: cktelnet

Have you lived in USA? I have been here for the past 10 yrs and to be honest, the core sanskar are imbibed in us, infact all my relatives and children's of indian friends are very much traditional,
Yes we might not boast or impose things in the name of tradition. We have more liberties but we do know our limits. Limits come from knowing self and trusting that your parents trust you. This bond of parent-children trust make our relationship more open and friendly, that way we can tell our parents freely what we feel and they can advise us what to do and what not to. We dont have to secretly do things. When things are imposed on kids, they rebel like Varsha. I have seen people coming from India who have not been given any liberties back at home, get totally over-board with cultural shock and drown themself with drugs/drinks etc.
And to be honest, i know many teenagers back in India, behaving like Good KIds but secretly wears mini shirt and have premarital sex, drink and do drugs. If you dont believe me go to disc as college going people. So plz next time before writing anything think 10 times.

Yep!
thats totally true...not only for kids coming from india
but any kid who lives in a protective enviroment, once the person gets a bit of freedom they get crazy!
LOL just talking from experience...my cousin's parents were veryyyy protective. His mom would buy him stuff like xbox and psp but never let him play em. never let him go anywhere, etc. And when he started to go to college he started to change A LOT..now he drinks and does drugs and all that..he was actually one of the most religious people i knew!

its normal behavior of anyone who experiences change and freedom

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brainychild92

@brainychild92

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Posted: 15 years ago

#52

she is in a joint family and has responsibility. everyone contributes to the house includeing her. so ya versha was wrong

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PARIJA

@free2ryme

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Posted: 15 years ago

#53

Originally posted by: cktelnet

... the info in Wikipedia can be editted by anyone.Increase your knowledge and broaden your thoughts first. And plz dont lie that you live in America....you do huh?

lol.. they first thing they teach us in America is not to trust wikipedia!

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Jess.

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Posted: 15 years ago

#54

Originally posted by: free2ryme

lol.. they first thing they teach us in America is not to trust wikipedia!

LOL...my english/history teachers are very picky abt it....NO WIKIPEDIA !
you can use the sources at the bottom though :P

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Malini

@Rumii

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Posted: 15 years ago

#55

Sorry,but my point is NOT ABOUT Indians living abroad/bringing up their children abroad ....they're Indians after all.and I've clarified this in my post,there's NO POINT IN REPEATING THE SAME THING......... Indians,whether in India and abroad maintain a certain level of tradition and rules but yes,Indian Teenagers nowadays do have a tendency to follow the Western Culture.....

Doesn't Matter if you DENY..... the trend of the Modern Bollywood Films say it enough...... kahan gaya woh'Sharmana'?? Now almost all actresses are ready to wear shorts,bikinis,ready to liplock

still no Hits😕!!

AND KEEP POSTING ASSURING YOURSELVES....I'm Done Enough regarding this Post!

Good luck..😉

Edited by iamindian - 15 years ago

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Jess.

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Posted: 15 years ago

#56

Originally posted by: iamindian
Sorry,but my point is NOT ABOUT Indians living abroad/bringing up their children abroad ....they're Indians after all.and I've clarified this in my post,there's NO POINT IN REPEATING THE SAME THING......... Indians,whether in India and abroad maintain a certain level of tradition and rules but yes,Indian Teenagers nowadays do have a tendency to follow the Western Culture.....
Doesn't Matter if you DENY..... the trend of the Modern Bollywood Films say it enough...... kahan gaya woh'Sharmana'?? Now almost all actresses are ready to wear shorts,bikinis,ready to liplock
still no Hits😕!!

AND KEEP POSTING ASSURING YOURSELVES....I'm Done Enough regarding this Post!

Good luck..😉

i know where your coming from...people arent so shy anymore
bollywood is trying to go the hollywood way, etc

we know that teenagers in india are going on the wrong path in the name of western culture
i just think they go a little too far cause they dont know how it actually is here

i just felt offended of you saying that american teenagers drink and all that bad stuff
cause im not like that..im very shy and have indian values/traditions
half my clothes are indian clothes! 😆
but i have american thinking...im independant and dont want to lead my life following orders from my parents and then my in-laws

you know where im coming from?

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Annet and Janet

@loveabletwinz

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Posted: 15 years ago

#57

lol, i think i joined this discussion at the brink of its extinction *giggle*.. but i thought ill just leave my two cents anyway! ---> bear with me guys! :-D

@ iamindian and free2ryme --- eep, you guys got a little too personal.. this became a teeny lil more personal than it should have been... but, the point is tht you two made quite good arguments for your position.. -- @ free2ryme, i agree with a LOT you said!

@iamindian -- i dont want you to feel like we are all attacking you..but i did have a few things i wanted to make clear... when you said that people are nowadays saying "hi" instead of "namaste"... this wasnt a recent influence from the west... the "hi" came when the british came..granted, its stil an influence..but that is not a good enough claim.. and when you said that we are out at mcdonalds and pizza hut, and not necessarily at dhabas or indian restraunts, i just want to say, life is all about responsible fun.. there is NOTHING wrong with that! we can do without microwaves? sure we can... but it would not fit into our lifestyle in this day and age.. right, our moms and daadi's didnt use it then..they didnt need it.. but hey, then, none of this was available.. what would india do or where would it be without american influence.. your partially right when you said that the indians are influenced by the west, but if it werent, then it wouldnt be the developing country it is right now..i guess my point is that there is always two sides to a coin. you said we indians in the US dont account for the more general population.. heres a stat.. Asians are the third highest racial distribution in the United States (according to a report from the U.S. Census bureau)... 1,645,210 out of that population is indian..so yes, we do somewhat make up a good percentage of the US racial displacement.. we do hang out with whites and black alike, and we know them just as well...not every black or white person is alike.. we CANNOT generalize!

speaking of tatoos.... in the US..its only a from of expression...nothing taboo about it... but in india, ofcourse it is...but i just have one question to ask..how come no hulabula is created over a mehendi ceremony in india? what is the difference? a tatoo lasts forever? arent they both forms of body art? and remember, mehendi is not just for the hands.. then what is so wrong about tattoos? granted, needles are involved.. then shouldnt we all just create such a havoc when a child gets an immunization shot? and speaking of mehendis and tattoos.. mehendi was in india LONG before tattoo was in the US...!!!

and for the statistic you posted... like free2ryme, Jess, and cktelnet pointed out, wikipedia is NOT a reliable source!

im sorry if you took offense, none meant!