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Hello I would like to introduce myself. I have been watching CB on and off thanks to you guys and I love reading your very insightful analysis (often times more than the show itself - allthought I do love watching the show for the lovely hindi language)
Here are my two cents on Radhikas personality.
Inspite of the overdramatic theatrics of this show and the seemingly unrealistic self sacrificing - martry personality of Radhika - I would have to say there is a truth to her personality that rings with me.
I dont believe that Radhika's beahvior is solely out of a desire to be self sacrificing and noble (though that is certainly a part of it). I feel that Radhika has a greater need for complete love and acceptance from her family especially her mother. This is extermely true of people who have never had the unquestioned love and attention of a parent - especially women - such women can never be healthy wives or lover - they have an overwhelming need/guilt to contantly please their own family even if in the process they are hurting their own husbands and children.
Radhika loves Dev in her own way but she is too emotionally damaged to analyze that Devs love for her is far more valuable and greater than her families - she is not incapable of loving as a woman - but she is incapable of valuing it.
I have heard of many cases of a drunk parent or an absent parent or an absusive parent in which the child grows up and seemingly has an option an alternative to shut the door on the ugly past and move into a future - but they cant fully shut that door- becasue they have a sick/unhealthy need for acceptance from people who have never been there for them.
I feel that this is partly a reason for Radhikas behavior - her need for her love from her mother. If her mother starts hating her (for whatever reason) that will most certainly destroy her. She can live if Dev hates her but she cannot live if her mother hates her.
Sorry for the psychbabble in my first post.
You guys are a great group !
Keep it up.
Anupamaa
