Michi's parenting skills!

Any comments? Was just curious after seeing Tuesday's epi. Please share. And i don't mean to pit him against Proteek here. I mean to compare between Prachi as mother and Milind as father. Don't you think they balance each other out.😃 Though i consider neither of them to be ideal parents. But together they'll raise a good kid...but separated...i don't think the kid will be as balanced. He needs the both of them.

Jc... as much I want to say that michi will complete each other as parents....I have a second thought about it.....both have a different attitude towards the child....and I am afraid that it will clash against each other sometime soon....

Originally posted by: shali

Jc... as much I want to say that michi will complete each other as parents....I have a second thought about it.....both have a different attitude towards the child....and I am afraid that it will clash against each other sometime soon....

I see what you are saying...but with a couple like Michi (when they finally are together)...i don't think there'll be a clash. They both are very understanding of each other. Till now it was only Prachi's understanding side that we saw...but now Milind too is doing his part. So i feel that given a more peaceful environment they won't be at each other's throat over their difference in Parenting styles. Prachi is not one to say "Milind you are wrong in what you do" but she will do the part of correcting the child when needed whereas Milind will do the part of making him tough and ready to deal with what comes his way. The reason you see a conflict right now is not because of Prachi and Milind but because of the Dasguptas ideas of how their kids should be raised vs. Milind's idea of raising his kid. D family has no reason to try and understand Miind's POV. But if it were Prachi alone she'd give importance to the say MIlind has in how their kid should be raised but at the same time try to keep the kid from turning into a gunda (sorry for the term used...no offense intended).

And you can kind of see how frustrated Sumonto is by the constant disciplining and that too sometimes unnecessary. Agreed that the kid is a little devil but he is not always wrong and in the D-house often a part of him gets hurt at the fact that he is scolded when its not absolutely his fault. I feel Milind's protectiveness is needed for this kid as of now.

JC, I agree. While I enjoyed the Mito scenes yesterday I was not too happy with how Milsi would raise his son if he were the sole parent. Resorting to violence to settle scores is not the best way and certainly not one to be teaching a five-year old. If Sumonto had listened to him and tried beating up a tenth standard kid, he would have become pulp by now. Parents interferfering in children's quarrels is something I don't approve of either. It would have been better if he had taken up the matter with the authorities rather than intervene directly. Ofcourse getting the bully to cow down to his son added to the entertainment value of the show and I was clapping to see Sumonto and Milind share the wink but Sumonto is not really learning good lessons in life and unless the other parent (the mother) is there is balance out, Sumonto may end up thinking violence and threats are the way to set right all the wrongs.

Originally posted by: optimist

JC, I agree. While I enjoyed the Mito scenes yesterday I was not too happy with how Milsi would raise his son if he were the sole parent. Resorting to violence to settle scores is not the best way and certainly not one to be teaching a five-year old. If Sumonto had listened to him and tried beating up a tenth standard kid, he would have become pulp by now. Parents interferfering in children's quarrels is something I don't approve of either. It would have been better if he had taken up the matter with the authorities rather than intervene directly. Ofcourse getting the bully to cow down to his son added to the entertainment value of the show and I was clapping to see Sumonto and Milind share the wink but Sumonto is not really learning good lessons in life and unless the other parent (the mother) is there is balance out, Sumonto may end up thinking violence and threats are the way to set right all the wrongs.

Agree with you there and yes the fact that Milind went to a child ( a 15 yr old is still legally a child) and threatened him didn't quite sit well with me either. And also agree that Sumonto is not getting a good lesson from this. But at the same time i think in part Sumonto needs a little support currently because the kid has a mind of his own..and often gets upset with the treatment he gets. I can't help but compare to Suproteek...because Suproteek seems to be the kind of kid who is the ideal child...listens to his parents...doesn't question rules...and does what is expected of him...whereas Sumonto is someone who will question rules when they seem unnecessary or ignore them when its trivial and he'll make and bend rules to suit what he feels is right. I don't prefer one over the other...and am not saying one is better than the other...but just pointing out that a child like Sumonto needs a different kind of handling than just what Prachi provides but at the same time if given sole custody to Milind he'll definitely have a tough time with balancing the violent tendencies.

bingo opti....that is what I mean.....

JC, I am not saying Prachi's handling is better. She does no better in reasoning with the child except telling him what to do/not do and not why. I especially like the way Milind got his son to drink milk. That is more like the parenting I want to see but I understand what he did yesterday because that is a part of his character too. He has a violent streak in him. Unfortunately he did not have a mother to calm this rage in him during his growing years, the reason it would not be fair to deprive Sumonto of his now. Milsi fully understands this and I feel he is putting up with all this nonsense only because of it. He wants both his wife and son, not just his son. I admire ad love the guy for it.

Originally posted by: optimist

JC, I am not saying Prachi's handling is better. She does no better in reasoning with the child except telling him what to do/not do and not why. I especially like the way Milind got his son to drink milk. That is more like the parenting I want to see but I understand what he did yesterday because that is a part of his character too. He has a violent streak in him. Unfortunately he did not have a mother to calm this rage in him during his growing years, the reason it would not be fair to deprive Sumonto of his now. Milsi fully understands this and I feel he is putting up with all this nonsense only because of it. He wants both his wife and son, not just his son. I admire ad love the guy for it.

I do too akka...admire Milind for what how he is determined to have his family back and not just his son. And i completely agree with everything you said. Thats exactly what i was trying to say too.😆 too tired to type now. But was kinda surprised after i watched the epi and came to the forum and no one seemed to have mentioned about the matter today...or maybe i didn't read the threads that did so just wanted to get some views.

Originally posted by: jinc118

I do too akka...admire Milind for what how he is determined to have his family back and not just his son. And i completely agree with everything you said. Thats exactly what i was trying to say too.😆 too tired to type now. But was kinda surprised after i watched the epi and came to the forum and no one seemed to have mentioned about the matter today...or maybe i didn't read the threads that did so just wanted to get some views.

Jc...Only reason i did not bother to comment about it is because i somehow liked Milind's way of dealing with the bullies...even though the dialogues were really not what i wanted to hear........ When someone hits your kid like how chottu was hit black and blue some parents cannot handle that kind of treatment calmly and rationally...... I would not be able to do so...i would be more like Milind than proteek! lol... That's why i stopped myself from commenting on it as i think the boys deserved what they got from Milind but not the kind of dialogues that i heard though...they are 15 year boys who have a bashed up a 5 yr old kid...they don't get my sympathy at all...Sorry to say it like this but i am being blunt...i would be up in arms if my 41/2 yr old was beaten black and blue by a 15 yr old almost adult!!! That's how i see it!