Michi's parenting skills! - Page 4

I'm sorry darling but living without Prachi didn't change him in any way not even a bit if it were to be this the first thing he'd have done would be to announce to the D's that she was his legally wedded wife. No he still retains all those qualities that Prachi helped him discover she changed him for good. Yes Milsi went through a tough childhood lots of people go through tough childhoods everyone does not resort to the tit for tat formula. There are people who keep getting bullied from birth till death I know a few did their tough surroundings help no they didn't. To be able to repay takes confidence and that rush of adrenalin few possess it Milsi does and now Sumonto does too. Milsi's Baba too lead a tough life did that make him anywhere like Milsi no he remained the same calm soul giving pravarchans but Milsi does not believe in lectures it's as simple as that. What rough surrounding does Sumonto have to justify his initial brawl with the tenth standard fatty? He lives in a very calm peaceful D house no tough atmosphere there but he still chose to fight that was his reflexive instinct and that is acquired by birth you don't have to drill it in someone either you have it or you don't.

Originally posted by: $weet Ema

I would want Sumonto to have the best of both world's too...he would benefit from a balance of Prachi and Milind's approaches. But I feel the creatives have shown little of Prachi's approach, they have not focused on Prachi's parenting skills as much as I would have liked them too.

I am not denying that Sumonto has his father's temper but his father's temper was tempered quite a bit because of Prachi, something that was not done earlier because Milind was himself motherless. So I dont agree with you that no matter what people say, Sumonto would end up beating people up, following his heart. A person's strength of comes when he is able to overcome his shortcomings and Milind did just that. He overcame his shortcomings and reigned in his violent streak. He exhibted admirable self control in dealing with his wife in meeting her after all these years. As you said, the old Milind would have not hesitated to use force to get what is his including dragging his wife, kicking and screaming( I guess I exaggerated there) from D-Nibash. When I said return of that streak without Prachi, I meant his dealing with the bully kid yesterday. That I felt was a bit over board. I dont think he would have gone to that extent if he was still with Prachi (which of course is her doing).

Opti Milind was tempered by Prachi then why wasn't she able to tone down her son who's first instinctive reaction to being bullied was giving it back to the bully. I'm sure she didn't teach him that neither did the D family. Ofcourse if it were Suproteek being bullied he'd have handed the tiffin without uttering a single word like father like son.

Atthis rate the poor kid will b confused😆😕...Father says don't b a Mahatma Gandhi and if someone beats u up ..u too go and break his mouth😆..whereas mother teaches him to believe in Ahimsa and just complain to the school teacher...Whom will the kid follow now😆😳...MICHI together can b given the best parents award in the world😆😳

Jyothi the Imran khan in your avi looks hideous like the HULK incarnated do you like him very much?

I can't reply to every post..as i am headed to work. But thanx Opti akka for relaying what i would probably has said too.

@ Munee: As far as i understood this was Sumonto's first brawl...aint it? So its not like Sumonto has made it a habit to get beat up in school and Prachi has not been able to get through to him. This was the first experience and what he learned is to give it back. Maybe in a way its good but its also not the best way to teach the child that he needs to have courage to stand up for himself. What respect does he have for authority now? Whats the use of a principal and rules in school? I do agree that your temperment is inherited...its proven by several studies. But its also true that you temperment is expressed or curbed by your environment. Now in a serial they ofcourse don't do so much research and the purpose is to show that Sumonto is exactly a carbon copy of his father. But this is the father who calmed down after being with the mother for a while...so will Sumonto...but it takes some growing up and maturing before that can happen. He is a kid right now...and this is the age to teach him to control his urges and to let rationality rule his behavior over impulse.

And for a previous comment...i did aplogize for the use of the word gunda even before anyone said anything because i couldn't come up with another word at that time...that in no way indicated what i thought of Milind. But you must make it a point to interpret it as so. And i still do think that given sole custody to either parent the child will grow up unbalanced.

JC the child mayin time see the disciplinary facts his mother gives to him but all I wish to say is that the fiery streak in him is hereditary it's not that Milind asked him and Sumonto went up to fight with the bully. I just want to mply that both father and son share the same temperament and if conditions apply will act the same in any given situation. True Milind has been tempered and Sumonto has Prachi the saint as a mother but that will not stop them from doing what they themselves believe is right. I agree fighting is not a ready solution to all problems but at times it's the only way the other person gets to see you can stand for yourself. So in a way I don't deem Milind's way of making his son face the world as wrong neither do I hold Prachi wrong in asking him to talk to the teacher. Wonder why she never went to the teacher herself while the son got beaten black and blue.

oke sweets....

yes i think so.he needs both and thats a must