Trishna dressed up too much? Norm? Abstraction?

You may think this is a fashion critique or frivolity. A show analyzed too much...but definitely not if you look around yourself.

I'm a very visual person, and extremes taken to show women's beauty and objectify "beauty" and "women" drive me nuts. It's done everywhere all over the world, in different ways.

So what does have to do with Vivaah? Well Trishna has always been the prettiest of the four, and yes, I expect to get many replies saying Tanya is. but continuing on....But Trishna was pretty and simple but not overly so.

Post-marriage, my goodness, what happened? I have Barbie, Indian-style. I know that in our culture women are expected to take it up a notch after marrying into a new family; she is a reflection of them and on them. When this expectation is mixed with a well off family, as in Trishna's case, it can either go well or very...very bad.

Trishna as I mentioned before was beautiful in her "relative" simplicity. Now, I really can't say that. What bothers me?

I don't know if I'm looking at the old Trishna, who may be self-obsessed, but is not overly so when it comes to her appearance. Her larger-than life personality is not overshadowed by clothes and hair and bling.

1. Those damn ringlets in her hair. Even in the morning, every day! Sometimes when I look at her hair, I am taken back to 1700 France where men wore unreasonably curly wigs and women wore up to 3 ft. long hairdos. I really want to introduce her to a hair straightener--I haven't used mine yet, but I think a person like her needs it more than me.

2. Her makeup is so in your face, so overdone. It's like a caricature of someone who really is fond of wearing make-up. Did she get it permanently put on, surgically speaking? Just kidding.

3. Once I manage to get past those curls and the full color palette that is her face, my eyes fall on the clothes. This is a show, and so you're going to see the heavy saris on a new bride. It's all about fashion, fashion, fashion. Remember, she reflects her in-laws' status and lifestyle.

So I get back to the frivolity of the topic. I think many of the married women on our forum can attest to that "expectation", "a married girl's passion to be beautiful for her husband and his family", or "pressure", or a husband picking out clothes that are more reflective of the people they run with in society. I don't know why I occasionally find this insulting. It objectifies women sometimes, and it's not the person you married that has his idea, it's a built-in part of families.

I myself became very aware of this after my marriage, even during the engagement. I know people whose in-laws are fine with them not helping with the household, so that they can look "like them" or "of their status" or "make them proud". I like to look good for myself first, then my husband. But I am not the type of person who goes to the salon to get my hair done for a distant family friend's child's wedding. I'd rather do the laundry...I'd rather sit down with a book. You know what I mean? From my personal experience, though, I've noticed that a good amount of the time, it's more important how you look in your new family vs. what you do for everyone. A shock for me, but hey everyone is different.

What do you think? Based on your experience or when you look at the world around you-- magazines, billboards, advertisements, TV shows, movies, internet.

I'm looking forward to reading your responses.
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Great post yaar. 👏

That hair sytle definately needs to go. It seems like she is wearing a mop on the head. I liked her look in Salaam Zindagi so much more and in the starting episodes of Vivah. Know she does look like and overly dressed doll. It does not make her look prettier but weirder.

i totally agree! more than her cothing,. Trish's hair pisses me off! it's so curly and hairsprayed, it doesn't even look good! i dont know what happened!

i want the old Trish back!

but i guess its sort of like a reflection of her husband (like you mentioned) -> when she was with yuvi, she had little makeup and straight "simple" hair, now that she's married the richer man, she has more exaggerated looks and Tanya has taken on the role of the girl that trish used to be!

she wears just too much makeup.........even before she was married she was used to wear too much makeup esp too much foundation coz her hands and arms look so diff which I dont like abt indian shows.....why do they want the girls to look so white.......I dont understand that......also dont like her sarees ..it seems like she is always ready for the party.......(quoting fatima) thats why she doesnt look any different on any occassion even on the wedding she didnt look any different coz she wears too much make up....I think they want to show her more beautiful thats why she has so much makeup on......no doubt she is pretty but she should wear less foundation.....it looks really bad

The grass is greener on the other side, no matter what people talk about. Short want to be tall, tall want to be short, dark want to be light, light want to be dark. This thinking is so entrenched even in me that when I see people on the beach in their teeny tiny bikinis and Speedos, I think are how cheap and then how insane! I ask from one side of the gate: Why do they want that ORANGISH LOOK day-glow look? Not to mention why they're willing to risk skin cancer.

This also reminded me of Chinese/Japanese women, like lighter skinned Indian people, who are horrified at the prospect of turning darker even temporarily. End result: big floppy hats, gloves, curiously long-sleeved clothes in hot weather, and, my personal favorite, the creative use of umbrellas on sunny days, attracting the looks and stares of people who wonder one, why? and two, will they hurt me with that umbrella?

Think of the maharajas of the royal/imperial days. Most of them were fat as in F-A-T. Why? One, they liked food a bit much, and second being heavy meant you were rich and healthy. Skinny people were poor or could not afford to eat as robustly as the richer people.

When we take a look at Renaissance painting, women were round ("healthy" as Indians would say), fleshy, and not gym members. But that was the definition of beauty then, and now you would be made to feel so bad about your weight, that you'd starve yourself or go on crazy diets.

yhaaa... I guess she does wear too much make-up... maybe her role required her to, since each one of them have a different personality!
But, her hair.... I love it!
At least it's still black! 😛