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Posted: 17 years ago
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Hi
I dont understand wot is wrong wiv me? I am really nervous, shy, scared and anxious. It always happens to me when i am going to a place that is crowded by people. i am scared to talk to people during face to face because i think they will laugh at me or make comments. my brain always thinks of negative things and i cant stop thinking negative. I am scared to talk to people or walk in crowded places, i am nervous to do presentations in front of the whole class at college and i tend to worry a lot about wot peope think and ill say and do. when i walk past groups of people i get scared thinking that sum1 may do something to me.
i am shy to talk to people and always thinking about things. Wots wrong with me?
Please can sum1 help me?
Luv Neemo

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Posted: 17 years ago
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You could just be extremely shy or it could be because you sound very young. There is a thing called social anxiety but your case may not be that extreme. As you get older it gets better. You just need to believe in yourself and remember that you are just as good as everybody else. Try a different approach to the situations and try to make yourself talk to these people. The more practice you get the easier you will feel about the situation. It will also make you feel a lot better about yourself when you manage to talk to someone. Don't worry, you can try thinking of more positive things at that time and your brain will feel a lot better which will automatically make you feel and look good. Don't think you're shy because if you do think you are, you really will be. Be confident but not too confident, it's not good. You have to overcome and outgrow yourself from thinking these negative things and always start thinking the good in such situations.

Good luck and hold your head up and have a go at talking to people it will make you feel better.😳😃
Posted: 17 years ago
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Do what I do...Go with a friend who is outgoing...And just stick with them...
will post more later..
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Posted: 17 years ago
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thanks Ainun, i will follow your advice and make sure that i stick to it.
Posted: 17 years ago
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Your welcome, I would be yourself....If you dont want to be somewhere, you can always leave...Also being around people you know will help you....I think the best advice is to try to ignore your feelings (might be kinda hard)....And just go out there...
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Posted: 17 years ago
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Originally posted by: NeemoluvzMumait

Hi

I dont understand wot is wrong wiv me? I am really nervous, shy, scared and anxious. It always happens to me when i am going to a place that is crowded by people. i am scared to talk to people during face to face because i think they will laugh at me or make comments. my brain always thinks of negative things and i cant stop thinking negative. I am scared to talk to people or walk in crowded places, i am nervous to do presentations in front of the whole class at college and i tend to worry a lot about wot peope think and ill say and do. when i walk past groups of people i get scared thinking that sum1 may do something to me.
i am shy to talk to people and always thinking about things. Wots wrong with me?
Please can sum1 help me?
Luv Neemo

I think it's called social phobia where you are scared of talking to people, doing presentations in front of class, etc. it's called phobia for sure but I don't remember what's the word for a person who fears communicating with people.
I used to be exactly like you once ... i overcame this fear by having online friends and falling in love with my bf who always makes me feel special and loved as well as strong 😳 as well as his sense of humor which makes me laugh .. anyway I overcame this fear by socializing with people via chat for about a whole month than slowly within time I completely stopped fearing socializing with people.
the best thing for you to do is chat with people online, start of a simple conversation "hi, how are you?" than you'll know what you have to do to keep the conversation going. The other best thing for you to do is well I don't really want to say this but tlk to yourself in front of a mirror, that will help prevent you being shy in front of people.
the trick that will help you overcome the fear of presenting in front of class is write down what you want to say in the speech during the presentation on notecards and practice them in front of your parents, siblings, friends.
best of luck and if you want to ever get more advice or practice socializing with people, i'm always here for you 😊
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Posted: 17 years ago
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Hey Neemo, I know exactly how you feel, it might just be as if I wrote what you did. I dunno why but I'm afraid of any kind of social situation. I really agree with what Asliiguy said, I find that when I'm with a friend that's more outgoing I'm not as afraid as I always am because that friend gives me the courage to be more social and put myself out there in the world. It's hard to be social when you're just not, but as an anti-social person I know how good it feels when you step outside of your shell and take a chance 😊
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Posted: 17 years ago
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I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW U FEEL CAUSE I HAVE NEVER FACED THIS PROBLEM BEFORE......PROBABLY BECAUSE I HAVE A MILLION FRIENDS WITH WHOM I HANG AROUND WITH......
BEST WAY TO OVERCOME THIS PROBLEM IS THAT THINK POSITIVELY.....HANG OUT WITH A PERSON WHO IS OUT-GOING AS MENTIONED ABOVE...HOPE EVERYTHING WILL BE ALL RIGHT...
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Posted: 17 years ago
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hey sweets try to think positive about yourself..ask your friends and family to tell u about u...like whts ur best quality n stuff...this way u will feel more confident about urself...
and yea try to communicate with people online...its petty much easier then..U knw then try talking to people on the fone...and yea just try going out where there are less people..thn more n more n more..and ultimately ull be totally comfy
hope ur prob gets solved out soon :)...gudluck...and be positive
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Posted: 17 years ago
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i know exactly how you feel....i used to be the same way 😳
i used to get so nervous in front of people that i would start shaking....as i got older{lol 2 months later} it got better because i made a new friend who was really outgoing...so me and her did crazy stuff together....now im not THAT shy in front of people....and if you do embarrass yourself in front of people laugh it offf, even if you didnt think it was funny...because your probably scared of making urself look bad in front of people rite?

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