Originally posted by: FlauntPessimism
See at the end of the day the decision has to be Saloni's, because she has rights on the business of her parents, not her husband so she is the decision maker.
(I am not liking the fact that makers are making all Ghar Jamais are useless or blood suckers like RV and now Dev, this show if talks about 21st century, we shall showcase the rights of daughters in paternal property as per Hindu succession act and that if a man decides to raise a family while his wife taking monitory responsibilities then that doesn't make him wrong in anyway, but that is a different topic)
But if they are saying that Dev is not doing anything, what exactly is Saloni doing? She doesn't work in factory like Vaishnavi or Tulsi, doesn't have a job like Munni, doesn't get into household work (at least not shown till now) like Tulsi, Munni, Nandani or even daughters of this family like Pari and Shobha. But somehow Saloni is not questioned but Dev is.. Is it because that we cant accept a non working/earning male?
I did not say that Saloni is wrong, but I think Dev is not wrong here to say that he wants to get into the business where he might get more share. Completely true that he isnt doing it to actually work and expand the business there, but only to lay down, and if Saloni brings up this point that this is my family business and I think you would spoil the legacy so either start from basics or dont think of it, or even that my brother has worked in and out to make this business reach where it is and I dont want to claim my inheritance from there because it is his hard work, then I would be completely OK. Even as of now I am not saying there is anything wrong in her decision, she has complete rights to do whatever she wants from her inheritance (not even hers as of now), but I want to say that at the end of the day husband wife are a unit, they make decisions together and obviously people have disagreements and each wants to convince the other.
I was actually saying about Parth, he didnt have the right to enter into a husband wife heated discussion. Unless asked for, never get in between husband and wife because that only makes the situation more tense. Fine he felt Dev was wrong, talk to him separately but getting into an argument of husband wife is completely uncalled for
I get what you are saying and I do agree with certain parts but overall I do not fully agree, and I think the situation is a lot more nuanced than it is being made out to be.
First of all, the show itself has quite a few inconsistencies, especially in how it portrays the household. We are talking about the Viranis - a family with immense wealth and yet they are shown managing everything in the kitchen themselves, which honestly does not make much sense. In beginning we saw Maharaj ji and Munni helping tulsi in kitchen though.
Till about 2 years ago we were running a catering business from home cooking for 100+ people often and min of 12-15 varieties. I work in IT and whenever I had time especially on weekends I used to help out my parents in their business. We only had one person for washing utensils. Most of the prep like chopping would be done the previous day, so the actual cooking next day became much easier and more efficient and with my personal experience I am saying its not difficult to cook for so many ppl when all prep is already done.
So for a family of around 15 people especially like the Viranis, it honestly should not be that overwhelming considering no one is preparing 15 different dishes every day and considering there are house helps. And realistically a household of that scale would have some level of help. Just because it’s not shown on screen does not mean it does not exist otherwise that house simply would not function smoothly.
That is why I feel the show itself has some illogical gaps here (maybe budget constraints or just writing choices ). So Saloni not being actively shown helping in the kitchen does not automatically mean she is not contributing. At most she might help occasionally but it is also very possible that Tulsi herself does not expect her to take on that responsibility fully. We are filling in gaps based on incomplete portrayal when rich households does not work like middle class households
Now coming to Dev - I would have agreed that Dev is right if Saloni herself wanted to claim her stake in her parents business and be actively involved. But that is not what we are seeing here. Dev has no independent claim over Saloni’s family business. And more importantly, Saloni herself is not interested in asserting that right at this point. So Dev pushing for it starts to feel misplaced. I am not against the idea of a ghar jamai at all. If a man consciously chooses that role, contributes meaningfully, and both partners are aligned in that decision that is absolutely fine. There is nothing inherently wrong with it. But here the issue is intent and approach.
Dev is not shown wanting to learn the business grow within it or contribute in a meaningful way. What he has clearly expressed is that he does not want to be part of a setup where he has a smaller share and has to build from the ground up. Instead he wants to move into a space where he can potentially benefit more.
That shifts the narrative from choice to convenience. And thatz why I don’t think this can be framed as a progressive, 21st-century role-reversal situation. A man choosing to stay back, support his wife, or even take on domestic responsibilities is absolutely valid but that comes with accountability. It is not about opting out of effort altogether. In Dev’s case, he is simply trying to avoid one system and insert himself into another that is not really his to begin with.
Also, I don’t think Saloni and Dev can be equated in this context. Saloni is not trying to claim control over something that is not hers yet, nor is she forcing her way into a system. Dev, on the other hand, is actively pushing to enter her family’s business through her, despite her lack of interest. Thatz a key difference.
On Parth - I understand the point about boundaries. Ideally no one should interfere in a husband-wife argument. But in a joint family setup, especially when discussions are happening openly that impact everyone, it is a bit unrealistic to expect complete non interference. These are no longer private disagreements , they affect the entire household structure, so people stepping in is quite natural, even if not always ideal.
And lastly on the whole “21st century” argument
Yes, if a man genuinely wants to stay back, raise children, and the wife is the primary provider, there is nothing wrong with that in principle and this is my personal opinion this ghar jamai concept will oncly work in rich households.
On a personal note as a woman I would find it difficult to accept a partner who is not willing to work or contribute in some form. I know how much a woman’s body and mind go through pregnancy, childbirth, recovery, and then raising a child. In that phase, emotional and financial stability becomes extremely important.
You never really know how dynamics will change once a child comes into the picture. What is the backup I can rely on if my partner isn’t working? How will we manage finances, raise the child, and ensure long term security? These are not small concerns , they directly impact both the mother and the child.
In theory, role reversal sounds progressive - but in practical terms, especially in middle-class households, sustainability matters a lot. Today’s cost of living, education, and general life expenses usually require both partners to contribute in some way.
So I may sound old school saying this, but I’m just being practical especially from a middle class perspective where stability, planning, and shared responsibility are crucial.
So overall, my issue is not with concepts like rights, ghar jamai, or role reversal - it’s specifically with Dev’s intent and how he’s approaching the situation, especially when Saloni herself is not on board.
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