Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2 - EDT #10 - Page 13

Originally posted by: SlatePencil

I am glad Gautam called out Mihir for staying with Noyona. Other kids of Mihir never questioned Mihir about his relation with Noyona and are okay with Noyona staying in SN. They be like pappa unki gf aur mummy sab saath mein rahenge, what is the big deal

Originally posted by: The_Best

For TuHir, Dayan Pari is the best. Today Hemant was also calling her crimes as just mistakes like Tulsi was doing all these days. Blind love. Both even said that she got punished for her mistakes, but when did she ever get punished?? First of all those weren’t mistakes. She committed multiple crimes. She never got punished. How Ranvijay turned out to be is her karma, but she never got punished for her crimes. If Ranvijay had turned out to be good, she would’ve never even remembered Tulsi or cared about her. She still hasn’t confessed what she did to Tulsi/TuHir. She’s still hiding those kaands

Exactly the makers are deliberately trying to keep Pari central and make her positive.

Purposely getting a family jailed for something they haven't done is anything but a mistake...

Shobha was chided much more than what was done to Pari for just selecting a boy from the enemy family

Originally posted by: FlauntPessimism

Did he post about it?

seems TRP topper hue to they got more money to spare

hopefully he is here for long with a proper track and not 2 scenes

Originally posted by: The_Best

I wonder if Pari more loved because she’s the youngest child? Or is it because she’s a girl?

it is because she is a girl

because the makers want stories to revolve around females and she is the female closest to Tulsi

Originally posted by: The_Best

He told one fan

any link for it ..

Originally posted by: FlauntPessimism

it is because she is a girl

because the makers want stories to revolve around females and she is the female closest to Tulsi

Originally posted by: FlauntPessimism

any link for it ..

Originally posted by: EkPaheli

Bingo.

Gautam was never selfless enough as everyone expected him to be as the eldest son of the family. He was more self-centred than Karan. Gautam expected the respect and responsibilities of the elder son that he felt were owed to him by his birth but he forgot that they demanded certain sacrifices as well, that as the one who is supposed to effectively take over are required to make. And in a family set up it’s not just about the son but his wife as well. Imagine if you have a son like Karan willing to give it his all but his wife is someone say like a Tripti or a Mittali… it can never work.

That’s why Mihir knew when he was the eldest son of the family tasked with keeping the family together in the future, he needed to be there for EVERYONE… and that meant his wife needed to share his responsibilities too. She couldn’t be like Payal who wouldn’t bother to turn up when his cousin has just tried to kill himself. Worse, who would head to a parlour before turning up the next day too to get her hair, mani-pedi and facial done as she’d a prior booking and she couldn’t let it go to waste or reschedule it.

That’s what attracted him to Tulsi in the first place. He saw how she was so attuned to his family and cared for them. He saw her there being selflessly for everyone he loved. People forget marriage is not just about living a life with someone who you find attractive and are in love with - it’s also about having to share your life with someone with whom you share your values, aspirations and with whom you wish to create a family one day wherein you hope to pass down the same values as those passed onto you by your parents and grandparents.

Tulsi had those values that Mihir was looking for, that he had been raised with.

Gautam never stepped up for those kind of responsibilities either. Damini was not as dynamic and had more of a follower mentality than that of a leader too. Ergo, they never matched up.

Tulsi picked Ganga as her successor amongst the bahus not just because she was the first one to step into SN but because she knew Ganga was headstrong while also being balanced and calm. Nandini had anger issues and couldn’t be picked for that. Mohini was too selfish.

Mihir and even before him Mansukh picked Karan as their successor because they saw him as worthy enough to ensure the family business stays intact and thrives under his vision.

Ideally this should have created a conflict between the family with one son taking over the professional reigns while his wife was not given charge at home, but Nandini to her credit had the grace to at least work with Ganga and respect her decisions which is what mattered. Moreover, Ganga and Karan had truly one of the best friendships and mutual understanding between the two as a platonic pair on the show. It didn’t matter to Ganga that Karan was picked over her husband either because she recognised his abilities and didn’t feel it was a slight to Saahil she should take affront of either.

Gautam couldn’t be calm and level headed when it came to business and was too selfish, hotheaded and arrogant to be the to take charge at home.

The thing that however differentiates him from Pari as a character and makes all his flaws tolerable is that Sumeet as an actor was able to sell the angst well, moreover we saw his upbringing was responsible for his mentality. Tulsi didn’t discriminate against her own sons because she was trying to keep Mihir happy by loving Karan more - he just somehow happened to be the son who would have all the values she wanted in her child.

Amongst Tulsi’s three oldest sons, coincidentally neither was raised by her be it Gautam, Karan or Ansh. Karan doesn’t even share her blood… but his temperament, mentality and attitude towards family ended up being the most aligned with Tulsi somehow. Add to that the respect he gave her, the way he never abandoned her in any crises and could be counted upon to hear and support at least even if not solve the problem clinched the deal.

Parents are often accused of having a favourite child by their other children but hardly is the mindset behind that favouritism analysed. Parents are humans too and are prone to be more close to the person they can rely on even when it comes to their children not just amongst friends and family.

If that child becomes their favourite it’s not bias born out of some prejudice always - an undeserved privilege, at least not in most cases while there certainly can be exceptions, mostly, it’s a parent saying when I am about to crash and burn, this child of mine is there for me. Hence, I prefer them.

Parents can’t say that bitter truth because they don’t want to hurt their other children more and further antagonise them towards their sibling.

Most people come to this realisation when they sail in the same boat as their parents and end up having a favourite child of their own too be it a son or a daughter, be it the oldest, or the youngest or somewhere in between. The gender and birth order is irrelevant to this conversation because it’s not about who came first - as Gautam’s grudge is - but who showed up first always.

Explained pretty well. Karan wasn't the favourite of Tulsi, he became the favourite of Tulsi.

By handling her over the Mandira investment he had built solely by his efforts and money without Virani support. Contrast this to Gautam who wanted to have the family money (generational wealth) in which he had little to no contribution in creation. Not saying Gautam was wrong in fighting for what was his, I am just highlighting the contrast and expectations Tulsi had from her children.

By giving everything possible to ensure Tulsi isn't punished for kiIIing Ansh or Savita by understanding her POV when the family was against her

By handling the business and ensuring family doesn't fall upon when Mihir and family was on a very docile turn after Tulsi was imprisoned in Ansh' case .

By fighting for Shobha and Vishal against Abhishek (while Gautam was supporting Abhishek). Even before there was a scene before Vishal's death when he says that he can only trust Karan now.. Why would Vishal have any soft corner for Karan? They hardly interacted but Vishal had seen how much Karan cared for Shobha and could have done anything for her and thereby him. Not many people remember but Karan had gone to Switzerland not following Ansh Nandani but because he got a clue that Vishal would be in danger. Even out of the family, he kept tabs on all the family members.

By risking his life and entering Aditya Gujral's terrain (and Aditya never actually liked Karan) just so as to free Gautam.

Gautam wasn't selfless as Karan. and imp there is nothing wrong in that. He had suffered a lot as a kid and wanted to get everything that was taken away from him. But then Tuhir had a different expectation from their eldest son.. They wanted the eldest son to be someone who can be as selfless as possible. So naturally they started having Karan take all the responsibilities (I doubt even he has any shares, he too started his business that excelled, and Ba's property to Parth was only for him to hand over to Tulsi)

Aside Gautam never had the business acumen that Karan had.. nor the leadership quality. He always remained a supporter or a follower when in came to taking business actions.. He wasn't a good judge of people either to have selected Kabir and Kamya.

Now Gautam has a resentment on why he isn't the same important as Karan.

Saying that Gautam was right. if my son doesn't reply to my phone call after me calling him 10 times and doesn't even call back, my first step would be to find out where he is. I wouldn't ignore him. It was stupid of Gautam to compare that part with what would Tulsi do in case Karan was in his place but that what he implied was completely right

Aside I admire that he isn't bitter towards Pari Hritik and Angad, he knows they are too young to have any issues against them, but Karan was his actual competition and he sees family treating him over the eldest son...

Originally posted by: The_Best

By girl I mean because she a daughter as many parents are more protective of their daughters than their sons

I understood what you meant.

But I gave the actual reason. it was simply that she is a girl and makers want a Tulsi ki parchai in this show.

Shobha doesn't fit that block now

Originally posted by: The_Best

Angad annoys me for not taking accountability for his share of mistakes, but he didn’t do those intentionally unlike Pari who not only made many mistakes but huge wrongs and crimes. Part of me wishes she loses her child for sometime, but I doubt makers will show that as she’s their favorite. Next they will show how Ajay still likes her and she will get her happy ending 🥴

Judge should ask Garima with whom she wants to stay. No kid deserves to stay with such a monster even for a second.