As long as there are good romance scenes, a couple is acceptable? - Page 12

Originally posted by: Aadi04

I am older .. I did not like Animal or Kabir Singh .. and I don’t endorse such kind of toxic partners ( male female ) for anyone

We over play male toxicity but I see more cases of females being toxic , schizophrenic and destroying families

if you see a redflag .. and if there are no children involved please walk out for your mental wellbeing

just to be someone’s therapist in the name of love can destroy your life ..and you end up being just as bitter n toxic .

the days are getting tougher …please remove your rosy glasses and look ahead .. romance only looks good on tv .. in reality you prefer having a boring but sane partner in your life


So save all your romance for 🥤 in tv .. don’t search for it in reality life settle with someone you trust and who shares your interests .. and is similar in your family status

marrying too high or low also creates a lot of problems

I wrote all that in my previous comments, that they have rightfully ignored that and moved on to write their own.

Originally posted by: theromanticcrap

I wrote all that in my previous comments, that they have rightfully ignored that and moved on to write their own.

I only read the one you tagged me .. and I am in office right now

Originally posted by: theromanticcrap

If you're a 15 y/o then that's the responsibility of their parents, not yours. They are young and young minds should be taught well by their parents. If someone is an irresponsible parent, then it speaks of their parenting. I can't say anything about that. Animal also was 18+. I wasn't allowed into the theatre until I had given my passport for proof. If some kid is forging documents and still going to watch, that shows on their parents. If they are watching on Netflix, then again it's on parents and not me or you. Have better parental controls, maybe? I don't watch south movies, so I don't know the effect south media has on kids there. I'm a north Indian.

P.S.: Also, please don’t come at me without properly reading and understanding my comment. I’m not defending these things—I’m simply sharing my opinion, which I have every right to express.

In earlier gen nobody took itv seriously. Even i have watched many shows where there were more red flags and never felt they were problematic as never treated it as real life.

But now a days after interacting and observing rishta fans i realize ppl do treat some shows are giving moral lessons. And since these ppl interact with others in the same topic on daily basis where as when we were kids we used to watch and forget. But now a days due to social media ppl tend to reacall every scene and discuss which can actually make them believe what happened in the show is right thing to do. Which can really harm the society and more than the show i have major concern how future gen gonna learn from these stupid shows.

Since i have only watched gen 3 my examples majorly will have referrences to that.

1. will any family member risk other family members for life to save any stranger ? - No either they try to save both or prioritize family member.

2. Will anyone marry to give random fatherji instead of going back to their mayka which loves them ? - No they will keep in touch with family and establish themselves and fall in love again and get married.

3. Will anyone punish father of the child by replacing father unless that woman is evil to punish the her ex husband? - No a sane woman would ensure that she will never go back to her ex but will never punish a father for husband's mistake. Here it was done by fl herself.

All things really will impact these kids mindset who will think it's okay to do something terrible and cut off your ex from your child's life. I have seen people justifying all these things just to say FL is always right.

Not pointing fingers at you. Just wanted to share my experience when i was observing rishta fandom.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

isn't it too much for parents to control. How parents can be present anywhere. Kids may watch in the school. I personally interacted with rishta fans who are 12 years old who come and argue that taking away fatherly rights from a man is correct as he is a bad husband. These kids will learn the same thing from these tv serials and implement in their life. Move on divorce seperate is not a big concern but normalizing paternity fraud, torturing father of a child just because he was bad husband to a woman who never was a good wife in first place was never good teaching. Gen 3 was just an example.

In earlier gen nobody took itv seriously. Even i have watched many shows where there were more red flags and never felt they were problematic as never treated it as real life.

But now a days after interacting and observing rishta fans i realize ppl do treat some shows are giving moral lessons. And since these ppl interact with others in the same topic on daily basis where as when we were kids we used to watch and forget. But now a days due to social media ppl tend to reacall every scene and discuss which can actually make them believe what happened in the show is right thing to do. Which can really harm the society and more than the show i have major concern how future gen gonna learn from these stupid shows.

Since i have only watched gen 3 my examples majorly will have referrences to that.

1. will any family member risk other family members for life to save any stranger ? - No either they try to save both or prioritize family member.

2. Will anyone marry to give random fatherji instead of going back to their mayka which loves them ? - No they will keep in touch with family and establish themselves and fall in love again and get married.

3. Will anyone punish father of the child by replacing father unless that woman is evil to punish the her ex husband? - No a sane woman would ensure that she will never go back to her ex but will never punish a father for husband's mistake. Here it was done by fl herself.

All things really will impact these kids mindset who will think it's okay to do something terrible and cut off your ex from your child's life. I have seen people justifying all these things just to say FL is always right.

Not pointing fingers at you. Just wanted to share my experience when i was observing rishta fandom.

I understand your concerns about how TV shows and social media influence young minds, but I think the issue is more complex than just blaming a show or its fandom. Media has always reflected and sometimes exaggerated societal issues, but it's ultimately up to individuals and their upbringing to differentiate fiction from reality.

Your argument assumes that kids are blindly absorbing everything from TV and applying it in real life without critical thinking. But the same can be said about many forms of entertainment*—movies, books, and even mythological stories have morally gray characters and complex narratives. Do we ban everything just because a fraction of the audience misinterprets it?

Instead of worrying about what kids are watching, the bigger responsibility lies with parents and society in guiding them on critical thinking. The issue isn't the show itself but how media literacy is taught. Kids today have access to far more content than just Indian TV serials—are we saying they will copy everything they see? Or should we encourage them to engage in discussions where they learn to analyze rather than just absorb?

P.S.: Let's not bring Gen 3 into every conversation. That part of the show is over, and since I wasn't an avid viewer of that generation, I can't comment on it.

*A cousin of mine is really into dark comedy. He’s only 14-15 and has been watching it on YouTube for a long time. So what now? Should we blame all the YouTubers for it? Should we ban every content creator just because some of them use slang while discussing certain topics? Or is it the responsibility of parents to monitor what their child is consuming online?

I get that parents can’t be present 24/7, but they can still take steps to regulate content—using parental controls, setting restrictions, and being actively involved in their child’s digital habits. Instead of handing over smartphones without oversight, shouldn't parents be more mindful of what their kids are watching rather than being glued to their own screens?

My parents were both working, yet they still made sure to monitor my internet usage. Certain things were off-limits for me, and they actively taught me the difference between right and wrong. So why can’t parents today do the same?

Yes i do agree that even ott and other medium will influence things. But i feel tv should have more kids friendly content than these apps. As tv is watched by entire family. Parents can not control if grandparents watch a particular show and childrens accompanyi them.

Ott and movies only comes into picture if kids have subscription and mobiles are configured to access them. This can be controlled to some extent by parents.

Nobody is blaming a particular fandom or fans. It's on creators who tries to normalize things that are not normal.

Originally posted by: theromanticcrap

No, I don’t find that it’s glorification. I’m in my early twenties, and I know the difference between red flags and green flags. The issue isn’t just what’s shown—it’s how people perceive it. I can watch a movie like Animal, dislike it, and criticize it. Do I think it was necessary? Not really. But it’s being made, and curious people like you and me will watch it. That doesn’t mean I’m going to glorify the characters’ behavior or replicate it in my own life.

We live in a world full of the good, the bad, and the grey. It’s up to us to have the wisdom to choose what’s best for us. At the end of the day, you decide how to take what you see—whether to learn from it (like realizing what you don’t want in a relationship) or to just go along with it mindlessly.

Also, not everyone might relate to this, but people do end up choosing the wrong partners. But some also grow. Watching flawed relationships play out in fiction might actually make someone reflect and change their own attitude toward love and partnership. No relationship is perfect, and no person is a complete ‘green flag’ or a ‘green forest’—those only exist in Instagram reels. If you expect pure green flags in a relationship, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

People reveal new sides of themselves over time—sometimes even sides they weren’t aware of. At some point, even the most ‘perfect’ partner might show a darker side. That doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed, but it does mean that relationships require understanding, patience, and growth from both sides.

I completely agree with this .

The problem with the movie kabir sing is that the fl was meek . But then don't the meek want somebody strong to protect them ? That's why , may be , girls liked it ..everyone likes power , they don't want the power to be used on them that's another thing...the most troubling part is they romanticed aggression & violence ...in today's times kisi ko samajh hi nai aa raha that aggression is not the way to handle one's emotions ..I just keep questioning those who liked such movies & came to this conclusion.

There are no red flags or green flag ppl , on itv or ott or movies or in real, there are only gray ppl. But that doesn't mean every kind of behavior is acceptable (falling into mistake and redemption cycle like in gen 4 ) ..like you said it means more understanding & patience ...my issue with the leads has more to do with their dealings with family rather than they themselves ..

This conversation will be one sided bec everyone is judging arman but for me abhira is also a red flag who is created to suffer ..she is more obsessed with vidya than arman himself. She is more obsessed with family than the family people . So when two people are in a relationship , both their actions/ reactions decide the outcome isn't it ? And outcome will never be positive for them . So in the end ho yahi raha hai ke whether arman is a red flag or green or abhira is red or green , they're suffering . Matlab something they're doing isn't right.

I think this kind of content stimulates us into thinking what we should NOT be doing ..afterall every story on itv and each character , no matter how green they are , are they immune to suffering?

Now , why such content is created ? Bec there are takers for such content . I've been watching Korean and Chinese shows frm the last 2 yrs & there the mls and fls are strong and independent .I just love to watch it..simple fantasy love stories... we will find the greenest of flags there . Does that mean we can find such men ? Ek bhi nai milega 🤣 not even 1. it will create another kind of problem if we follow that pattern on itv (although I don't mind it in right degree ) . Setting the bar too high is also a problem bec such expectations are unrealistic.

Do young minds get influenced ? Yes they do but this is not the only medium. It's the good 20 yrs of their life , they perceive it as they experience it . They may dream of asr or rk or animal type hero but 20 secs of Darshan will bring them bk to senses . This is called coming face to face with reality . The more they're exposed to the world The more practical one becomes & the influence of media automatically gets decreased. At the end of the day they are bound to absorb both the positive and negative . Their own wisdom will help them be a better person ..

Max part of the problem here is "long running shows " bec they are guaranteed to take that route which we don't like . And the channel won't end it till the time trp drops.

When did I say that you aren’t allowed to express your opinion? Whether parents are doing a proper job or not is not the matter. And parents can’t filter through everything when everything is free and easy on the internet. And they can’t do so beyond a certain age. The issue is showing the wrong things but glossing over it and not highlighting the repercussions is glorification. That is the problem. It is clearly an issue when young people can accept a red flag couple because they look hot. When they think a red flag person can be changed because the media glorifies it (in the context of YRKKH). There is a difference between a flawed person and a red flag of a life partner.

If you didn’t realise, dismissing regressive things just as entertainment is defending it. Especially when there are real world repercussions.

Originally posted by: theromanticcrap

If you're a 15 y/o then that's the responsibility of their parents, not yours. They are young and young minds should be taught well by their parents. If someone is an irresponsible parent, then it speaks of their parenting. I can't say anything about that. Animal also was 18+. I wasn't allowed into the theatre until I had given my passport for proof. If some kid is forging documents and still going to watch, that shows on their parents. If they are watching on Netflix, then again it's on parents and not me or you. Have better parental controls, maybe? I don't watch south movies, so I don't know the effect south media has on kids there. I'm a north Indian.

P.S.: Also, please don’t come at me without properly reading and understanding my comment. I’m not defending these things—I’m simply sharing my opinion, which I have every right to express.

Originally posted by: Phir_Mohabbat

Those who says entertainment don't hamper people are staying in some utopia imo.

Especially Indians are so dehati they will do all kinda shit watching serials and movies. Eg some dude in australia stalked a woman and then justified it saying Hindi movies normalised that. We have all sorts of alpha sigma bs thanks to kabir singh, animal, tere naam etc. major south Indian movies have women no role or they fall for shitty men after they behave rudely. Entire generation is going to shit thanks to our media.

Serials are looked down by majority people like you share with your friends co workers you watch this show you will see judgement in their eyes. And for correct reasons have you seen the serials they show? For a female dominated industry it thrives on sadism.

So true kabir Singh animal I have had some say such possessive behaviour is normal ..I was aghast..my older bro told me he did not watch ..he monitors the content his 14 and 11 year old watch and me my 7 year old

Originally posted by: Aadi04

I am older .. I did not like Animal or Kabir Singh .. and I don’t endorse such kind of toxic partners ( male female ) for anyone

We over play male toxicity but I see more cases of females being toxic , schizophrenic and destroying families

if you see a redflag .. and if there are no children involved please walk out for your mental wellbeing

just to be someone’s therapist in the name of love can destroy your life ..and you end up being just as bitter n toxic .

the days are getting tougher …please remove your rosy glasses and look ahead .. romance only looks good on tv .. in reality you prefer having a boring but sane partner in your life


So save all your romance for 🥤 in tv .. don’t search for it in reality life settle with someone you trust and who shares your interests .. and is similar in your family status and also from your community

marrying too high or low also creates a lot of problems

I just said this line to my niece - passion sounds good..but joy that steady maybe boring to others partner brings is so much joy ..

who respects u , listen to your opinion , if if he disagree is civil about it ..no controlling behaviour

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

isn't it too much for parents to control. How parents can be present anywhere. Kids may watch in the school. I personally interacted with rishta fans who are 12 years old who come and argue that taking away fatherly rights from a man is correct as he is a bad husband. These kids will learn the same thing from these tv serials and implement in their life. Move on divorce seperate is not a big concern but normalizing paternity fraud, torturing father of a child just because he was bad husband to a woman who never was a good wife in first place was never good teaching. Gen 3 was just an example.

In earlier gen nobody took itv seriously. Even i have watched many shows where there were more red flags and never felt they were problematic as never treated it as real life.

But now a days after interacting and observing rishta fans i realize ppl do treat some shows are giving moral lessons. And since these ppl interact with others in the same topic on daily basis where as when we were kids we used to watch and forget. But now a days due to social media ppl tend to reacall every scene and discuss which can actually make them believe what happened in the show is right thing to do. Which can really harm the society and more than the show i have major concern how future gen gonna learn from these stupid shows.

Since i have only watched gen 3 my examples majorly will have referrences to that.

1. will any family member risk other family members for life to save any stranger ? - No either they try to save both or prioritize family member.

2. Will anyone marry to give random fatherji instead of going back to their mayka which loves them ? - No they will keep in touch with family and establish themselves and fall in love again and get married.

3. Will anyone punish father of the child by replacing father unless that woman is evil to punish the her ex husband? - No a sane woman would ensure that she will never go back to her ex but will never punish a father for husband's mistake. Here it was done by fl herself.

All things really will impact these kids mindset who will think it's okay to do something terrible and cut off your ex from your child's life. I have seen people justifying all these things just to say FL is always right.

Not pointing fingers at you. Just wanted to share my experience when i was observing rishta fandom.

Form ipknnd my exp is peep find over possessive behaviour romantic 😡

Justify everything ml did in serials like madhubala 😭😭😭

It does subtly influence, many in extd have told one should have patience like upma aunty..and like doormat behaviour..even my amma sometimes..it irks me ..some peep saying it's out of love ..no boundaries are drawn in insulting, destroying career 😡😭 ..just coz the person cried is that person forgiven ..yaar some communication should have been der a proper apology..peep get away with lot of grey stuff in name of love

I am a professor so I do interact with lot of kids ..some of the stuff i hear scares me ..some kids parents work so no one monitors after 14 years 😭..some kids excessive pressure yet they find ways of watching 🙈

But each to his own..my opinion is usually formed by my exp in life and

I am sometimes called boring coz I am very steady and take time to think and decide and stick to it

Yrkhh is my guilty pleasure and kinda habit..

Plus I love interacting with peep, due to a post surgery recovery I can't travel or hang out much until March end .

I work mostly from home , i teach accounting icse 10, 11, 12 and Bba , micro economics bba and management accounting online . Coz uni is in Dubai and I do not want to shift base