Vira, I meant to respond to one of your posts criticising J's tone and harsh language when reprimanding Ani and thats what causes him to be not able to see the issue and do better.
I actually think J uses these harsh words, to trigger this very same reaction in Ani, not to make him understand her. When she does this kind of insult, she is needling Ani into reacting out of anger. She used this again yesterday to send him back to Arshi, as that was the right thing to do. I really dont think she is as mad or upset as she wanted him to think she is. She loves the guy and will never do this intentionally. Both in BH house and yesterday, she followed up her tirade with sorry - but I had to do this. Her anger is not because of her emotions, its her in control and sending him back because in public he is committed to Arshi and what he is doing is morally wrong
Hmmm I am trying to think back if this is how I read the interplay earlier and has anything changed? thd problem in answering this one way or the other is too much jerkiness in dialogues as sometimes the dialogue writer and screenplay writer arenโt in sync and only the person who has written the vision document can tell the difference.
I read J in the earlier stage to be genuinely apologetic about her situation and the moral angle was confounding her conflict further. She wanted to go away but that didnโt happen and she kinda kept looking for ways to leave. However, around this time things started to started to change in slow and subtle ways. Her understanding that even if exasperating Sirjee was doing a lot to keep her safe. Their relationship at this stage was undergoing the most change in really subtle ways. In recent memory, that phase was beautifully handled by the writers when people irrespective of sensibilities got sucked into the story. Itโs in this phase and started rooting for it. As things moved along, J subconsciously started to attach significance to the rite of marriage even while refuting it and simultaneously finding ways to leave BH. Yet, her attachment grew in inverse proportion to her attempts to get out of this relationship. A gridlock was reached. I also believe Jhanak fell in love with Ani far before he did and realised it too much earlier than Ani. In the sense that Ani was getting attached to Jhanak on an everyday basis very strongly but he wasnโt questioning it and subconsciously he was at that stage of โI donโt think Jhanak feels this wayโ . This is also why he used to compartmentalise his feelings zimmedaari and pyaar. The thing is Ani and Jhanak approached the moral conflict through a different lens and therefore they dealt with it differently. Sometimes I think if Ani had realised his feelings earlier, he may have time to resolve the conflict in better ways but his realisation was late and pretty sudden in coming so the do naav persisted as well and then became reality. Also if his approach to the moral conflict was like J, this story could have spun into a different direction
Coming back to whether J used those words to get him to stop acting recklessly.. I do think yes she did but not before she tried to seek answers to it. The thing is when Ani was showing signs of getting attached to her ( even when he wasnโt in love with her) J recognised it and which is why she used to ask him leading questions. Her questions were leading ones and meant to disturb him but Ani being Ani his responses were about zimmedaari etc so in a way, that meant there was no future in that bond. So Jhanak was always wary of attaching hopes where none existed and later when she clearly recognised that Ani was falling for her, it was too late and the messiness would have only increased so she kept up the facade strongly. In these instances, initially she used anger, later when they fell into an easy phase feigned ignorance when Ani asked leading questions.
Itโs actually fun to bring different perspectives to the way these episodes could be read. I donโt know if I offered a perspective or I was rambling ๐๐
It's like 3 am here rn. I am wide awake, my sleep cycle totally messed up lol. 
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