Aadhya, Shruthi and Anuj are cut from the same cloth - Page 8

Maaya ne jub maafi maangi bhi nahi thi tub bhi choti ne maaya ko maaf kar diya tha that is why choti show so much concern to maaya when maaya try to stop anuj going to Ahmedabad and maaya get hurt

Choti know very well why maaya bring choti to Mumbai but still she show concern to maaya because she maaya Is her real mother

Aur kis baat ko maafi maange anupama choti se because anupama save Pari first ?

Jhagda pehle choti ne kiya hai Bina baat ke to maafi to choti ko maagne chahiye choti ne Bina Matlab anupama se battamji ki hai when anupama save life of choti

Choti ne Bina wajah anupama pe blame us par jhootha blame lagaya

Aadhya is jealous selfish person amd this is fact

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

Maaf unhe kiya jaata hai jinko apni galti ka ehsaas hota hai, Maya ne ro ro kar maafi maangi thi, Choti se bhi aur Anuj Anupamaa se bhi, Anupama ko to aaj tak lagta hi nahi ki usne koi galti ki hai, ulta Anuj aur Aadhya ko guilt trip par bhej deti hai aur kehti hai aapki khusi ke liye chod kar gayi thi, aap log mere saath khus nahi the, to fir maafi kis baat ki jab Anupama hai hi itni mahaan?

Rahi baat Vanraj aur Shahs ke Maa ko rok kar rakhne ki, to Anupama koi goongi gudiya nahi hai, kainchi jaisi lambi zubaan hai uski bhi, kaise Aadhya aur Anuj lo chodkar nikal gayi, unko kehti hai mujhe riston mein nahi ulajhna!

To yehi baat Shahs ko kehte waqt kya muh mein dahi jam jata hai?

Simple hai, kehna hi nahi chahti, kyonki wo Shahs ko hi apna sagga maanti hai, wo hi uska asli parivar hai, hypocrite and dogli hai Anupamaa !

oh well!! Going in circles , round and round.

Let us look at it another way, when one tries to victimize Anupama (the titular character) for everything that happens in her life, one is actually accepting that Anupama, a middle aged woman, who has life experiences, did nothing in and for her life.

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

Spot on! I don’t get it when someone says Shahs wanted her to come solve problems or bapuji asked her to stay back etc , etc. Why can’t she say No to them? She cannot and will not say “No” because that is what she wants too. And then the next one is going to be -Anuj ne khud …

oh well!! Going in circles , round and round.

Arey that chameleon is very chaalu. Her Baa Bhagwaan didn’t want her to divorce Vanraj, she didn’t want her to remarry. Tab to unhe naa bol diya

I heard Anuj going to die is it true ??

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

The makers have a unique way of re-creating situations and scenes with contrasting characters.

Maaya sacrificing herself to save Anupama and Samar for Anuj.

If there was a Leela, there was a Barkha and Malati Devi.

In ALL, one thing is evident, the difference in treatment and outcome.

Vanraj running on the day of his marriage to Kavya, being brought back reluctantly by Anupama to marry. Anupama staying in the same house as her ex even after him re-marrying and being involved in the love-hate-love issues in their marriage.

Anupama marrying Anuj from Shah House, Vanraj being coerced to be part of the celebrations and Anupama, in many ways, showing how integral a part she continues to be in the Shah Household.

Even now, her over indulgence in Shah pariwaar and her banters with Vanraj is similar.

So, if one is wrong, inappropriate, so is the other.

Calling one wrong does not mean everyone else on the show is right. My post was about Shrew, Anuj and Aadhya, the happy family to be, it was about the hunky dory all will be bliss family ;)

If we were to talk about all those other characters, yes, everyone one of them is flawed, perhaps not Samar and Anupama’s brother.

Originally posted by: Harish111

She was abandoned as a little kid. Trauma builds from childhood. And any psychiatrist will tell you that abused and abandoned kids act out for attention.

Her behavior is reminiscent of someone having trauma and it's very very common with kids and teens who went through abandonment. She was a well behaved child but had trauma and underwent this change. Her behavior is a direct result of Anupama's action.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/abandonment-issues#:~:text=People with abandonment issues may,person may act without thinking.

From the above link

People with abandonment issues may develop harmful communication techniques to ease their anxiety.

For example, they may engage in attention-seeking behavior to get the love they feel they might lose. This may also have associations with impulsivity, where a person may act without thinking

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This is one of the things the writers have got 100% right, she is acting up as now she is scared of losing her dad.

Yes, Aadhya was abandoned by her mother, she probably feels unloved and unwanted, being rejected by a parent is a big deal to any child.

All that is a given. But if no effort is made to address the situation (granted Aadhya received some perfunctory therapy, shouldn’t that be re-started given she is acting up?) to keep the trigger far from her by both father and soon to be step mom then they should at least find some sort of closure for the girl by asking Anupama to go to joint sessions with Aadhya, otherwise it is remiss of the adults involved in her care. Maybe making Aadhya go to therapy with her mom would give her an opportunity to vent and express her angst and would give Anupama the chance to explain to Aadhya that she is not unloved.

Whatever the outcome whether Anuj marries Shrew or remains single or marries Anupama again, Aadhya’s issue cannot be ignored. That said if the girl is not able to cope and has these outbursts against people who are not Anupama (bapuji and the rest of the Shah household) that is not kosher either. It should be treated as a red flag and attended to asap before Aadhya gets worse. Barka’s step son (forget that boy’s name), he had issues but he was not handled with kid gloves. Sometimes tough love is good.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Calling one wrong does not mean everyone else on the show is right. My post was about Shrew, Anuj and Aadhya, the happy family to be, it was about the hunky dory all will be bliss family ;)

If we were to talk about all those other characters, yes, everyone one of them is flawed, perhaps not Samar and Anupama’s brother.

Well, in that case, the similar incidents or sequences of the past are still passed off (not even acknowledged as issues) while these were isolated, isn't it?

As for the happy family, this show makes a joke of it.

Atleast here, the trio put in efforts to build a (if not a family) unit, brick by brick, rising out of their past horrors. We ALL know how this will end but atleast these characters put in efforts to build a unit rising above the horrors of the past only to relapse on encountering their past fears.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

All that is a given. But if no effort is made to address the situation (granted Aadhya received some perfunctory therapy, shouldn’t that be re-started given she is acting up?) to keep the trigger far from her by both father and soon to be step mom then they should at least find some sort of closure for the girl by asking Anupama to go to joint sessions with Aadhya, otherwise it is remiss of the adults involved in her care. Maybe making Aadhya go to therapy with her mom would give her an opportunity to vent and express her angst and would give Anupama the chance to explain to Aadhya that she is not unloved.

Have you ever wondered that Anupama is the one who needs Therapy the most? Is her behavior normal?

She being the abuse victim for 26 yrs, keeps serving them till date, after 8-9 yrs of divorce?
She is humiliated on an everyday basis, but goes to the same man for emotional talks?

Doesn’t know how to say No to Shahs because she likes to please them by cooking for them, doing all house duties, ‘she thinks’ they cannot survive without her! She still looks for their validation.

Every couple has differences, sometimes they will fight, won’t talk for days, but does someone walk away like Anupama did especially when you have a small daughter, just because he questioned her priorities, rightly so?

She gets panic attacks, becomes restless when it comes to Shahs, she would cry rivers when they ask her to leave and come back very next day with some excuse, would keep talking excitedly about her past life and Ex Husband with her 2nd one in their bedroom? She would happily cook for a family of 10-15 people also doing all other work, no one cares she is 55 and should get help, or she should not be doing all this, why the over attachment?

Her kids keep cursing her, sent her to jail, call her manhoos, kalank, gold digger, characterless, etc but she happily says Maa hu Ney? What has she ever done except sayong Gadheda hey tu, to correct the behavior of her children? Infact she has shielded them in all their wrongs!

How fair is it for her to stay under the same roof as her first ex husband, even now? Kinjal and Toshu wanted a housemaid and a Nanny and not their Mummy, before Shahs came to US, still she is right in staying with them? Where is the Self Respect?
She calls all of them her family despite being thrown out yrs back with no contact whatsoever? Who needs therapy the most? Who brought Aadhya into this situation!?

Watched today’s epi and am all the more convinced that this girl, Aadhya needs either anger management classes or therapy or a big thapad. Everyone has issues and realize the girl feels her mom saved Pari first before her, it was explained to her why, she chose not to believe it and yes, as parents, Anuj and Anupama needed to have convinced her till she believed her mother. Instead Anuj himself pointed a finger at Anupama and she left them both misguidedly thinking it would be for the best. This only reiterated in Aadhya’s mind that her mom really didn’t care for her.

We all understand the back story and Aadhya’s unreasonable hatred towards Anupama. But creating a scene today at the engagement party, calling Anupama a curse and blaming the entire fiasco on her mother needed a slap. Being sympathetic towards Aadhya is one thing but giving her free rein to behave atrociously is another.

Few things I liked about today’s episode - 1. Aadhya blaming Shrew for having invited Anupama. 2. Shrew admitting that she didn’t fix Aadhya’s dress - signaled a return of the old Shruthi. 3. Ba’s unexpected kindness towards Anupama. 4. Anupama talking about other stuff other than Anuj. A man does not necessarily have to be the most important factor in a woman’s life.

Things I didn’t like - 1. Vanraj’s bakwas talk 2. Paritosh’s evil spewing as always. 3. Aadhya literally taking her dad’s hand for Shrew to put the ring on his finger - if that is not forcing, what is? Emotional blackmail until now and physically making her dad stretch out his hand today.

Anuj should be gentleman enough to call off this fiasco wedding - he cannot sacrifice Shrew’s happiness to indulge his daughter. So wrong in all aspects. Shrew should have enough self respect to walk away from this man who is so obsessed with his ex. And Aadhya needs to be told to deal with the fact her dad and Shrew are not made for each other how much ever she wants it to happen.