What Ruhi did today was wrong and indeed molesting her brother-in-law. She has crossed boundaries. I have no idea how they'll redeem her and more than that expect us to accept her whitewash but yes, today's scene was every bit disturbing when she was all clingy with him while he wasn't even aware.
To maintain distance from your harasser, you must first realise and accept that you're being harrassed and trust me, it really is not that straightforward and simple. He feels guilty for ruining her life by forcing her to marry Rohit (he did not force her, it was her decision) augmented by both Ruhi and her Badi Maa accusing him. He also believes that she is depressed and under therapy and does not know her pov except the beech ka rishta thing which he clearly refused and all her loneliness is because of him forcing her. So in all this, which decent man will assume the woman in front of him aims to legit molest him? For a girl, it is more easier to come to that conclusion, not for a guy. And he actually believes her to be good. Troubled but good.
And seriously, Ruhi had decided to marry Rohit before she even knew he was Armaan's brother. When he came to know, he obviously chose his family and she could have broken off the thing. It was her decision to marry Rohit to be close to Armaan. That was Ruhi's thought and decision as clearly told by herself to her Badi Maa. So why is he accused of forcing her??
And every time he actually takes a firm stand, she leaves the house upsetting his family, guilt tripping him or acts such that people in the family get him to apologize to her, like she is on the morally high ground. Ruhi is clearly more accepted in the house than he himself is coz she is Rohit's wife and that's really clear since the beginning.
And I don't really understand if people are not in for the journey and slow burn, why watch the show. This is not aimed at you but I just wanted to say it. He is emotionally weak and it wasn't as if people were told that he was going to be all macho and then given this.
Exactly this!!
See in our society it's not easy for men when it comes to sexual harassment. Men are perceived to be the stronger gender and people feel that a man couldn't be harassed as he is supposed to be strong. He is supposed to be invincible. And that's why men are afraid to raise their voice against physical harassment.
But it happens. It happens in office, in home, in society. And the molesters are almost always more powerful than those victims. In a office, it can be the boss or someone who has some kind of a hold over the victim, in home it's someone whose position is stronger than the victim. This is how it happens with women and that's how it happens with men too.
And when a man does dare to raise his voice, then they are laughed at, mocked at, blamed and are left bruised and traumatised. People say he should have enjoyed those moments as if consent doesn't matter, as if consent ceased to exist when it comes to men.
Armaan is one of those rare gem with a deep rooted trauma. It's not easy being in his shoes and I must say he is doing a commendable job. He is on the brink of collapse though.
Armaan knows he is getting assaulted by Ruhi but is not accepting it. You see, you can't think so low of a person whom you once loved unless and until someone from the outside shows you the reality. He is uncomfortable in her presence, he almost always ignores her and doesn't even think about her unless forced to.
On top of such grim scenarios, he is constantly guilt tripped by Ruhi. She is one kind of a person tbh. She can see the kind of pressure he is in and still like to burden him more with her nonsensical dramas. She wants to stay relevant to him so seeks him out every chance she gets and is constantly reminding him of their non existent love. Ruhi sucks the life out of Armaan.
What Armaan truly lacks is courage to deal with his personal issues, specially when it comes to Ruhi. He is slowly gaining that courage though. But he knows his position in the family is lower than Ruhi even though he is the eldest son of the house. He will get there. But just like AbhiMaan journey, this one is also a slow burn.
And yes, people need to be patience. Hell, even though I am a AbhiMaan shipper, I also lost it today for once. But from Armaan's POV, he is not really wrong. He was exhausted and slept in an uncomfortable position and needed courage which unfortunately for him and us, has been provided by that certain someone.
But all his attention was on Abhira and Abhira only. And the last dialogue was because he didn't want to discuss his personal matter with a third person. We know he considers himself as real pati of Abhira. He knows he is the real pati of Abhira. But all this is between Abhira and him. A third person has no place in it.
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