More proof Anuj needs a parenting class - Page 5

Originally posted by: LoLo

Her kids and grandchild were there; they came to her good or bad for help. Sometimes ex families are just like that. But once CA was adopted Anuj changed and his and Anupamaa’s equation changed. He showed that by living with Maya. Anupamaa should have left him with Maya and maybe she’d be living her best life! Anuj made CA the center of his life and he’s still letting her determine what decisions he makes. Sure, marry someone you don’t love because your teenage angry, disrespectful daughter says so!

Anyway tired of arguing this point. I believe Anuj and Anupamaa should never be together again and Adhya needs therapy to deal with her anger and violence. I’ll say this lastly, if Shruti makes her angry, what will she do? Push her too?🤷🏽‍♀️

Which parent in real life is so obsessed with grown up, married children? Which parents in real life keep visiting them when not wanted? In real life, we as adult married children visit our parents house, not the other way around.

No one asked her to severe ties, Anuj certainly didn't.

She should have done what any normal person does, ask her children to visit her. Not poke her nose into their lives and problems. Keep away from her abusive ex in laws, instead of serving them.

If it was only her children why did she keep serving her ex husband and ex in laws and spend so much time with them? Particularly when they were abusive towards her kid and husband

And a father has every right to love her daughter just like a mom, just because he is a guy doesn't mean he cannot have the same love. She was a kid who needed attention, of course his attention should be most on the kid. That doesn't mean a grown 45 year old woman feels jealous of their own kid. What logic is this that a father paying attention to his daughter is questioned? Let me get it straight,.it's because she is adopted right? The same regressive point again.

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Ok

That his child has been in this emotional, jealous competition with her own mother for his love, and he let these unhealthy, impractical processes fester without a clue is infuriating. Adhya is manipulative and someone who cannot see how her mother-figure would be impacted by her manipulations to get her father married off.

Teenagers are self-centred due to age and psychophysical changes, but Adhya is actively hurtful. If she doesn't get to sort herself out in adulthood that is on Anuj.

Bruh okay. So much to unpack. Anupamaa does not deserve respect as a mother. She deserves benevolent indifference as a human being. Here is a literal child emotionally manipulating her father to prove his love of her at every stage. Agar aap mujhse pyaar karte ho toh uss aurat se baat mat karo/Agar aap mujhse pyaar karte ho toh Shru se shaadi kar lo. She is literally leveraging her love as daughter to control her father's romantic life. That is not okay. That is not a sign of good parenting.

No child has to call a woman a gold-digger because of abandonment issues. She knows nothing of her parents' marriage; Upmaa was living in poverty so she hasn't seen her be mercenary post-divorce. And even if Upmaa did take alimony from Anuj; that is her right lol. No kids should have to even know of their parents' marital problems let alone harbour such caustic feelings. She makes misogynist comments on Anupamaa not for being a mother but as a woman and as a wife— of which she has seen nothing apart from the breaking up.

She can hate Upmaa as a mother with passion. She should have the safe space to say that she doesn't want her around in her life or in her family. What she cannot do is manipulate two adults into a loveless marriage. She cannot call any woman a gold-digger. That is disgusting, and a failure of a parenting to instill a moral compass.

She doesn't even care for Shruti's life. Actually, neither of them care about using Shruti and trapping her in a loveless marriage for their selfish needs. All Anuj needed to do was tell the kid to be a bit more balanced and that they would need time to move on from Upmaa — both as a family unit and as individuals. Par nahi main chhote bacchon ko promise karunga on how I will lead my romantic life and use a perfectly nice woman to deal with the same child while I obsess over my failed marriage.

Anuj literally pining for his ex while engaged to another woman while Upmaa geing shamed for having feels for her adult chirren. None of whom were realistically old enough to get married. Loooool

what anuj needed was few hard core slaps by his adopted mom and dad at 19 years or 21 years when he was saying meri anu meri anu after her marraige also

that would have saved from destroying malvika and kapadiya family and adhya life

sometimes what no one can teach a parents or teachers few slaps and hard core truths can set right

if anuj obsession had ended at 21-22 years than many lives would not have destroyed like malvika, CA, shruti now and anuj himself or GK kaka and ankush, sara, adhik, malati devi all would be happy as family

May be anuj would have married by 25-30 had own wife and kids and not gone around obsessed meri anu meri anu till 55 years

Anuj never became a responsible family man even till 55 years never bothered about malvika, gk kaka, CA or anyone only meri anu meri anu obsession

This anuj needs few hard core slaps only from some elder family and to put sense in his non existence brain

anupama is the clever one among both she knows her priority right never left vanraj or shahs ever even after 5 year vanvas ran back to toshu house

Also, Maya was hitting on Anuj, had confessed her attraction/love to him. Anuj trauma dumped on his wife, abandoned her, and went on to live with Maya.

But obvs that is justifiable because a father loves a daughter. But Upmaa loves her young-adult children and interacts with their father— she is emotionally cheating on bhesssst mahn Anooooj.

Anuj is emotionally cheating on his fiance and almost ready to get her entangled in a loveless marriage because beti se pyaar karta hai.

The said beti is a minor who isn't letting her father clarify his aprehensions to his own fiancee. If Anuj ends up marrying Shruti (because beti se pyaar karta hai), that is Anupamaa's fault or the minor kid's trauma response. Anuj ya toh pathetic hai kyon ki Upmaa jaisi baggage wali aurat se pyaar kiya ya toh phir sab kucch Upmaa ki galti hai.

Because Anuj toh apni teenage bacchi aur manic-pixied fiancee ko mana kar nahi sakta. Anupamaa ne uski shaadi nahi roki hence proven she loves her abuser.

Every character is pathetic on this show but misogyny being passed off as concern for stigma against adoption is something else lol

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Also, Maya was hitting on Anuj, had confessed her attraction/love to him. Anuj trauma dumped on his wife, abandoned her, and went on to live with Maya.

Anupama was the one who invited Maya into her house and let CA go with her without discussing with Anuj. Anupama was the clear cause of this issue.

But obvs that is justifiable because a father loves a daughter. But Upmaa loves her young-adult children and interacts with their father— she is emotionally cheating on bhesssst mahn Anooooj.

Anupmaa did it FIRST. Anuj is allowed to react if his wife emotionally neglects him. In real life such husbands will usually have a real affair. And we all know how she interacts with her ex husband, by serving him, listening to his abuse, letting him abuse her current husband, spending many emotional moments with him and sharing secrets with him.

Anuj is emotionally cheating on his fiance and almost ready to get her entangled in a loveless marriage because beti se pyaar karta hai.

The said beti is a minor who isn't letting her father clarify his aprehensions to his own fiancee. If Anuj ends up marrying Shruti (because beti se pyaar karta hai), that is Anupamaa's fault or the minor kid's trauma response. Anuj ya toh pathetic hai kyon ki Upmaa jaisi baggage wali aurat se pyaar kiya ya toh phir sab kucch Upmaa ki galti hai.

Because Anuj toh apni teenage bacchi aur manic-pixied fiancee ko mana kar nahi sakta. Anupamaa ne uski shaadi nahi roki hence proven she loves her abuser.

Every character is pathetic on this show but misogyny being passed off as concern for stigma against adoption is something else lol

What misogyny? Questioning a female characters bad deed, like abandoning a little adopted child, IS NOT misogyny.

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One thing people need to understand, it always matters who did it FIRST. If person A slaps person B 10 times and then the person B gives one Slap back, no one will blame person B, it was a natural reaction.

You can point out all of Anuj's misdeeds bit they were AFTER Anupama neglected him emotionally. They are all REACTIONS to her neglect. None of it would have happened if Anupama had given attention to her marriage.

P.S. labeling anyone questioning anything a female character does as misogyny is why people don't take even serious genuine misogyny seriously. It's like the boy who cried wolf.

There is no world in which a woman abandoning a 9 year old adopted child is not evil. It's nothing compared to what Anuj or even Vanraj has ever done.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Anuj literally pining for his ex while engaged to another woman while Upmaa geing shamed for having feels for her adult chirren. None of whom were realistically old enough to get married. Loooool

Not a single person has blamed anupama for having feeling for her children. Not a single person. Anuj never did it in the show. No one did it here either.

Grown adult children can visit her anytime she wants, she doesn't need to make children excuse and then turn up for serving chai to ex husband and ex in laws. This is the only thing people have a problem with.

Nice try though.

Anuj was never a good father figure, guide to anyone

He took the worst decisions on malvika's life be it buying her bf to marrying her to an abusive man. He didn't learn from his mistakes and threw a mentally weak and highly emotional person to a man like vanraj coz mahan MAA told mishter shah ghalat ho sakte hain lekin ghatiya nahi.

Coming to CA, he SAW her being abused by baa, pakhi and others but never uttered a word

Saw her being ignored by anupama but never took stand for her.

Maa left a small child and never tried to clear her doubts (maybe she knew she was right that's why she never tried)

PS: He tried doing the same with pakhi by sponsoring her wedding to giving her the credit card (anupama had no fault in this)