More proof Anuj needs a parenting class - Page 6

Originally posted by: Harish111

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One thing people need to understand, it always matters who did it FIRST. If person A slaps person B  10 times and then the person B gives one Slap back, no one will blame person B, it was a natural reaction.

You can point out all of Anuj's misdeeds bit they were AFTER Anupama neglected him emotionally. They are all REACTIONS to her neglect. None of it would have happened if Anupama had given attention to her marriage. 

P.S. labeling anyone questioning anything a female character does as misogyny is why people don't take even serious genuine misogyny seriously. It's like the boy who cried wolf.

There is no world in which a woman abandoning a 9 year old adopted child is not evil. It's nothing compared to what Anuj or even Vanraj has ever done. 

Maya was Adhya's biological mother. The Kapadias had not even legally adopted her yet. Keeping an unadopted child in your house against her biological mother's will/court permission would open up 1500 lawsuits irl. Beti se pyaar karte hai wouldn't fly irl.

Z married X. X had children A, B, C. She loved A, B, C. Z felt neglected as a romantic partner because X loved her children A, B, C. And had to interact with their father,  F.

X and Z (unofficially) adopt Beti D. Aila! Biological parent Y turns up.  X invited Y against Z' s wishes. Y HAS EVERY LEGAL AND SOCIAL RIGHT TO TAKE AWAY BETI D. Y hit on Z. Z got angry at X and blamed X for not having chirren off his own. (Wonder why Z didn't think of A, B, C as his own chirren then). Z left to live with Y because Beti D se pyaar karte hain.

Z left X to live with Y (who was sexually attracted to Z) because Beti D se pyaar karte hain). Remember when Z felt neglected as a romantic partner because X loved her children A, B, C. And had to interact with their father, F? Yeah, doesn't apply to X. Also side note : F is married to K who is not insecure of F's interaction with X. Rather, K and X are good friends irrespective of F's shittiness.

Then X's child B died. Z, Z's well-wishers felt neglected. Beti D, who did not have a single scene in the track, was deemed neglected.

Then, X's daughter C got hit around by her husband, Z ke cousin ka saala, and then Z's well-wishers thought she is being neglectful to Z and Beti D by hyperventilating over Beti C's safety.

Then Z's long-lost mother manipulated a minor Beti D but that was justified because X loved A, B, C and interacted with their Father F. Z's mother hides Beti D's annual function something from X but les forget that.

Beti D and X have a fall-out. Z says marrying X with all her baggage (read chirren and their issues) was a hasty decision. X leaves him. 

Now Z , an adult, promised Beti D (who was 5-7?) that he'd never think about X.  Few years later, Z, who is an adult got engaged to S so that S can nanny Beti D for free without having to deal with Beti D's abandonment issues. (I mean, NYC ka standard wage is so costly!)

 Teenage Beti D also asks Z, a man in his 50s, to prove his love for her as a father by marrying S (lovelessly) and by never meeting his ex. Clearly, Z is the Father of the Year, and X, who hasn't been around for years, is the devil incarnate.

(X is the devil incarnate because X hit B's wife but that is rarely brought up). Casual misogyny is misogyny and equally pathetic.

Originally posted by: Harish111

Not a single person has blamed anupama for having feeling for her children. Not a single person. Anuj never did it in the show. No one did it here either.

Ergo, 

Which parent in real life is so obsessed with grown up, married children? 

Read more at: https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/topic/5348138?pn=5#164751819

Grown adult children can visit her anytime she wants, she doesn't need to make children excuse and then turn up for serving chai to ex husband and ex in laws. This is the only thing people have a problem with.

This in forum that used to defend MD's machinations into the marriage of her middle-aged son because which Saas won't feel insecure by a Bahu like Upmaa.

So, I mean, serving chai to your ex (who is married to someone else and is the father of your children) is emotional neglect/adultery because the kids are young adults who got hastily married. But abandoning your wife to go play home with the biological mother of your daughter is not — when even you know she is sexually and romantically interested in you. Rather it is pyaar for minor beti. The apologia for shitty men is real lol.

Nice try though. 

I would still even expect criticism about Upmaa's codependency on her abusers if it did not always pivot around how she made sant-insaan-bhola-insaan Anooj pheeels.

God, I hope some of you never get to read up on Hritik-Sussanne vactioning together with their respective partners and sons.