Why was the concept of love so flawed in 90s- early 2000s BW - Page 2

Originally posted by: myviewprem

If you see films bollywood hollywood and assume thats true love and real life thats wrong

its all imaginary

In Maine pyar kiya you think Salman super rich will go to village become labourer and alok nath will say take Bhagyashree and marry her i permit stupidity, Salman shall be married off to a rich lady giving dhankis and hagyashree shall be married off to first unmarried man Aloknath meets

In Kuch kuch hota hai do you really think in real life kajol will leave salman and marry a SRK at last never

In DDLJ do you think SRK can come to remote punjab village and Kajol father will say jaa simar jee le apni zindagi never. SRK shall be beaten or killed or in jail in punjab village

In Kabhie Kushi Kabhi Ghum do you think a hritik will try to get back SRK to family no way in real life Hrithik will be happy he has 100% dad property later on thank God SRK has left. In first place SRK will never dare marry Kajol after her dad death because he too does not want to lose AB Srs bungalow and business empire by displeasing him. He will think bhad me jae kajol if i get daddy empire i can have 1000 aishwarya rais (miss worlds)

In Veer zara do you think SRK a indian fighter pilot a rani mukherjee will fight and free in pak court. The guy will die in jail never come out of jail

In koi mil gaya do you think alien will ask Hrithik help they will capture Hrithik and take to their planet and experiment on him in their UFO

Reality is diff from movies or serials

Sorry to say after seeing these movies even as 10-12 year olds we knew its all imaginary and not reality of life

Just see around you in past gen your dad mom gen who married like maine pyar kiya or DDLJ or KKKG etc none or their story would be on paper or news.

Do you think jack really jumped into ice cold water so rose gets a life boat to save her life in real titanic? OK may be in 1930s some real lovers may be there who may have done that. But in recent 40-50 years all are practical no one will go crazy in love.

If someone loves you its because they see some benefits of doing that, because its kalyug. Like you are rich so they want your or your dad property or you are pretty so flaunt you in front of others, or you are working and earning a lot or they have no one or the one they love has rejected them they want to show they can get better one or their parents are threatening to disinherit them if they do not marry girl etc etc long list of reasons are there why men love girls or vice versa.

True love like romeo juliet salim anarkali majnu laila do not really exist in kalyug

Todays romeo will not drink poison and die will juliet neither salim will risk losing next emperor post to one of his brothers and fight with dad akbar nor will majnu roam mad on streets in kalyug

This is too cynical.

I've personally known someone who took a literal bullet for his girlfriend when her deranged ex came after her. He pushed her behind him.

You also hear news of lovers dying for their love when society won't let them live in peace for religion, sexuality, whatever.

Bollywood is wrong in its idea of love, but not all love is for personal gain.

Could you summarize your post or provide us a tldr first ? Since i ain’t reading all that.

Why blame movie stories...the blame should happen to the own observation and pondering about what happens in real life.

Movie stories and book stories are to enlargen the own thinking by comparing with what one observes and lives and reads/watches in documentaries and biographies and learns through history.

Why not accept that one can have dreams which even come true...not always in pink all the time but with potential of true love.

I don't agree with the assumption that love stories like in the cited movies can't happen in reality...of course they can...and do and did.

A holiday acquaintance can become a partner for life, someone from another social background can be exactly the person one lives a romantic love story with, a friendship can turn into love when this friendship fills the void in oneself etc.

To me, it is more problematic if movies favour certain stereotypes relative to gender roles or social positions or religious affiliations etc.

But hasn't it become even more flawed now?

Originally posted by: Clochette

Why blame movie stories...the blame should happen to the own observation and pondering about what happens in real life.

Movie stories and book stories are to enlargen the own thinking by comparing with what one observes and lives and reads/watches in documentaries and biographies and learns through history.

Why not accept that one can have dreams which even come true...not always in pink all the time but with potential of true love.

I don't agree with the assumption that love stories like in the cited movies can't happen in reality...of course they can...and do and did.

A holiday acquaintance can become a partner for life, someone from another social background can be exactly the person one lives a romantic love story with, a friendship can turn into love when this friendship fills the void in oneself etc.

To me, it is more problematic if movies favour certain stereotypes relative to gender roles or social positions or religious affiliations etc.

I agree of course and that’s what even my point was! @bold - Yes that’s what i meant the movies that were made more recently towards the later years of 200s and post 2010 took into factor that ultimately its the equation between two people that transforms to love. Films like Jab we met, where two people meet and they just hit off so well because their mental levels compliment eo. It’s not that he looked at her and started flirting. Films like Wake up sid, Band baja baraat, Jaane Tu, Tamasha. ZNMD etc where relationships are more than just look of the person or their machoness. The shift in paradigm of storytelling that happened in later years is appreciative. A lot of major love stories of 90s if someone asks me why the protagonists fell in love - I cant tell. I cant tell why in DTPH Rahul and Pooja fell in love (Though i did and still romanticise that film) but i can tell why Geet and Aditya fell in love. The relationship of Rahul and Pooja was so ‘situational’ .. one thing led to the other and they ended up together while the relationship of Geet and Aditya, every step of it was a choice, an effort.

Originally posted by: _symphony

I think in that case i was too naive at 10-12 because i did believe that shit😂 Though I don’t agree that all love relationships are for personal benefit but yes everyone wants a connection or some similarity in background/interest/goals. It’s never ki dekha aur pyaar hogaya just with looks or a good deed like bollywood always shows it.

That connection/familiarity each is not true love its like you put few criterai who ever matches you marry or love like arranged marriage or contract marriage

True love is different - its like you love an human without seeing whether they are rich poor, caste, religion, country, ethnicity etc that true love

I am saying like before times no crown prince(billionaire son) will dare love a dancer(bar girl in today's times) and want to marry her against his father/family majority 99.9% will want to be next emperor than risk getting debarred from emperor race (or inheriting business empire nowadays)

Few may be there who will still give up their inheritance but thats as rare as a needle in a gowdown full off hay stack

Nowadays ppl leave family run and marry but many eventually divorce or get cheated and go back as like before ppl do not really want to face life they left behind for lover

Each love story has it's own story (despite similarities)...so why not give real and also reel love stories their place...one in reality/life, one in dreams/imagination...

...and sometimes even those levels meet and one gets the imagination in real life and real life turns into a movie/book story.

Originally posted by: myviewprem

If you see films bollywood hollywood and assume thats true love and real life thats wrong

its all imaginary

In Maine pyar kiya you think Salman super rich will go to village become labourer and alok nath will say take Bhagyashree and marry her i permit stupidity, Salman shall be married off to a rich lady giving dhankis and hagyashree shall be married off to first unmarried man Aloknath meets

In Kuch kuch hota hai do you really think in real life kajol will leave salman and marry a SRK at last never

In DDLJ do you think SRK can come to remote punjab village and Kajol father will say jaa simar jee le apni zindagi never. SRK shall be beaten or killed or in jail in punjab village

In Kabhie Kushi Kabhi Ghum do you think a hritik will try to get back SRK to family no way in real life Hrithik will be happy he has 100% dad property later on thank God SRK has left. In first place SRK will never dare marry Kajol after her dad death because he too does not want to lose AB Srs bungalow and business empire by displeasing him. He will think bhad me jae kajol if i get daddy empire i can have 1000 aishwarya rais (miss worlds)

In Veer zara do you think SRK a indian fighter pilot a rani mukherjee will fight and free in pak court. The guy will die in jail never come out of jail

In koi mil gaya do you think alien will ask Hrithik help they will capture Hrithik and take to their planet and experiment on him in their UFO

Reality is diff from movies or serials

Sorry to say after seeing these movies even as 10-12 year olds we knew its all imaginary and not reality of life

Just see around you in past gen your dad mom gen who married like maine pyar kiya or DDLJ or KKKG etc none or their story would be on paper or news.

Do you think jack really jumped into ice cold water so rose gets a life boat to save her life in real titanic? OK may be in 1930s some real lovers may be there who may have done that. But in recent 40-50 years all are practical no one will go crazy in love.

If someone loves you its because they see some benefits of doing that, because its kalyug. Like you are rich so they want your or your dad property or you are pretty so flaunt you in front of others, or you are working and earning a lot or they have no one or the one they love has rejected them they want to show they can get better one or their parents are threatening to disinherit them if they do not marry girl etc etc long list of reasons are there why men love girls or vice versa.

True love like romeo juliet salim anarkali majnu laila do not really exist in kalyug

Todays romeo will not drink poison and die will juliet neither salim will risk losing next emperor post to one of his brothers and fight with dad akbar nor will majnu roam mad on streets in kalyug

What you mean it isn't divine intervention? You don't feel it in your soul or see it together? Very weird.. I think souls compatibility or spiritual connection is very important, more than physical, your soul should be the one wanting to be with each other... if you are not together, what hurts the most? It is the soul...

Movies and shows are fictional world, one should not take them seriously. Watch them and get entertainment, that's all. Even the movies which are based on true events or biopics have some fictional element to engage the audience.

Atleast 1990's movies have good music, they have been good family movies chaye flawed hi sahi unlike these days movies.