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First, Ak's one and only real rejection is when Abhi divorced her. That's it. In contrast, Abhi has had rejection from Ak multiple times. Every time the issue becomes, why isn't he just letting go and moving on? Ak asked him to do this from the beginning of the leap. If he is doing it now, what is the problem with that????

You are saying that he cannot handle rejection - yes, he cannot, no one can, but he is trying to. He is trying to handle it, but people aren't giving him space.

Second, you are saying he wants to be the center of attention; where exactly is this shown? For Arohi, it was shown in multiple ways how she wanted to be the center of attention. When has Abhi EVER taken anyone else's spotlight? Instead, he was more involved in putting others on the pedestal and clapping for them - whether it is his mom, Neil or Ak. He always put their feelings first in sooo many situations.

Third, Abhir is a kid and yes, putting his feelings first is important. So let me ask you, what was Abhi doing this WHOLE FREAKING TIME? He found out Abhir's truth but couldn't even express that he is his papa; why? For Abhir. Because he wanted to tell Abhir the truth properly and with Ak and Nav so he is not traumatized in anyways. Then once Abhir found out half truth, he still hid it, why ? Cause he did not want to affect Ak and Nav and their issues came first so he stepped back and allowed them to handle it. This whole time for the past five months, Abhi has been hiding his identity as Abhir's father and has been shown to be happy in morsels of love that Abhir was giving him, for Abhir's happiness. So he wouldn't hurt him.

After everything, after fighting a custody case that he didn't want to fight, he got to tell Abhir that he is actually his father. But Abhir, plain and simple rejected that. He didn't say that he wants to continue having Abhi in his life as his father; he said he wants him as a friend. That broke him and we saw how it broke him.

The fact is Abhi has been shown traumatized since the first leap. He has been shown depressed during these past six years. He has been shown putting on a show for the people he loves for sooo long. And now, when he is in the pits, he is still supposed to keep putting on a show? For whom? His son, who knows he is his real father but doesn't feel like he is and just wants him to be a friend?

Abhi will do that too. He will continue to be a presence in Abhir's life and keep loving him unconditionally because that is who he is. None of this means he is not going to love the kid. But he needs time to come out of his depressive episode. He needs the understanding of people around him to at least let him be if they can't do anything.

And he does not need pity of all things.

Originally posted by: ExpectoPatronu

Abhir ka biological father billionaire hai Sharma family apne future ka hi preparations kar rahi hai, Aaj tak to inko Abhi ki tension na hui jab achanak se court ne Abhi ke money ko highlight kiya to inko Abhi se bahut lagaw ho gaya, nahi to pahle to Abhi mar jata to nahi batate Abhir ke bare me. Dono ek number ke dogle hai

Sharmas are after Birlas money is a new one 😂

Originally posted by: lagjagale

First, Ak's one and only real rejection is when Abhi divorced her. That's it. In contrast, Abhi has had rejection from Ak multiple times. Every time the issue becomes, why isn't he just letting go and moving on? Ak asked him to do this from the beginning of the leap. If he is doing it now, what is the problem with that????

You are saying that he cannot handle rejection - yes, he cannot, no one can, but he is trying to. He is trying to handle it, but people aren't giving him space.

Second, you are saying he wants to be the center of attention; where exactly is this shown? For Arohi, it was shown in multiple ways how she wanted to be the center of attention. When has Abhi EVER taken anyone else's spotlight? Instead, he was more involved in putting others on the pedestal and clapping for them - whether it is his mom, Neil or Ak. He always put their feelings first in sooo many situations.

Third, Abhir is a kid and yes, putting his feelings first is important. So let me ask you, what was Abhi doing this WHOLE FREAKING TIME? He found out Abhir's truth but couldn't even express that he is his papa; why? For Abhir. Because he wanted to tell Abhir the truth properly and with Ak and Nav so he is not traumatized in anyways. Then once Abhir found out half truth, he still hid it, why ? Cause he did not want to affect Ak and Nav and their issues came first so he stepped back and allowed them to handle it. This whole time for the past five months, Abhi has been hiding his identity as Abhir's father and has been shown to be happy in morsels of love that Abhir was giving him, for Abhir's happiness. So he wouldn't hurt him.

After everything, after fighting a custody case that he didn't want to fight, he got to tell Abhir that he is actually his father. But Abhir, plain and simple rejected that. He didn't say that he wants to continue having Abhi in his life as his father; he said he wants him as a friend. That broke him and we saw how it broke him.

The fact is Abhi has been shown traumatized since the first leap. He has been shown depressed during these past six years. He has been shown putting on a show for the people he loves for sooo long. And now, when he is in the pits, he is still supposed to keep putting on a show? For whom? His son, who knows he is his real father but doesn't feel like he is and just wants him to be a friend?

Abhi will do that too. He will continue to be a presence in Abhir's life and keep loving him unconditionally because that is who he is. None of this means he is not going to love the kid. But he needs time to come out of his depressive episode. He needs the understanding of people around him to at least let him be if they can't do anything.

And he does not need pity of all things.

I have written multiple post comparing Abhimanyu and Aarohi since the beginning of season 3 with clear examples and scenes from the show. One was literally titled Abhimanyu and Aarohi. Do not have the time or energy to unearth those or write another essay chronologically.

The tagged people and so many who left the show and the forum because they can't take any more of Abhimanyu can attest to that. And if you are still interested, you can check for that on my profile, I guess.

Originally posted by: Noorain13

Sharmas are after Birlas money is a new one 😂

Ye mera opinion hai ki Sharma family ko suddenly Abhi ki itni care Hui wo bhi financial discussion ke baad aur inse kaam to hoga nahi, pade rahte hai Goenkas ke ghar me muft ka roti todne. Jab hardwork karna padta tha koi rasta nahi tha tab kiya ab rasta dikh gaya hai to fayda utha rahe hai .

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Originally posted by: ExpectoPatronu

Ye pura thread hi hypothetical imaginary scenario pe chal raha hai, mera opinion hai ki Sharma family ko suddenly Abhi ki itni care Hui wo bhi financial discussion ke baad aur inse kaam to hoga nahi, pade rahte hai Goenkas ke ghar me muft ka roti todne. Jab hardwork karna padta tha koi rasta nahi tha tab kiya ab rasta dikh gaya hai to fayda utha rahe hai

Did you forget Akshara is generational wealthy who “chooses” not to take that money?

Akshara ko kabhi pauper banke bashan dena ka shokh hai tho kabhi lipstick ke dukhaan ghar ke andar rakhne ka shokh hai..! She has not for a day been shown to be serious about her career, one of the most aimless FL!! Their rainy day savings from last 6 years seem to have been spent on Abhir’s first surgery in Kasauli, post which they haven’t worked a day. Tho uss scenes ke hisaabh se, ur logic is perfectly valid! 🤣

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

You really think that? He lost his mid the first time she rejected him and went on to marry her sister, only to torture Akshara mentally and physically. Abhimanyu is stubborn. He wouldn't let Akshara live peacefully if she had broken up with him which is very explicit from his behaviour during their love story!

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

According to me everyone should be able to reject and cut ties with anyone who is toxic to them. If you weren't able to provide a safe space for your kid, any kid should he able to reject them.

Like some children do file for emancipation

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

First of all, I have no idea and I did not say where I said kids are like chocolate and when one is gone, you should be happy with the other. I am explicity stating this so you will not misunderstand me again.

My idea is he is sad. He says he has got nothing to live for. According to that he had nothing to live for when Neil and his unborn children died and he threw Akshara out. But he still found a reason to live in Roohi and his mother. The fatherless child of his brother. She became one of the sole reasons apart from his mom to live.

Now he gets Abhir, Roohi takes a backseat for him. It was explicitly shown in some episodes especially picnic ones. Now Abhir has rejected him and wants to live with his parents. What Abhimanyu Birla can't take is rejection. He becomes sad. Anyone will be. Even Akshara was when she had to give Abhir to Abhimanyu.

But saying I don't have reasons to live when there is Roohi who loves her poppy to the core, it feels like just because he cannot be with his khoon, nothing else matters. And it is not even like Abhir is dead (God forbid), he is with his mom where Abhimanyu can meet him anytime he wants. He is financially so well off, he can fly to Kasauli anytime he wants. That's how custody works in divorces, right? Do parents wash their hands off the other kid's responsibility because one of their kids is with the mom is the question? Akshara got weekends. He can come visit Abhir on weekends. Why is he blowing this out of proportion? Akshara used to wait for weekends so she can spend time with Abhir. She got sick only when Manjari suspended all kind of her visitation rights.

Again, let's see today's episode. Your 6 year old son without whom you cannot apparently live with is, standing behind you, hugging you. What does he give prominence to? His feelings, not the kid's. Who will make a kid feel guilty because the kid just asked for their wish? (I know Akshara and Abhinav did and I do not agree with it all but the context is different. It was not selfish reasons or taking revenge on Abhir because he hurt their feelings or anything, not supporting what they did. Just saying context is different.)

Abhimanyu's character has been very consistent since the beginning of season 3. He hasn't changed even a bit. And that is exactly the problem. In a way the core of his personality is just like Aarohi's pre leap. Both of them want to be the centre of the universe and everyone else to revolve around them. The only difference is the modus operandi. Aarohi schemed, plotted and manipulated. Abhimanyu shouts, breaks stuff, cries and gaslight others. I think Abhimanyu felt entitled for this wanting to be the centre of attention because of his mom and how she raised him. And everytime Akshara showed any priority towards anyone other than Abhimnayu he used to behave so badly making her feeling extremely guilty.

I hope this is clear.

Just tagging Noorain here, since you asked about rejection.

Oh please how his mom's terrible, codependent parenting turmed him into an entitled manchild who cannot take a "no" from anyone even as an adult.

Only this mother-son relationshio is precious. A six y/o should definitely be sensible enough to know the nuance of how his wish to live with his parents might hurt the feelingz of an adult of x years. Such a selfish kid he is! See how Ruhi cares for the said adult despite him going MIA from her life without an explanation just a couple of months ago!

Edit :this was definitely sarcasm about how Manjari's parenting skills might be off-limits to criticism that got reported and edited. It doesn't make any sense now lol

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I have written multiple post comparing Abhimanyu and Aarohi since the beginning of season 3 with clear examples and scenes from the show. One was literally titled Abhimanyu and Aarohi. Do not have the time or energy to unearth those or write another essay chronologically.

The tagged people and so many who left the show and the forum because they can't take any more of Abhimanyu can attest to that. And if you are still interested, you can check for that on my profile, I guess.

[/. Abhimanyus character is getting more and more pathetic with each episode.. today he was terrible ..showing the whole world and abhir that he’s so sad as abhir is living with his parents.like he’s never going to see his son again… So it would have Been fine if abhir was traumatized as long as he was happy .. I just can’t talk about this man anymore.‘they’ve destroyed Him completely..there’s nothing in him that’s worthy of being an itv lead..no redeeming good qualities..he’s just a bag of self pity, totally self centred, miserable person..who can’t stand to see others happy if he’s not .‘totally pathetic 🤷🏻‍♀️