Why Akshara should say sorry for Neil - Page 13

Adding a point here on where I come from when I say Ak should apologise.

One of thing I learned after a lot of processing, reading and therapy is that blaming others is not part of holistic healing. Healing in a toxic culture is about breaking the cycle and taking accountability.

That taking accountability part is missing from Akshara's end. Honestly it's a show so the screen time doesn't matter cause by this logic Abhira divorce scene is hardly 4-5 minutes but everything that follows is the impact of those 5 minutes.

By saying sorry Akshara is not saying hey i killed Neil I am sorry.

She needs to do that now cause at least now her son is living in that house. For herself, for her son for the people she called her family once of a time it's important to acknowledge what happened.

She never took a stand against Aarohi never said Aarohi Seerat Maa ko maine nahi maara. I lost a mother too.

The cycle needs to end, her way of dealing with trauma needs to change.

We can't except others to grow and change their generational pattern. Let the Birlas' deal with it but your son is a part of that family and he should look up to you. When people say tell him about what Abhi did. Tell him at that moment he should be proud of his mother that she wasn't responsible but look at her taking accountability. What about you Dida?

But at the moment Akshara lacks that accountability and I can't relate to her anymore.

I would also like to add that the cause of trauma for Akshara can be Aarohi, Manjari and AbhiM but how she behaves now, her projecting anger towards AbhiM, demeaning him that's on her.

Originally posted by: Annabethhoney

Exactly then y people r not accepting for a abhim redemption track and being defensive about it and want ak redemption track now……if abhim redemption is not needed so is ak’s…..if ak redemption is neede so is abhim’s

That's because abhi has already realised and accepted his mistakes. And he is redeeming since temple confrontation!!!

But Akshara hasn't even realised anything till date.

Hope you understand this basic difference.

Originally posted by: JustaFan13

That's because abhi has already realised and accepted his mistakes. And he is redeeming since temple confrontation!!!

But Akshara hasn't even realised anything till date.

Hope you understand this basic difference.

Look at him in today's episode. If that's not a change person what is. He respects his boundaries, other set of parents.

He is dealing with everyone calmly ❤️

Originally posted by: Neerasi29

You know from a personal incident from my family..my close relative lost her young 20 year old son..she was totally out of her senses when she saw body...she pushed everyone who was trying to calm her that you guys are lying to me..how can you all hurt me like that..she blamed doctors that they messed up..then blamed herself and this is part of grief .sometimes denial sometimes anger..a person isn't even in their senses ..to judge them or expect anything out of them..you can't even expect any sort of logical reaction from person that time out of extreme emotions...there was a show I have seen in which in kid got killed by gun his father who was policeman accidentally forgot to lock...female lead divorces him and goes totally in depression and blames him every single time sees him.hates him..I think losing a child there is nothing more painful than that...I so wish this show was little more complex with heart and instead of caricatures it showed real characters who were human..and deal with emotions better. White day is not ONLY about Aksharas pain or blame..it is about pain of everyone involved.

Which show ? Please name it

Originally posted by: chaipaani

Adding a point here on where I come from when I say Ak should apologise.

One of thing I learned after a lot of processing, reading and therapy is that blaming others is not part of holistic healing. Healing in a toxic culture is about breaking the cycle and taking accountability.

That taking accountability part is missing from Akshara's end. Honestly it's a show so the screen time doesn't matter cause by this logic Abhira divorce scene is hardly 4-5 minutes but everything that follows is the impact of those 5 minutes.

By saying sorry Akshara is not saying hey i killed Neil I am sorry.

She needs to do that now cause at least now her son is living in that house. For herself, for her son for the people she called her family once of a time it's important to acknowledge what happened.

She never took a stand against Aarohi never said Aarohi Seerat Maa ko maine nahi maara. I lost a mother too.

The cycle needs to end, her way of dealing with trauma needs to change.

We can't except others to grow and change their generational pattern. Let the Birlas' deal with it but your son is a part of that family and he should look up to you. When people say tell him about what Abhi did. Tell him at that moment he should be proud of his mother that she wasn't responsible but look at her taking accountability. What about you Dida?

But at the moment Akshara lacks that accountability and I can't relate to her anymore.

I would also like to add that the cause of trauma for Akshara can be Aarohi, Manjari and AbhiM but how she behaves now, her projecting anger towards AbhiM, demeaning him that's on her.

Accountability needs to come from both sides..

In arohis case also , akshara said it a lot of times "I can't explain you everytime so you believe what you want to believe " . She gave up on arohi misreading her actions ..so yeah..your post made me think..akshara was like this always ..no not taking accountability but after a point it's futile to try to change other persons perspective bec they r full of resentment , hatred and have unresolved feelings. It's best to leave them alone to deal with it . I'm talking abt manjari before anyone misunderstands.

Originally posted by: Krinya

Accountability needs to come from both sides..

In arohis case also , akshara said it a lot of times "I can't explain you everytime so you believe what you want to believe " . She gave up on arohi misreading her actions ..so yeah..your post made me think..akshara was like this always ..no not taking accountability but after a point it's futile to try to change other persons perspective bec they r full of resentment , hatred and have unresolved feelings. It's best to leave them alone to deal with it . I'm talking abt manjari before anyone misunderstands.

No we can only take responsibility for our decision our healing.

I will take responsibility for my actions if you will take responsibility for yours is a immature thought.

I simply don't understand why MJ needs a sorry.

That women never let Neil have a happy, respectable life bcoz isko mahaan banna tha.

Due to hiding facts Neil used to get abused in his own house by his own father.

Arohi ka Idk of she actually ever loved Neil.

Ihope Ruhi gets to know what happened, she should know that her father and Maasi did mis calculations and due to which Neil and Abhir's twin are no more.

But they r also the reason why so many girls now would be having a good life.

Both Ruhi and Abhir should know their parents helped others, yes they were impulsive but they helped in saving those girls life.

&

For that Sorry shouldn't be said.

But yes Ak should say sorry to only Ruhi.

Also comparing 30 something Neil to 6 yr old Abhir makes no sense.

Neil knew the consequences and he was a mature adult and Abhir is not even a teen.

Originally posted by: Palak2812

I simply don't understand why MJ needs a sorry.

That women never let Neil have a happy, respectable life bcoz isko mahaan banna tha.

Due to hiding facts Neil used to get abused in his own house by his own father.

Arohi ka Idk of she actually ever loved Neil.

Ihope Ruhi gets to know what happened, she should know that her father and Maasi did mis calculations and due to which Neil and Abhir's twin are no more.

But they r also the reason why so many girls now would be having a good life.

Both Ruhi and Abhir should know their parents helped others, yes they were impulsive but they helped in saving those girls life.

&

For that Sorry shouldn't be said.

But yes Ak should say sorry to only Ruhi.

Also comparing 30 something Neil to 6 yr old Abhir makes no sense.

Neil knew the consequences and he was a mature adult and Abhir is not even a teen.

That woman nahi hoti toh Neil ko ek time baad mein khana nahi milta, 18 k baad orphanage se nikal dete hain kya pta education kaisi milti milti bhi k nahi

And one thing that a lot of people ignored and missed is Avni died a few years ago of Abhira marriage timeline as Birla foundation episodes mein mentioned.

Means Avni gave birth to Neil and left him in an orphanage.

I request you to please think before you make such negative comments against someone who literally tried to do her best to an illegitimate child of her husband.

Originally posted by: chaipaani

That woman nahi hoti toh Neil ko ek time baad mein khana nahi milta, 18 k baad orphanage se nikal dete hain kya pta education kaisi milti milti bhi k nahi

And one thing that a lot of people ignored and missed is Avni died a few years ago of Abhira marriage timeline as Birla foundation episodes mein mentioned.

Means Avni gave birth to Neil and left him in an orphanage.

I request you to please think before you make such negative comments against someone who literally tried to do her best to an illegitimate child of her husband.

So

Bringing him inside the house and getting him abused is better.

Kamaal hain

I would have liked it if he wasn't treated as 3rd class citizen in his own house, if he wasn't abused.

So I should hail MJ for bringing Neil to get him abused.

Okay

Originally posted by: Sneha2002

Which show ? Please name it

I don't even remember the show. I watch a lot of TV and movie...😊😀 I just remember the scenes...but it was very long back. I don't know if we are allowed to mention shows here but lot of shows and movies explore this theme. I can DM u if u want