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Do You See What I See?
You need to know how others see you to see yourself clearly— although the clearest view depends on how you see yourself.
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Well, my cousin sis got married last week and I gave a toast at her wedding, a speech I carefully crafted and practiced delivering.
And it went well: The bride and groom beamed; the guests paid attention and reacted in the right spots
You need to know how others see you to see yourself clearly— although the clearest view depends on how you see yourself.
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Well, my cousin sis got married last week and I gave a toast at her wedding, a speech I carefully crafted and practiced delivering.
And it went well: The bride and groom beamed; the guests paid attention and reacted in the right spots
I was relieved and pleased with myself, until last night when I saw the cold, hard video documentation of the event😭😭
As I watched myself getting ready to make the toast, a funny thing happened. I got butterflies in my stomach all over again.😆😆
I was nervous for myself, even though I knew the outcome would be just fine.
and what did i see...??😕
My body language was awkward. My voice was grating. My timing was not quite right as i had thought.
And the thing what went through my mind was...."Is this how people saw me?"😕
It's a terrifying thought: What if I possess a glaring flaw that everyone notices but me? What if I think I'm efficient but I'm seen as disorganized?😭
While many amongst us profess not to care what others think, we are, in the end, creatures who want and need to fit into a social universe, isn;t it..?😉
That's why it's said that The ability to understand how people see us is what enables us to connect to others and to reap the deep satisfaction that comes with those ties....
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Oops...this became a long post..sorry....But when i saw myself on video, many thought went through my mind...and i had to make a post on this..so plz bear with me😳😆😆
I believe – to some degree – all of us suffer from the inability to see ourselves as we appear to others. We tend to dig in and defend our decisions, our controversial opinions, and our habits even when they might be causing us and others harm. Most of us feel that other people cause all the harm. But remember, other people feel the same way. Someone's actions are causing it, right?
I hope to get some comments on this....😳
My body language was awkward. My voice was grating. My timing was not quite right as i had thought.
And the thing what went through my mind was...."Is this how people saw me?"😕
It's a terrifying thought: What if I possess a glaring flaw that everyone notices but me? What if I think I'm efficient but I'm seen as disorganized?😭
While many amongst us profess not to care what others think, we are, in the end, creatures who want and need to fit into a social universe, isn;t it..?😉
That's why it's said that The ability to understand how people see us is what enables us to connect to others and to reap the deep satisfaction that comes with those ties....
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Oops...this became a long post..sorry....But when i saw myself on video, many thought went through my mind...and i had to make a post on this..so plz bear with me😳😆😆
I believe – to some degree – all of us suffer from the inability to see ourselves as we appear to others. We tend to dig in and defend our decisions, our controversial opinions, and our habits even when they might be causing us and others harm. Most of us feel that other people cause all the harm. But remember, other people feel the same way. Someone's actions are causing it, right?
I hope to get some comments on this....😳
Love,
Gracella
Gracella
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
Mangal Lakshmi
