I am shocked how Neetu thought she had 'matured' just because she learnt to tolerate Rishi's affairs and had begun to be 'indifferent' about it and asked Rishi to forget about it even if she knew it and felt it was her maturity that she did not fight with him.
This is totally internalised misogyny and resignation to fate. This is the attitude that fed male entitlement in first place and let men take women for granted and hope women will stick to them no matter what.
I have read in old Rediff articles that Neetu used to tolerate Rishi's drunken fits, domestic violence also and was once ready to file a complaint against him but stopped due to kids.
The dependent line struck me too and reminded me of how Ranbir said he is dependent on Alia. I hope Ranbir is not as cranky, verbal, emotional and physical abuser as his dad was and will not be as much of a philanderer as his dad was even after marriage and kids. But then, most Kapoor men are like this so cannot say RK will not be same as his dad or grandpa.
Neetu came from a less known family and was a nobody so she tolerated abuse and affairs. Alia is from a famous family herself and a big star on her own. So I hope she will be treated differently and not tolerate shit and put her foot down when needed and Kapoors will also know not to mess with Bhatt's daughter as Bhatts are no less in terms of connections.
I feel bad for women of that generation and wonder why they saw it as their maturity if they tolerated shit of husbands. Tolerating shit is not a sign of maturity.
Anupamaa
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