People change..

I am new to anupama forum.

I am watching it from many days but it's really getting an embarrassment to see but I am totally on anujs side ..who goes to play holi leaving behind a grieving husband ? He is human after all not god..yes he waited for 26 years for her but people change..anupama is responsible for all of this..she shouldn't have left him alone and what is up with the same question.."aap mujhe se pyaar karte hain ne?"..My god lady people change..give him a break..

Everybody here is on Anuj's side.

Originally posted by: Kuhu247

I am new to anupama forum.

I am watching it from many days but it's really getting an embarrassment to see but I am totally on anujs side ..who goes to play holi leaving behind a grieving husband ? He is human after all not god..yes he waited for 26 years for her but people change..anupama is responsible for all of this..she shouldn't have left him alone and what is up with the same question.."aap mujhe se pyaar karte hain ne?"..My god lady people change..give him a break..

People don't change

They just stop pretending

Vanraj was right...Anuj is just like him after all

The facade has ended and the masks are off

Yes, of course. The man who helped her get over her past, supported her every step of the way, made her more confident in herself, gave her his entire empire even though she's illiterate, enrolled her in a course when she was insecure about her lack of financial knowledge, taught her the meaning of RESPECT (not that she ever learnt), put up with her horrible toxic ex in-laws until he just couldn't take it anymore, supported each member of her ex-family financially, gave respect to each and every one of them including her real maayka, told off and was ready to send away his own bhaiya and bhabi when they weren't right to her, literally told them to leave when he found out they insulted Anupama, agreed to EVERYTHING she said and supported her no matter what her decisions were and never once said you should consult me as well I'm your damn husband, until things got way out of hand (I could honestly go on and on about what all he's done for her)

IS THE SAME

as the person who abused her for 26 years, cheated on her and then blamed her for it, didn't miss any chance to belittle her, didn't stop his kids from insulting her but rather edged them on, raped her, didn't allow her to pursue her dream of dance, also didn't allow her to move on in life when she wanted to and to this date, continues to be happy in her misery and wants her back as his unpaid maid.

Simply because he's had enough, put up with enough, is basically depressed and in the worst state of mind because he loves his child so much and she's the only one he can truly call his and who really cares for him. That was seen in today's episode also. The only one who asked him are you okay, and not do you love me, do you care for me, ME ME ME.

So until Anuj says yes Anu whatever you say Anu, you're the best Anu he's ANUJ the dream man. The minute he disagrees or thinks about himself and his child for even a minute, he's Vanraj. The guy isn't even eating or drinking water for God's sake, he slept on PAVEMENTS, but no he must think about Anupama constantly and run back to worship her, else his behaviour is like Vanraj, who comfortably went back home with ZERO guilt and is worshipped in house house as "Ache Pita" and "Acha beta".

Vanraj must be super happy, there are people to support his trash statements. Deviji bhakt logic is something Deviji and the makers themselves will be shocked but thankful for, because there's no such thing as too many people to justify her mistakes and put the blame on others to make her mahaan.

Originally posted by: poobaniparvati9

Yes, of course. The man who helped her get over her past, supported her every step of the way, made her more confident in herself, gave her his entire empire even though she's illiterate, enrolled her in a course when she was insecure about her lack of financial knowledge, taught her the meaning of RESPECT (not that she ever learnt), put up with her horrible toxic ex in-laws until he just couldn't take it anymore, supported each member of her ex-family financially, gave respect to each and every one of them including her real maayka, told off and was ready to send away his own bhaiya and bhabi when they weren't right to her, literally told them to leave when he found out they insulted Anupama, agreed to EVERYTHING she said and supported her no matter what her decisions were and never once said you should consult me as well I'm your damn husband, until things got way out of hand (I could honestly go on and on about what all he's done for her)

IS THE SAME

as the person who abused her for 26 years, cheated on her and then blamed her for it, didn't miss any chance to belittle her, didn't stop his kids from insulting her but rather edged them on, raped her, didn't allow her to pursue her dream of dance, also didn't allow her to move on in life when she wanted to and to this date, continues to be happy in her misery and wants her back as his unpaid maid.

Simply because he's had enough, put up with enough, is basically depressed and in the worst state of mind because he loves his child so much and she's the only one he can truly call his and who really cares for him. That was seen in today's episode also. The only one who asked him are you okay, and not do you love me, do you care for me, ME ME ME.

So until Anuj says yes Anu whatever you say Anu, you're the best Anu he's ANUJ the dream man. The minute he disagrees or thinks about himself and his child for even a minute, he's Vanraj. The guy isn't even eating or drinking water for God's sake, he slept on PAVEMENTS, but no he must think about Anupama constantly and run back to worship her, else his behaviour is like Vanraj, who comfortably went back home with ZERO guilt and is worshipped in house house as "Ache Pita" and "Acha beta".

Vanraj must be super happy, there are people to support his trash statements. Deviji bhakt logic is something Deviji and the makers themselves will be shocked but thankful for, because there's no such thing as too many people to justify her mistakes and put the blame on others to make her mahaan.

So just because he didn't abuse his wife he can throw her like a hot potato

Sharif abusing

First of all, even if him leaving her is wrong, that's not called abuse in any sense or definition of the word. Anyone would rather someone leave them than abuse them for three decades.

Second, he didn't throw her like a hot potato to go enjoy his life because he's bored and to find the next best thing. He's in a very depressed state and NO ONE in his house understood him. Anupama didn't give him space when he asked for it, kept trying to force him to be happy, insisted he come to Shah House to play Holi (the family responsible for half this mess, the other half is Anupama) where she could be with her whole family and he'd truly realise how alone he was. Whether you think him reacting that way to CA's loss is justifiable or not, you still show some empathy, you give the man some time to breathe, to let him feel what he's feeling. You don't get ten people to gang up on him and accuse him and shower praises at Anupama. That's horribly insensitive. Anyone will feel suffocated.

Everytime she came back from Shah House insulted or tired from constantly working, he massaged her feet, her head, allowed her to cry, took care of her without a word, even though she left him and his daughter to go there. Was some space so hard to expect in return?

And anyway, it's clear Anuj isn't "living his best life" right now, he's dealing with a lot of turmoil himself and not treating himself properly, not even eating or drinking, and to compare him with Vanraj is downright cruel and also downplays the monster Vanraj is. Just to support Deviji, making statements like this is cruel even to Anupama, because you're downplaying the pain she faced in her previous marriage.

Originally posted by: poobaniparvati9

Yes, of course. The man who helped her get over her past, supported her every step of the way, made her more confident in herself, gave her his entire empire even though she's illiterate, enrolled her in a course when she was insecure about her lack of financial knowledge, taught her the meaning of RESPECT (not that she ever learnt), put up with her horrible toxic ex in-laws until he just couldn't take it anymore, supported each member of her ex-family financially, gave respect to each and every one of them including her real maayka, told off and was ready to send away his own bhaiya and bhabi when they weren't right to her, literally told them to leave when he found out they insulted Anupama, agreed to EVERYTHING she said and supported her no matter what her decisions were and never once said you should consult me as well I'm your damn husband, until things got way out of hand (I could honestly go on and on about what all he's done for her)

IS THE SAME

as the person who abused her for 26 years, cheated on her and then blamed her for it, didn't miss any chance to belittle her, didn't stop his kids from insulting her but rather edged them on, raped her, didn't allow her to pursue her dream of dance, also didn't allow her to move on in life when she wanted to and to this date, continues to be happy in her misery and wants her back as his unpaid maid.

Simply because he's had enough, put up with enough, is basically depressed and in the worst state of mind because he loves his child so much and she's the only one he can truly call his and who really cares for him. That was seen in today's episode also. The only one who asked him are you okay, and not do you love me, do you care for me, ME ME ME.

So until Anuj says yes Anu whatever you say Anu, you're the best Anu he's ANUJ the dream man. The minute he disagrees or thinks about himself and his child for even a minute, he's Vanraj. The guy isn't even eating or drinking water for God's sake, he slept on PAVEMENTS, but no he must think about Anupama constantly and run back to worship her, else his behaviour is like Vanraj, who comfortably went back home with ZERO guilt and is worshipped in house house as "Ache Pita" and "Acha beta".

Vanraj must be super happy, there are people to support his trash statements. Deviji bhakt logic is something Deviji and the makers themselves will be shocked but thankful for, because there's no such thing as too many people to justify her mistakes and put the blame on others to make her mahaan.

Judging by the current scenario Anuj is all about extremes.

Extreme love, co-operation, worship and then extreme anger and hatred and throwing her out of his life just like that.

We were all on Anuj’s side when Deviji kept running to SH and making Khichdi for that devil. But the way he has ditched her after making all those (now false) promises about talking things out and growing old together makes him either a big sore hypocrite or a mentally ill person.

Marriages don’t break like this. You give chances to the person you love. Multiple chances. Especially when what you share is so wonderful.There is something called couples counselling.

His obsession with a child he has only fostered for maybe 6 months has trumped over the love he had harboured for 26 years. He is now going to let Maya manipulate him into staying with her and/or marry her. All he wants is CA. Its like he pined for Anu and then when he got her he just wanted more and more of her. When that became tough he wanted CA and only CA.

None of it makes sense.

Anupama madam ji has poor understanding of Punctuation.... she does not know where and when to stop. But her behavior and self obsessed attitude stopped too low. she was constantly bugging on Anuj who was in mental distress and upset. He became too attached with that kid as he did not have any one like Mataji has. Instead of staying with him but not constat bugging rather trying to consol and put effort how to correct this, she outright said what she did is correct. Darnn woman !!!!! She took Anuj granted and thought Anuj is her dancing dall.

I will be very "hiiiippppy" if Anuj marry someone else. She got right medicine now.

Originally posted by: poobaniparvati9

First of all, even if him leaving her is wrong, that's not called abuse in any sense or definition of the word. Anyone would rather someone leave them than abuse them for three decades.

Second, he didn't throw her like a hot potato to go enjoy his life because he's bored and to find the next best thing. He's in a very depressed state and NO ONE in his house understood him. Anupama didn't give him space when he asked for it, kept trying to force him to be happy, insisted he come to Shah House to play Holi (the family responsible for half this mess, the other half is Anupama) where she could be with her whole family and he'd truly realise how alone he was. Whether you think him reacting that way to CA's loss is justifiable or not, you still show some empathy, you give the man some time to breathe, to let him feel what he's feeling. You don't get ten people to gang up on him and accuse him and shower praises at Anupama. That's horribly insensitive. Anyone will feel suffocated.

Everytime she came back from Shah House insulted or tired from constantly working, he massaged her feet, her head, allowed her to cry, took care of her without a word, even though she left him and his daughter to go there. Was some space so hard to expect in return?

And anyway, it's clear Anuj isn't "living his best life" right now, he's dealing with a lot of turmoil himself and not treating himself properly, not even eating or drinking, and to compare him with Vanraj is downright cruel and also downplays the monster Vanraj is. Just to support Deviji, making statements like this is cruel even to Anupama, because you're downplaying the pain she faced in her previous marriage.

Truth-- Anuj is an egoistic man just like Vanraj

It's not about depression or space or turmoil

It's just how easily anuj thinks he has the authority and power to end the relationship

This is his truth

Sure thing. When you have no counter to logical statements made by another person, "this is the truth" makes any absurd statement the universal truth. Very in line with what is expected of Maa bhakts, good for you!