Anuj's 26 years old love

Okay I've seen Anupamaa ke bhakts always raising this point so I thought of venting out my thoughts.

Anuj's 26 years old pyaar isn't like sab kuch chodh Diya and only Anupamaa is all that I need. He loved her but he's not obsessed with her that he'll compromise with his feelings for her. Nevertheless he always did compromise. Do people want Anuj to become a medical miracle and leave oxygen for Anupamaa? Will that prove his love for her?

I've been in love with my parents for 22 years now. Does that mean my parents should leave every thing that matters and especially my Di just to prove their love for me? No right? When parents can't ALWAYS compromise with their feelings, how can we expect a husband to do so? He has feelings man. He's not a zombie. He did love her for 26 years but didn't become a Devdas. He loved her enough to let her go and that's what his feelings for Anupamaa were. Now that he realises his disappointment with Anupamaa and wants to leave her why is it wrong? Why can't he divorce her if she's unhappy? And it's not like CA is the only reason that he wants to leave her. Even if he did, I don't find anything wrong in it. He's done and wants to get rid of something he feels in unwanted and there's nothing wrong in it.

Originally posted by: xDownInFlamesx

Okay I've seen Anupamaa ke bhakts always raising this point so I thought of venting out my thoughts.

Anuj's 26 years old pyaar isn't like sab kuch chodh Diya and only Anupamaa is all that I need. He loved her but he's not obsessed with her that he'll compromise with his feelings for her. Nevertheless he always did compromise. Do people want Anuj to become a medical miracle and leave oxygen for Anupamaa? Will that prove his love for her?

I've been in love with my parents for 22 years now. Does that mean my parents should leave every thing that matters and especially my Di just to prove their love for me? No right? When parents can't ALWAYS compromise with their feelings, how can we expect a husband to do so? He has feelings man. He's not a zombie. He did love her for 26 years but didn't become a Devdas. He loved her enough to let her go and that's what his feelings for Anupamaa were. Now that he realises his disappointment with Anupamaa and wants to leave her why is it wrong? Why can't he divorce her if she's unhappy? And it's not like CA is the only reason that he wants to leave her. Even if he did, I don't find anything wrong in it. He's done and wants to get rid of something he feels in unwanted and there's nothing wrong in it.

Basically we expected anuj to become a majnu and roam roads mad for anupama

We excepted him to go war with shahs like salim did against akbar to rescue her

We expected him to drink poison and die like romeo

As audience we had very high expectations from him but he left us confused

The way anuj 26 years love was shown we never thought he will ever leave her no matter what she does

What ppl do not understand is you can love wife like mad yet love your kids equal or sometimes more like anuj did CA

Anupama was never there for him whereas CA always there for him 24/7 like a family

Like malvika was there with for 21 years till marraige everyday 24/7 thats why he loved malvika so much

Now CA has replaced malvika in his life being 24/7 with him

whereas anupama is hardly there few waking hours with him no

Andhbhakts see things from a black and white perspective which is simply incorrect. Both can be right or wrong at different points. It's what makes one human but they have probably imagined spicebox to be a real person and a relative of theirs who always has to be right but let's ignore that.

Yes, Anuj rushed the decision of fostering-adopting CA but he consistently put in efforts and patiently stood by the spicebox while she was busy balancing matkas. I still think he is a fool and should never have married her. But after a series of incidents, maybe CA was the issue which made him realise that his wife will always be a bati hui orat and never prioritise him. If he wants to separate, it honestly is his call but he needs to talk it through with her instead of the silent treatment and disappearing act. Walking out can still be understood as he is hurt but if he is going to end the relation, he should do it upfront instead of going and staying with someone else like this.

People questioning his love simply won't understand that the reality of being in a marriage is much different from what you visualise. Who would want to see their partner constantly go to their ex's place citing the most ridiculous reasons? Who wants to deal with their partner's self proclaimed maayka with abusive/manipulative old hags, an ex who plots and threatens to kill and the worthless troublesome kids who have not adulted and constantly stir up problems.

At some point, it is more exhausting to always have to overcompensate than being alone. Separation is better than aati jaati rahungi. It doesn't invalidate what he has been through and is not a reflection on his love either

26 yrs of love has been way too overhyped in this show, 26 days or 26 yrs of love, it can all die in a moment, depends what all led to it

Anupama loved Vanraj selflessly for 25 yrs, till the day she saw Kavya and Vanraj in her bedroom on her bed, suddenly her 25 yrs of love vanished!

Vanraj cheated on her, manipulated her lied to her and treated her like trash but she still loved him despite seeing everything infront of her eyes so clearly, he broke her emotionally, but she continued to love him, but cheating on her was the last nail in the coffin

Likewise, Anuj loved her for 26 yrs, dreaming of her despite knowing she is a married woman with kids, he married her against all odds and supported her thru thick and thin

She kept on emotionally abusing him, mentally harassing him, though not as aggressively as Vanraj did to her, he showed his displeasure many times but she would always shed some tears and say her cringe dialogues about bati hui aurat and so many matkas and sab chahiye and that she is a Maa, Shah house was her only priority always

He felt like an outsider many times, he was abused by her family many times, he was taken for granted always, he was never ever prioritised even when he was bed ridden, his daughter was ignored when she had a panic attack, Anuj took everything and warned her on new year, sent his daughter away but sending away CA with Maya and not letting him even try, gaslighting him and saying CA chose Maya, her happiness lies in Maya was the last nail in coffin for Anuj too just like Anupama had a breaking point in her first marriage

Love marriages also break, people do fall out of love, its normal, and acceptable

You can’t keep abusing someone everyday be it physically emotionally mentally or any kind of abuse and then just say two lovey dovey words or apologise and expect sab thik ho jayega
No sympathies for Anupama

Absolutely agree. We can be in love with the ‘idea’ of a person for as long as forever. But living with that person is a totally different ballgame. That’s why couples break up after living together for a while (live-in). Some people expect their partners to change a little when they enter into a committment that too as sustainable a bond like a marriage; but the other halves can be under a delusion or misconception that life would go on exactly as it was for them before marriage, because apparently the logic is this equations worked before marriage, so why not now. While neither of them are wrong, the first one to expect a slight change in the dynamics is more right. Because we cannot and shouldn’t stay stagnant in our life for ever. We change, we have to change as they say change is the only constant. So if a person refuses to do that, the other one’s bound to feel suffocated. And all these things are out in the open when they live together for a while.

How long has been ‘in love’ with certain X doesn’t matter. What matters is compatibility. Dancing away all problems on ‘akhiyon se goli maare’ is not love. Anuj is a sensible guy with many qualities, he sits with his wife to understand the problems, to make her understand the problem, he is quick to say sorry, mean it, and act on it (like giving college form to AnupaMAA). Whereas Anu is a complete pushover, kind towards unnecessary people, too high on herself and constantly resists change, overtly emotional and drama queen to be honest. I can see why Anuj’d be done with her.

I would be happy if makers are bold enough to show that Anuj is really moving on and happy now that his delusional bubble burst. But I am afraid going by the maturity of the writers, they are going to hold Anuj down with still longing for AnupaMAA and committing a crime by leaving her, while AnupaMAA would be hailed as a bechari and victim here.

Anuj is feeling this level of betrayal precisely because his feelings are that deep. 26 years of love and you don't expect that one person to behave the way Anupama did when the stakes are as high as winning or losing your kid forever.

God forbid, if I loved someone for 26 years and that person fake played Holi when I was at my life's lowest because he couldn't turn down an ex FIL and his friend, I would have felt like I don't matter at all to the one who mattered a lot to me for more than 2 decades.

Some weird love comparisons are happening in this show as well. Anuj ka 6 mahine ka pyaar 26 saal le pyaar pe bhari pad gaya (something like that). Love isn't maths. Comparing spouse love to child love is stupid. They are very different kinds of love. A lot, lot of people love their children more than anyone else in the world including themselves.

Secondly, say, a couple has a kid after one year of marriage and another after 11 years. So as per this show's stupid logic, the couple who had their kid after one year loves their kid 10x more as compared to the other couple because unka 10 saal ka pyaar bhari pad gaya. Love cannot be quantified in terms of years or numbers.

The whole problem about the fandom blaming Anuj lies in the point that here ANUJ IS REJECTING ANUPAMAA. If it was vice versa they would've still hailed Anupamaa. If CA was the choice of Maa and Anuj was in the shoes of Maa, then the fandom would've felt empathy for Maa. Simply because the ML wants to get rid of the FL they're making it an issue by dragging in stuffs like "he wanted to sleep with her". If Anupamaa had decided to divorce Anuj then again Anuj would've been the scapegoat and would've been blamed for persuading Maa to reconsider the marriage.

Oh absolutely.Just because he loved for 26 year it doesn't mean he will tolerate everything.I feel like she was so overconfident that she felt like I can do whatever I want ..he won't say anything or he won't leave me..she took advantage of his good nature.

Just because a person stayed in jail for 26 years, he is not supposed to live in jail for eternity. Love is not a life sentence. Marriage is not the death penalty. Falling out of love and breaking marriages are as normal as birth and death. But, my problem lies with the reason he wants to end the marriage. He still loves her and wishes to stay with her(strictly going by today's episode), but he will end the marriage because he needs to get married to MAAya to be with his daughter. That's a ridiculous reason to leave your spouse. A spouse is as important as a kid if not more.

How Anuj expecting. that anupama will change habit suddenly which she has for 26 years

Did not anuj know what is nature of anupama .he keep getting updated of anupama through Devika since 26 years

Anuj know from devika shah specially Baa bapuji her children are weakness of anupama

So why anuj married to anupama when he know weakness of anupama before marriage

Every thing was crystal clear before marriage so why did anuj marriage

Aisa to hai nahi anuj bus ek do baar mila anupama se ki use anupama ke baare mein khuch khaas pata nahi to bechara anuj anupama se shaadi karke phas gaya

Why did not anuj make every thing clear to anupama before marriage

Jub tuk shaadi nahi hui thi tub tuk anupama kisi baat se problem nahi thi Aur jub shaadi hui to anupama se usi baat se problem hone lagi .how

Koi nahi keh raha anuj anupama ki gulaami kare bhayaa anuj tum. Anupama se shaadi hi nahi karte

When u know everything thing about anupama before marriage that too since 26 years

I remember anuj was saying to anupama before Maan marriage maine poori anupama se pyaar Kiya hai jo sub ka khayal rakhti Hai Maine aadhi adhuri anupama se pyaar nahi Kiya

Phir bhi anuj ko anupama ka nature tolerate nahi ho raha phir anuj Koi anupama se shaadi hi nahi karne chahiye tha .nobody has ask t anuj o tolerate anupama better he should not have Marry her

Waise awww poor anuj biwi anupamaa. atyachaar ka maara