What is wrong ! - Page 2

“Now coming to Anuj, he knew Anupama had her set of kids, was married for 26years, how emotionally vulnerable she is - he knew all this and still decided to marry her.. and soon after he got a kid with whom he had no relation.. He had been in “love” with the lady for 26+years.. yearned for her and now when a kid with whom he hasnt been staying more than 2-3months is gone he is behaving irrationally.. that was a foster kid .. and the otherside anupama was going to look after her biological kids.. whom she birthed .. Anuj’s character in actual has been spoilt beyond redemption!!”

That is some problematic thinking

Pitting Biological child vs Foster

I adopted a 10 week old puppy many years ago. I had him for maybe 2/3 months when he got kennel cough. Not knowing at the time what it was we rushed him at 2 am to the vet. Stayed up nights running water to steam the room as that was the only thing helping him breathe. If someone tried to take him away from me at that time I’d go for the jugular. He became the family baby & the idea of him leaving ..nope I’d be devasted

Here we are talking about a parental bond forming between a father and daughter. How one can expect Anuj to callously throw that away is beyond me

Originally posted by: stunninstar

Its about the reactions here.. Its over the top reaction from Anuj now! Anupama being dragged to shah house for silly matters is ridiculous.. but the whole blaming Anupama for CA leaving is crap! Had Anuj been so serious he should have formally applied for adoption.. foster kids are not equivalent to adoption.. if you know what it is.. foster parents don't have permanency and parental rights over their foster kid.. kids are put on fostering coz their parents are unable to look after them for some reasom.. but they dont give up on their rights.. Anuj being the business magnet he is doesnt know these basics! Wah!!

And I am married and have a kid of my own - and no one can replace another person.. but just because my kid goes away I won’t be leaving my husband! And same vice versa.. if its true love between a couple then thats the most trusted and ever lasting one gonna be in your life.. your kids and parents and siblings would leave your side.. but you would be spending the most amount of time with your spouse.. of course this is *terms and conditions apply..

But for a relationship like anupama and anuj as they show in here ofcourse it should be like i said!

Anuj does not blame Anupamaa completely. He feels guilty too for letting his child go. However his issue is Anupamaa completely does not show her pain of losing. He feels let down by his partner and hence the anger.

There was a conversation of adoption versus fostering long back between the couple and he was fostering with the intention of adopting.

He is asking for space, that Anupamaa cannot provide as she takes everything personally. There is the perpetual victimhood in her. In psychology its called learned helpness.

Anuj has always supported Anupamaa, even in cases which were not correct (like her lack of boundaries, calling Maayka to ex-in-law house) and if she had the grace to provide him with little respite. But here she expects everything to get back to normal soon.

Like any relationship they are both to blame for its breaking, considering there was love in it. But the blame of where they ended up, lands more heavily in this case on Anupamaa.

Okay we got it! Khichdi is more important than performance. Anupama is a goddess jiska mandir banna chahiye.

Anuj ne anupama se kabhi pyaar nahi Kiya Jo khuch Kiya apne man Khushi ke liye Kiya other wise true love rishta todna aasan nahi Hota it took.lot of struggle but see how Anuj easily break relationship and go away

Anuj Anuj can't live without choti even for second who he fostering for just 7 ,8 month but he can easily live without anupama that anuj use to claim he only love anupama

How is possible for anuj that he can't live without choti but can live without anupama without any problem though use to say he loves anupama lot

I agree with you

Originally posted by: stunninstar

Can she abandon her so called family howmuch ever toxic they are overnight.. not at all

how much ever audience hate her nature, it is how things are.. even if you hurt your mom the most, the second you cry in front of her she will always forget all bad you told her in anger and come to console you!

Now coming to Anuj, he knew Anupama had her set of kids, was married for 26years, how emotionally vulnerable she is - he knew all this and still decided to marry her.. and soon after he got a kid with whom he had no relation.. He had been in “love” with the lady for 26+years.. yearned for her and now when a kid with whom he hasnt been staying more than 2-3months is gone he is behaving irrationally.. that was a foster kid .. and the otherside anupama was going to look after her biological kids.. whom she birthed .. Anuj’s character in actual has been spoilt beyond redemption!!

1) She abandoned her own birth mother convinently but cannot abandon her ex husband and ex MIL? Sure, sure

2) STOP claiming foster kids are lesser than biological kids. Its regressive, lets not learn regressive things from regressive charatcters

3) Anupama's biological kids are grown up with their own family. No mother "looks after" grown kids, particularly when they have wives. In today's world, most mothers dont even live in same house

I really want to know which world Anuipama fans live in where mothers "look after" grown kids with wives by abandoning own husband. I have never seen this in real life, in real life once children are grown up and married, husband becomes wife's first priority

If Anuj gave responsibility of CA to Anupama at this age then Ba and Kinjal also gave responsibility of Pari to Anupama at this age. But that is fine because its blood relation but CA is burden because she is an outsider. Anupama did wrong to CA. She never stood up for her and never spent time with her. If she can fight with Rakhi for requesting to take Kinjal and Pari her home then she can fight with Maya as well. Yes, we all know in the end CA will go to Maya because she is her biological mother but Anupama didn’t even try. Yes, she had a baggage but only her kids. Rest of the Shah family is not and shouldn’t be her responsibility. Thats a total BS.

People’s are saying that anuj marry a woman with lots of responsibility and he always knows that shah family was her first priority. No,Anuj marry a woman who that time was a divorcee, running a dance academy and who was business partner of him and going for business meetings with him. That woman was not busy with shah that much as she is now. After marriage and choti’s adoption also she was going to office but that’s last only few days. Anuj always wants her to independent. In office she told that she didn’t get to complete her education so anuj wanted her to complete it and got her admission in college. Did she go to college after that 2 3 days. No she stops to go office too. She didn’t go to academy also. Sometimes they show her go to academy she will stay at shah house in middle for daily dose of taunts.

So Anuj didn’t marry a woman whose life revolves around only shah’s. Anuj marry a woman who have a past baggage but wanted to create her own identity.

Now also Anut was not going to blame her fully but wanted a partner in his pain not someone who goes to ex in law to celebrate Holi. It’s not that world will stop if they will not celebrate a festival. But how will they not celebrate it as it was Pari’s first Holi, It was Pakhi adhik’s first Holi.

Yah anuj should not shout at her publicly but celebrate Holi with her because it is vary important for shah’s. He just missing choti so what he have to celebrate.

Originally posted by: Snowdrrop

People’s are saying that anuj marry a woman with lots of responsibility and he always knows that shah family was her first priority. No,Anuj marry a woman who that time was a divorcee, running a dance academy and who was business partner of him and going for business meetings with him. That woman was not busy with shah that much as she is now. After marriage and choti’s adoption also she was going to office but that’s last only few days. Anuj always wants her to independent. In office she told that she didn’t get to complete her education so anuj wanted her to complete it and got her admission in college. Did she go to college after that 2 3 days. No she stops to go office too. She didn’t go to academy also. Sometimes they show her go to academy she will stay at shah house in middle for daily dose of taunts.

So Anuj didn’t marry a woman whose life revolves around only shah’s. Anuj marry a woman who have a past baggage but wanted to create her own identity.

Now also Anut was not going to blame her fully but wanted a partner in his pain not someone who goes to ex in law to celebrate Holi. It’s not that world will stop if they will not celebrate a festival. But how will they not celebrate it as it was Pari’s first Holi, It was Pakhi adhik’s first Holi.

Yah anuj should not shout at her publicly but celebrate Holi with her because it is vary important for shah’s. He just missing choti so what he have to celebrate.

Exactly. Also its very hurtful to see a loved one stuck in a cycle of abuse. Those who love them try their best to get them out. But eventually its difficult to see if someone keeps going back to abusive cycles

Even parents cut ties with kids after trying, if they are stuck in abusive cycles. Seeing your loved one keep going back to be abused is one of the saddest thing

Here people saying that anuj fostering choti for some month and loves her more than Anupama. He is ready to leave Anupama and now choti is his just obsession. If we go 26 or 27 years before anuj and anupama was in same college and met there. Anuj fell in love with her in some month. Anupama after 1st year droped the college and got married and anuj never got to confess his some months love to Anupama. And for that some month he decided to never got married in his life. He didn’t know that she loves him or not.He never waited for Anupama as Anupama claimed. When anuj came back after so many years that time Anuraj were separated. Only because of that there was a hope for anuj. If she was happy in her marriage he was not gonna come in her life. They were together in college for 1 year because she just completed 1st year and anuj love was some months old without any hope. He give his half life for that but now for choti his some months love is obsession.

How it is obsession now.

In real according to me anuj was not in love with Anupama but he was in love with idea of Anupama. Now reality is different from his idea of her. He was in love how she took care of everyone but he didn’t know that he and choti was not in that list. Only shah clan was in that list. So his idea of love is now breaking and he is feeling alone and suffocated.