What is wrong !

I read a lot of posts here bashing Anupama and blaming her for all the problems!

But for a person like Anupama who lived 26years as a doormat to her husband and MIL , who suffered all insults from kids , have a soft heart - is it normal to be emotion less and heartless in one day! Can she abandon her so called family howmuch ever toxic they are overnight.. not at all

how much ever audience hate her nature, it is how things are.. even if you hurt your mom the most, the second you cry in front of her she will always forget all bad you told her in anger and come to console you!

Now coming to Anuj, he knew Anupama had her set of kids, was married for 26years, how emotionally vulnerable she is - he knew all this and still decided to marry her.. and soon after he got a kid with whom he had no relation.. He had been in “love” with the lady for 26+years.. yearned for her and now when a kid with whom he hasnt been staying more than 2-3months is gone he is behaving irrationally.. that was a foster kid .. and the otherside anupama was going to look after her biological kids.. whom she birthed .. Anuj’s character in actual has been spoilt beyond redemption!!

The idea of adopting itself just after marriage was ridiculous. Even law doesn't allows it n see the marriage broke in a year.

Anupama lived in shackles of responsibility for maximum part of her life n to a little extent she started living for herself.. doing dance classes or business.. but what anuj did again trapped her in same wife and mother routine work n now judging her on that. She wasn't even planning to get married second time or looking for a love partner. She was happy being Shah's maid and women empowerment preacher. It was better then what anuj is doing now. He made his wife a laughing stock now for ppl who would confirm to norms that "marrying in middle age was wrong decision" .

But any woman would easily fall for anuj n same happened for anupama.

No matter how much wrong is anupama what anuj is doing is can't be stated as right. He put her in same position which she was when vanraj cheated her. It looks like anupama was just a target to achieve n now suddenly he lost interest in her. It's better anupama divorce him n now not get married to anyone and shut the show.

I did not know grief was quantified by the time one spends with a loved one.

Then a parent's grief would always be less when they lose their child (even biological) compared to their partner, who they know for more time.

Well then Anupamaa should always stay at her old loved ones. She is the one who said to vanraj, a piece of paper does not change relationships. So why even divorce?😭

Her kids are so small they can hardly eat without her. She needs to be there to take care of their every need. Not only theirs, her ex-in-laws, her ex-husband, her sautan come best friend.

This final issue broke Anuj, but it had been long time coming.

I actually enjoyed the writing nowdays on the show, as it so subtle. All the pseudo feminism is coming out and people say this is women empowerment 🤪

All his love and nonsense for both Anu and CA is bemaani.. He doesnt even know what he wants. He chose CA because her name is Anu, dances, etc etc but now he is behaving as though the child is dead. His grief resembles to that when a dear one dies. He is totally obsessed with CA. PAA is more irritating these days than MAA. He forgot that their relationship was because of them and because of that CA

Originally posted by: DJ_3

I did not know grief was quantified by the time one spends with a loved one.

Then a parent's grief would always be less when they lose their child (even biological) compared to their partner, who they know for more time.

Well then Anupamaa should always stay at her old loved ones. She is the one who said to vanraj, a piece of paper does not change relationships. So why even divorce?😭

Her kids are so small they can hardly eat without her. She needs to be there to take care of their every need. Not only theirs, her ex-in-laws, her ex-husband, her sautan come best friend.

This final issue broke Anuj, but it had been long time coming.

I actually enjoyed the writing nowdays on the show, as it so subtle. All the pseudo feminism is coming out and people say this is women empowerment 🤪

+1 on the pseudo feminism. I am probably going to regret this but I do hope the writers are indeed deliberately writing it the way we've been reading it and that some reform is on the cards for Anupama.

Originally posted by: inlieu

+1 on the pseudo feminism. I am probably going to regret this but I do hope the writers are indeed deliberately writing it the way we've been reading it and that some reform is on the cards for Anupama.

I mean if they did it would be awesome. The problem is usually people hate changing themselves and Anupamaa as a character has even harder time.

Originally posted by: DJ_3

I did not know grief was quantified by the time one spends with a loved one.

Then a parent's grief would always be less when they lose their child (even biological) compared to their partner, who they know for more time.

Well then Anupamaa should always stay at her old loved ones. She is the one who said to vanraj, a piece of paper does not change relationships. So why even divorce?😭

Her kids are so small they can hardly eat without her. She needs to be there to take care of their every need. Not only theirs, her ex-in-laws, her ex-husband, her sautan come best friend.

This final issue broke Anuj, but it had been long time coming.

I actually enjoyed the writing nowdays on the show, as it so subtle. All the pseudo feminism is coming out and people say this is women empowerment 🤪

But for a relationship like anupama and anuj as they show in here ofcourse it should be like i said!

I disagree with the statement that he is acting irrationally because a child who had been living with him for 2-3 months has left him. The amount of love that a father/mother has for their kid is not quantifiable so I dont want to compare the love based on months he spent with CA.

While I understand probably not all foster parents love foster kids as their own kids here MaAn took guardianship of the kid under the name of foster care, he wished to adopt the kid and genuinely loved her as his daughter. So losing a child will almost certainly make people depressed and irrational.

Anuj's pain is understandable, but his behaviour with Anupamaa is not.

Anupamaa has her own set of flaws. I am not even questioning her about why she allowed CA to go with Maaya. Somewhere I agree with her that she didn't want to put the kid through legalities that too in a lost battle, but the problem is she is letting Anuj believe that he is a failed father. I got completely annoyed with Anupamaa about this matter.

While from the audience's perspective, I am annoyed as I know Anupamaa didn't tell the truth to Anuj, but for the character of Anuj, he doesn't know what CA shared with Anu, so him screaming at Anupamaa that too in public is not right, and him blaming her that CA left them because Anupamaa didn't fight or do anything is really not right. It's not only the mother's responsibility to do everything; as a father, he should have fought if he wanted to, though Anupamaa stopped him. When he didn't fight, blaming her is not at all right.

Now he is believing in some random lies that he was unable to win the heart of a 7-year-old boy whom he genuinely loved. However, blaming your wife in public is inappropriate for any reason. I had asked the same question yesterday. I believe Anuj keeps on saying she didn't allow him to fight, which doesn't make any sense to me.

He is an adult, and he should have made the decision to fight if he wanted to. When Acchi Maa said don't, he reluctantly accepted, and once accepted, he shouldn't blame her. So Anuj is a big letdown for me, and breaking up a marriage when a child has left is not acceptable. He knew she came with baggage, and at one point we saw him asking her to draw boundaries, but the same man apologised time and again for asking her to draw boundaries, and somewhere he himself asked her to go to that Shah Zoo.

Either ask her to draw a line and don't encourage her to cross it, or don't blame her when you encouraged her to cross the boundary.

Of course, Acchi Maa has been annoying because she keeps running to Abusers, and despite her claims that she has drawn boundaries, she has become immune to taunts and badduaas, so when she doesn't hear them, she wants to go to That Jungle and hear new ones. So let me not speak about her, but from the past few days even Besht Papa Anuj has become annoying.

Originally posted by: stunninstar

I read a lot of posts here bashing Anupama and blaming her for all the problems!

But for a person like Anupama who lived 26years as a doormat to her husband and MIL , who suffered all insults from kids , have a soft heart - is it normal to be emotion less and heartless in one day! Can she abandon her so called family howmuch ever toxic they are overnight.. not at all

how much ever audience hate her nature, it is how things are.. even if you hurt your mom the most, the second you cry in front of her she will always forget all bad you told her in anger and come to console you!

Now coming to Anuj, he knew Anupama had her set of kids, was married for 26years, how emotionally vulnerable she is - he knew all this and still decided to marry her.. and soon after he got a kid with whom he had no relation.. He had been in “love” with the lady for 26+years.. yearned for her and now when a kid with whom he hasnt been staying more than 2-3months is gone he is behaving irrationally.. that was a foster kid .. and the otherside anupama was going to look after her biological kids.. whom she birthed .. Anuj’s character in actual has been spoilt beyond redemption!!

same way is it possible for Anuj to forget the kid he called his own in a day? and we are not talking biological, fostered or adopted here, that issue comes later, spare me and yourself the time… Anuj’s character is spoilt yes, no doubt but Anupama never had a likeable one to begin with…the woman who doesnt bother checking up on her real mom is giving lectureson motherhood, what a joke!