Why love marriages break?

First of all i hear alot of news on TV that couple eloped to marry against family and than fought and divorced within 2 years etc And i always wonder you loved someone go against your own family girls family and world and elope and marry or against wishes of family Than why the hell they fight and divorce after a year or few years? If you had guts to rebel against world and marry why fight and divorce later - that marriage should be strong no

But than i realize love is different and marriage is different after seeing maan

Love is between girl friend boy friend no ex lover ex hubby in laws parents siblings are there

A boy friend has no real commitment towards a girl friends ex hubby ex kids ex in laws etc

Same for a girl friend she give a damn if boy friend sister is depressed or his parents are dead or alive

But than comes marriage to destroy this make believe world of love

In marriage you start staying 24/7 with a woman or man you start getting to know their true nature or colors or behaviours and their abilities you see

No human shows his true self actually in outside world its all make believe world there. Every person acts in real life to impress outsiders. A boy friend is outsider to girl friend till she marry him and vice versa

But once you live together you not only have to live with the boy friend but his family

Anupama may think i will marry anuj no mother in law father n law problems only e two bachelors. Even Mukku and GK kaka ran away looking at her behaviour and anujs towards them. But anuj brought CA to throw spanner as family between these two.

Same way anuj saw how anupama kids hated her and never visited her after divorce at his home or in apartments wow what a luxury. Lets marry my lover and enjoy life alas anupama brought entire shah house as family. Ok tll these shahs were far away anuj had no much idea how over bearing they could be.

Till anupama was lover for 26 years anuj had no idea how over bearing and dominating she can be you see behind persona of sutti saree. He had only heard vanraj was bad he tortured anupama and was angry hubby etc but he had no idea anupama too had her faults.

Finally after seeing all marraiges in anupama serial i realized this on marraige

1) In any marriage a husband or wife one dominates both cannot dominate both cannot be soft hearted

In anuraj marraige vanraj dominated so anupama bent to him

In maan marraige anupama dominates and anuj bends to her

Who bends in marriage depends on many factors one how much each love, who has economic power, who has powerful family or friends backing them, whats place in society, what are benefits in the marraige etc

If anuj had parents or he had married before and had wife or kids no way anupama would take him so relaxing from starting. He has none so she took advantage and so did shahs.

Even if anuj had been nice to malvika and kept good relations with her or GK kaka he would not be in such worst situation. They would have intervened for him.

If anuj had no so openly humilated ankush bhaiya and barkha bhabhi or left away adhik till they 3 would have stood for him

Like shahs always with anupama anuj would have 4 to 5 kapadiyas behind him too support him in crisis in lonliness etc he would not be so lonely or deepressed in life. But he purposely misbehaved with all for anupama and shahs sake and now is alone

But today anuj has none its his own doing his depression his anxiety etc

Sorry to say Shahs and anupama are like a pack of hyenas they can attack and kill a lonely lion on their days when lion found alone

Pls watch this clip of a lion attacked by hyenas how one friend saves his life against 20 hyenas when hes almost given up. In real life too you need such friends or family or nighbours etc in crisis. You cannot solely depend on wife and push away all others. Its same for wives to please husband do not push away family siblings friends one day you need them. Anuj greatest mistake has been pushing away all well wishers away. I knew a man who did same for wife sake pushed away parents siblings family friends etc to please his wife. He committed suicide few years back unable to bear his wife torture and loneliness. And this guy had kids yet he committed suicide because his wife was so over bearing he did not even think of his kids. If he had kept family and friend close he could have gone to them in crisis

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5YiMDNyCmmI

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Pls watch this clip of a lion attacked by hyenas how one friend saves his life against 20 hyenas when hes almost given up. In real life too you need such friends or family or nighbours etc in crisis. You cannot solely depend on wife and push away all others. Its same for wives to please husband do not push away family siblings friends one day you need them. Anuj greatest mistake has been pushing away all well wishers away.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5YiMDNyCmmI

You're right. They have systemically manipulated and isolated him to an extent where he became completely dependant on them and had no other friends or well wishers in life. I've been saying since a while that Anupamaa married him only on the insistence of evil conniving Dukhmukh and is the means for Shameless shahs getting K money. He was an easy target. But the entry of CA became a hurdle in their plans. Maaya will be proved to be a fraud in the future but what they will never show is her being hand in glove with Tamashahs behind the scenes. Anuj is a completely broken man now and finally the spicebox will lift up his spirits and in doing so, entrap him for life

Originally posted by: ShahH8er

You're right. They have systemically manipulated and isolated him to an extent where he became completely dependant on them and had no other friends or well wishers in life. I've been saying since a while that Anupamaa married him only on the insistence of evil conniving Dukhmukh and is the means for Shameless shahs getting K money. He was an easy target. But the entry of CA became a hurdle in their plans. Maaya will be proved to be a fraud in the future but what they will never show is her being hand in glove with Tamashahs behind the scenes. Anuj is a completely broken man now and finally the spicebox will lift up his spirits and in doing so, entrap him for life

Its anuj fault too he was too mad in love with anupama

could not see how mukku was expolited by vanraj

has not bothered about GK kaka since wedding with anupama

yes ankush barkha adhik are bad yes but every relative has some short comings some are jealous of your wealth or education etc do we humiliate them that too in front of spouse or the in laws even when they are right

I would say in mordern world nuclear family is a lot more reason to keep your parents siblings friends closer than fight with them to please spouse or her family

Because in crisis apko unki zaroorat padegi

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Pls watch this clip of a lion attacked by hyenas how one friend saves his life against 20 hyenas when hes almost given up. In real life too you need such friends or family or nighbours etc in crisis. You cannot solely depend on wife and push away all others. Its same for wives to please husband do not push away family siblings friends one day you need them. Anuj greatest mistake has been pushing away all well wishers away. I knew a man who did same for wife sake pushed away parents siblings family friends etc to please his wife. He committed suicide few years back unable to bear his wife torture and loneliness. And this guy had kids yet he committed suicide because his wife was so over bearing he did not even think of his kids. If he had kept family and friend close he could have gone to them in crisis

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5YiMDNyCmmI

Yes, they are two extremes of the same coin. Anuj became obsessed and dedicated his life to anupama. When its not reciprocated, he will eventually regret and be depressed. He has no support system, no siblings, parents, friends to reach out to and spend time with. His daughter is also gone now.

On the other extreme is anupama who has no boundaries with exes, has too big of a family (apni ex mil ke saath time spend aur seva kaun karta hai be) and doesnt give quality time to her husband or kid

Even one of these two characters can cause a marriage to fail, dono saath to were doomed from beginning

Btw, one of the biggest traits of manipulators and abusers is that they will always intentionally cut you off from other loved ones and take control of yoir life, frok Mukku to CA, Anupama has intentionally tried to cut off Anuj from everyone so that only she can control him