I failed as a father😥 - Page 2

Originally posted by: hinz

Is Anuj doing right by giving Anupama the snub? is this his way of showing anger towards Anupama for letting CA go without a fight or is it cause he’s struggling with his inner demons? the helpnessness of not being able to convince choti of his love was evident in his tears…He called himself a failure at being a father…and that he sees himself in choti, both are adopted and alone😥😥😥…

Does Anuj really hold Anupama responsible for choti’s departure from their lives or is it an unconscious coping mechanism to deal with the loss? Anupama did mention the D word…

If Anupama cared so much for Anuj’s mental well being then why doesnt she put him out of the misery and tell him what choti’s reason was behind picking Maaya, that will help him heal but no, all the woman does is cry and say he is beshhht papa, note not acche pita…

Nonetheless it was a fast paced, high on emotions episode with lots of pallu moments…dont even get me started on Bapuji’s flying visit to console his beti and the Shah kids with Dimpy the secret Shah who was sad enough to film Anuj crying, what a lowlife!

Anuj blaming Anupama is not right but she brought it on herself. That man stood like a rock behind her in every situation. Accepted every baggage of hers but she could not accept even one. Sunne me achcha lagta hai unconditional pyaar and all but in reality it is not healthy at all. If you keep on taking from a person without giving anything then he won't have anything left to offer you after some time.

Getting-used-to is to a relationship is what pollution is to air

Originally posted by: strancho

Anuj blaming Anupama is not right but she brought it on herself. That man stood like a rock behind her in every situation. Accepted every baggage of hers but she could not accept even one. Sunne me achcha lagta hai unconditional pyaar and all but in reality it is not healthy at all. If you keep on taking from a person without giving anything then he won't have anything left to offer you after some time.

Getting-used-to is to a relationship is what pollution is to air

Exactly, exactly - every human being has a limit

Originally posted by: strancho

Anuj blaming Anupama is not right but she brought it on herself. That man stood like a rock behind her in every situation. Accepted every baggage of hers but she could not accept even one. Sunne me achcha lagta hai unconditional pyaar and all but in reality it is not healthy at all. If you keep on taking from a person without giving anything then he won't have anything left to offer you after some time.

Getting-used-to is to a relationship is what pollution is to air

unhealthy is what it is and she’s maxed out on the taking, he has nothing left to give her now…and yet she seeks his full attention, selfishness redefined!

Originally posted by: hinz

that hit hard!

unhealthy is what it is and she’s maxed out on the taking, he has nothing left to give her now…and yet she seeks his full attention, selfishness redefined!

Kabhi kabhi hum bhi sensible baatein kar lete hai 😉

On a serious note, she sets a new record of selfishness with each track.

Her self obsession was clear when she wished herself happy birthday at midnight and was sad anuj was tired due to CA/Maaya drama and asleep and didnt wish her at 12.

It was sad and funny at the same time that a 46 yr old lady in midst of her kid's custody battle is wishing herself happy bday at midnight. Lol. I've seen ppl forgetting their birthdays or not feeling like celebrating when a family has a crisis not even as big as theirs.

Poor Anuj knew how obsessed she is so clarified how he had set the clock forward to not miss wishing her at midnight.

Originally posted by: Koms9

Her self obsession was clear when she wished herself happy birthday at midnight and was sad anuj was tired due to CA/Maaya drama and asleep and didnt wish her at 12.

It was sad and funny at the same time that a 46 yr old lady in midst of her kid's custody battle is wishing herself happy bday at midnight. Lol. I've seen ppl forgetting their birthdays or not feeling like celebrating when a family has a crisis not even as big as theirs.

Poor Anuj knew how obsessed she is so clarified how he had set the clock forward to not miss wishing her at midnight.

Originally posted by: hinz

Age is just a number babe, cause dil toh baccha hai ji🤣

Setting aside the moral issues of who has more of a right over the child, Anuj is grieving for the loss of his child. it hasn't even been days since she's gone and he's expected to have gone through all stages of grief and already be in the acceptance part?! Making a spectacle of his pain for garnering yet more sympathy for yourself from the rest of the family is plain wrong.

When Anupama decides to withhold or divulge information as she sees fit, she is meant to be acting for the good of others. But, when Anuj does that, he's vilified for not sticking with the transparency pact they have. She can see the torture he's going through because he feels he wasn't a good enough father for his daughter to actively choose another. There's self loathing and guilt being added to his grief entirely unnecessarily. No doubt she will argue that had she told him blah blah blah he would never have let the child go. But, why is it that she is the one who takes the decision and makes the choices. Because the child said so? A seven year old child?

Anuj is not blameless because he has fed her God complex all along. As has been said, "give little people a little power and it goes straight to their little heads."

This woman's audacity to demand attention for😡cefully and clinging to him despite him wanting space.

And that precap : Mere Anuj Laut ke zaroor aayenge...

UFF .. NEVER WANTED TO THRASH SOMEONE SO BAD.....

Why can't Anuj for once show her the mirror ???

Why can't he put right questions to her about how regressive she is ?

Why can't he fir once say that TUMHARE SAATH SHAADI KARNA MERI SABSE BADI BHOOL THI...

TUM SIRF SHAHS KI HI SAGI HO AUR KISI KI NAHI . MAI AB TUMHE UNKE PAAS HI BHEJ DUNGA PERMANENTLY.

MAA MAA KA JAAP KARTI REHTI HO BUT AONI SAGI MAA KA NAAM TAK NAHI LETI. HUMESHA WO AURAT JO TUMHE BADDUA DETI REHTI ,USKE LIYE KHICHDI BANANE LAGTI HO.

TUMHE LAGTA HAI KI TUM BAHUT MAHAAN MAA HO BUT TUMHARE TEENO BACHE NALAAYAK AUR USELESS HAIN. EK KA BHI KOI STABLE CAREER NAHI HAI AUR TUMHARE BINA KUCH NAHI KAR SAKTE

TUMHE MAINE KHULA AASMAAN DIYA , MAUKE DIYE BUT TUMHE BEDIYAAN HI PASAND HAIN.

TUM MERE BHAI BHABHI KO GHAR SE NIKALNE KE LIYE KEHTI HO LEKIN APNE UN MAAYKE WAALON KE 100 PAAP BHI IGNORE KAR DETI HO. KYUN MUJHSE POOCHE BINA UNKO YAHAAN PE LE AAYI ??

HAR WAQT BAA , BAAPU JI , KYA TUMNE KABHI MERE MAA BAAP , MUKKU , GK KE BAARE ME PUCHA HAI ?

APNE BACHON KI TAKLEEF Tumhe DOOR SE PATA LAG JAATI HAI LEKIN MERE AUR CHOTI KI TAKLEEF KA TUMHE EHSAAS KYU NAHI HOTA?

JABSE CHOTI GAYI HAI , HAR WAQT MUJHSE BAAT KYU NAHI KAR RAHE ?? MUJHSE BAAT KYU NAHI KARTE ?ARE BAND KARO YAAR TUMHARA RONA DHONA.. EVERYTHING IS NOT ABOUT YOU... MAYA SAHI BOLATI THI KI TUMHEN SIRF APNI BIOLOGICAL BACHON SE HI PYAR HAI .. ARE MAI TO CHOTI KE GAM ME DOOBA HUA HOON LEKIN TUMNE EK BAAR BHI USKA NAAM NAHI LIYA...BAS MAI MAI MAI...😡

IS RISHTE ME TUM HI TUM HO MAI KAHAAN HOON ???

KAUN HOON MAI ?

KYU MAI 26 saal TUMHARE PEECHE BHAAGTA RAHA ?

KAASH MAI TUMSE KABHI NAA MILA HOTA...

Originally posted by: hinz

Is Anuj doing right by giving Anupama the snub? is this his way of showing anger towards Anupama for letting CA go without a fight or is it cause he’s struggling with his inner demons? the helpnessness of not being able to convince choti of his love was evident in his tears…He called himself a failure at being a father…and that he sees himself in choti, both are adopted and alone😥😥😥…

Does Anuj really hold Anupama responsible for choti’s departure from their lives or is it an unconscious coping mechanism to deal with the loss? Anupama did mention the D word…

If Anupama cared so much for Anuj’s mental well being then why doesnt she put him out of the misery and tell him what choti’s reason was behind picking Maaya, that will help him heal but no, all the woman does is cry and say he is beshhht papa, note not acche pita…

Nonetheless it was a fast paced, high on emotions episode with lots of pallu moments…dont even get me started on Bapuji’s flying visit to console his beti and the Shah kids with Dimpy the secret Shah who was sad enough to film Anuj crying, what a lowlife!

I really dont understand as to what stopped him from taking logical steps, as in - first validate Maaya's claims. If she is really CA's mother, he has 2 options - one to adopt legally or to let CA go. And then if he let her go and is still attached to the child, he needs to make arrangements with Maaya such that he is able to spend time with CA.

If we love someone with all our heart(AK's undying love for Maa), we usually tell them clearly of the pros & cons of a decision. Then support them no matter what the end result of their choice is. But, if we want the end result to be what we want, we cannot let the other person decide. We need to be in control.

Which brings the question - Why did he allow Anupama to play the 15 day challenge? Even if did, it looks like he was overly confident that Anu would win and CA would be with them.

I am not able to tell if his sadness stems from losing CA or Anu not pulling her weight and hance losing against Maaya. But his line " you have 3 kids and nothing to lose, but lost my only child..... " is dumb. He knows that she has no vested interest. If he is the only one with vested interest, then he needs to do everything in his power to go after it.

The writing is so shoddy, that it is difficult to reason Anuj's ( or Anu's) behavior, and I find myself contradicting each day with my own reasoning🤔

More than anything, I am curious to know.... after so much of dukh dard and peeda, how will bhavya tarike ka holi emerge like phoenix?🤪🤣