Anuj and his reactions on everything - Page 4

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

why do people think that only mothers have emotions and are vulnerable? In many cases, fathers are more concerned and caring than mothers. fathers do cry seeing their kids in pain. Whats wrong in that. Maa roye to mahan, baap roye toh......

I have seen people crying for their pets.. here, is a child.. sorry, I am not making comparisons bw a pet and child. just to say.. are pets their bilogical kids?

Here, CA is family to him. he is very much attached to him. In anupama's absence and even when he was in wheelchair, it was CA who was with him all time.

Originally posted by: Harish111

Any parent will behave the same if they lose a child. It literally gives parents PTSD. And this is literally the day he lost his child. Trauma causes parents to behave like this in real life. Everyone needs time to heal and anger and displacement (blaming others) is a part of grieving . Again, its literally the same day as he lost his child, not like its been months or years

I think when we blame anuapama etc for not considering a adopted kid same like own, a lot of viewers are also making the same mistake, for anuj its same like losing one's biological child

This is so on point! If people expect parents to love their adopted children as much as biological ones and be equally fair to them, then why are they surprised or unsympathetic when those parents feel desolate and break down on losing their child? I just don't get it. For Anuj at least, she was really his child, she was his heartbeat. Plus, we all know that daughters and fathers have that special bond (as seen elsewhere on the show too!)

Originally posted by: Harish111

Stop differentiating between biological and adopted child. Many many parents love adopted child same as own and not everyone is narrow minded. In india we even taken example of yashoda who fostered Krishna as a better mother than his birth mother Devaki

Again ITS THE SAME DAY HE IS LOSING THE CHILD

What do you mean its too much? Is he obsessed for years? He cannot grieve for ONE DAY?

A father is not weird for loving an adopted child as one's own or grieving when they lose the child

Some of you people are made of stone. And i know what the issue is, you will do anything to justify Anupama's behavior. If Anupama was the one having panic attack, you will justify it as mother's love, but a father cannot love a kid, its "too much", its weird stereotyping

I was saying in another post that there is a lot of talk about 'mamta' but nothing is ever mentioned about the equivalent word for a father's love. In fact, is there one? I'm not a native speaker so just wanted to know from you guys.

@bold well said. People are so used to excessive focus on maa ki mamta on ITV because of the way characters have been written over the years. A father's love is often either not shown explicitly or is very subtle, even if they may have a storm of emotions inside them. They are expected to remain stoic so when a person like Anuj, who by the way has from day one been shown to be expressive in all other forms of emotion (anger, love, happiness, sadness, etc.), naturally expresses his fears and his grief, instead of understanding that this is how his character has always been people are questioning why.

For me, if he didn't behave this way I'd find it weird actually. Right from the honeymoon track they showed his story as an orphan and how he connected with CA. It was always him who was more invested and a person like him isn't going to find it easy to let go of his dil ka tukda.

Not sure what the future track is going to turn out to be, but if Anupama tries to make him 'get over it' as though it were a chapter of his life to move on from, then it won't work. Until their last breath parents don't forget or recover from losing their child. They may handle their emotions better with time but the pain can never fully go away.

Originally posted by: Sleeepyy

Anuj is behaving that way because he's extremely hurt and he is unable to understand why CA chose Maaya inspite of him being the best father to Choti!

He's behaving exactly the way any father would, this behaviour of his might come across as being clingy and possessive but losing a child isn't a trivial thing even when the child isn't yours, especially when you don't know where you went wrong!

If Choti doesn't return ever he'd keep thinking he couldn't be a good father to Choti which is more than enough for a man to lose his sanity!

I hadn't thought about this but it's a great point you've made. That's going to make him feel like a failure, especially in light of the fact that his own adoptive parents took him in and did a great job of raising him and giving him a home. He may feel like he'd failed them too. Of course, it's too much to expect this show to go analyze such complex topics but it would've made for a great arc if they had.

Originally posted by: Sleeepyy

Anuj is behaving that way because he's extremely hurt and he is unable to understand why CA chose Maaya inspite of him being the best father to Choti!

He's behaving exactly the way any father would, this behaviour of his might come across as being clingy and possessive but losing a child isn't a trivial thing even when the child isn't yours, especially when you don't know where you went wrong!

If Choti doesn't return ever he'd keep thinking he couldn't be a good father to Choti which is more than enough for a man to lose his sanity!

I thought of this post when watching the latest episode... they actually addressed this and had Anuj voice out that he felt he'd failed as a father, also comparing to his own adoptive parents.