I never said it’s okay to romanticised and normalised toxicity because it is not.I agree human brains work mysteriously but when it crosses the limits or does questionable things it should be called out and it should be shown in a bad light.
Killing someone for self defence is different from killing someone for selfish reasons or for fun. At the end it's killing but can killing someone in self defence be shown in the same light as killing someone for fun?
Any relationship to some level can be toxic for a 3rd person but a boyfriend being possesive for his gf and throwing tantrums can never be equal to a boyfriend threatening other people at gun point because of his possessiveness for the girl. Romanticizing the former is fine but not the latter.
When there is toxic red flag everywhere and one walks right into it then that girl/boy is somewhere responsible for whatever that happens to them.
A guy who is capable of hurting other people for a girl is fully capable of hurting that girl once he falls out of love or when the girl wants out of that relationship. A person's feelings for the other person can change over time. We have all heard of revenge p*rn and guys going to any length to destroy the life of their ex gf for breaking up with them. A lot of these guys might have been the type to go to any length for the girl while they had the girl or when they wanted the girl to be with them. Once the love or obsession or whatever they had for her went off they go to any extent to destroy the girl ( in some cases even girls do that) .
Slapping someone physically lesser can never be justified. There might have been a reason for that but cannot be justified.
Girls and guys falls for the wrong person all the time but it comes with consequences and not happily ever after. Two examples are Shraddha murder case and Sharon Raj murder case. Both shraddh and Sharon fell for the wrong guy and girl and got brutally murdered. It was shraddha's choice to be with that guy but was her choice right? Can their relationship be romanticized simply because she was in love and willingly stayed with him?
The problem is not showing toxic relationships, the problem is romanticizing and normalizing these relationships. Just because it happens in real life doesn't mean it should be normalised or romanticize.
In darling, alia's character was in love with a toxic person and she continued to see his physical violence as love till she reached her breaking point. The movie showed her falling for the wrong guy, being with him for years but it also showed how wrong she was to do that. They showed a toxic relationship but they never romanticized it. There are lots of girls like alia's character that continues to be in these type of relationships and normalizing the abuse they face. But just because there are women like that doesn't mean it's okay or it can be romantic.

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