I agree romanticising toxicity is not good, but human brain works differently we can’t understand how a person would fall for the most pathetic human being but they do like you gave the example of KTK, so I think it was in the subconscious mind of the girl that the boy has done everything and anything for her and who won’t like to fall for a guy who crosses every boundary for you, we have always bought this fairytale that one day your Prince Charming would come and do everything for you even if he has to go against the world and this is the point where Mafia romance comes, I for once can love a guy who slapped me but would never love a guy who kills people for money but this happens in the books and movies and the most angelic girls ends up being in love with the most demonic person ever. I seriously don’t know what I am trying to say but I think I can understand why such cases happens, because there is nothing in this world which you can’t justify except rape in my opinion. You can justify killing in the name of self defence, doing good for society then what is a slap in front of all this. Hitting any person is so wrong at many levels, but if you are asking for justification it is available. The world works on things one should not do and one won’t do, there is a difference between them and the difference is a Choice, if you have a choice to leave a toxic person then you have choice to love that person too and like I previously said a person doesn’t simply have a say in anyone’s life and how they make their choices. Mehek falling for Shamsher was her choice and she chose that man who went beyond and above for her by forgetting what he did was so wrong on many levels, I never watched Damon and Elena (I guess this is the name) but she also chose a person who was obsessed over her, it’s easy to fall in love with a person who would compromise their ethics for you. And by this point I really don’t know what I am trying to say but this is what comes in my mind after reading your posts🤦♀️
I agree human brains work mysteriously but when it crosses the limits or does questionable things it should be called out and it should be shown in a bad light.
Killing someone for self defence is different from killing someone for selfish reasons or for fun. At the end it's killing but can killing someone in self defence be shown in the same light as killing someone for fun?
Any relationship to some level can be toxic for a 3rd person but a boyfriend being possesive for his gf and throwing tantrums can never be equal to a boyfriend threatening other people at gun point because of his possessiveness for the girl. Romanticizing the former is fine but not the latter.
When there is toxic red flag everywhere and one walks right into it then that girl/boy is somewhere responsible for whatever that happens to them.
A guy who is capable of hurting other people for a girl is fully capable of hurting that girl once he falls out of love or when the girl wants out of that relationship. A person's feelings for the other person can change over time. We have all heard of revenge p*rn and guys going to any length to destroy the life of their ex gf for breaking up with them. A lot of these guys might have been the type to go to any length for the girl while they had the girl or when they wanted the girl to be with them. Once the love or obsession or whatever they had for her went off they go to any extent to destroy the girl ( in some cases even girls do that) .
Slapping someone physically lesser can never be justified. There might have been a reason for that but cannot be justified.
Girls and guys falls for the wrong person all the time but it comes with consequences and not happily ever after. Two examples are Shraddha murder case and Sharon Raj murder case. Both shraddh and Sharon fell for the wrong guy and girl and got brutally murdered. It was shraddha's choice to be with that guy but was her choice right? Can their relationship be romanticized simply because she was in love and willingly stayed with him?
The problem is not showing toxic relationships, the problem is romanticizing and normalizing these relationships. Just because it happens in real life doesn't mean it should be normalised or romanticize.
In darling, alia's character was in love with a toxic person and she continued to see his physical violence as love till she reached her breaking point. The movie showed her falling for the wrong guy, being with him for years but it also showed how wrong she was to do that. They showed a toxic relationship but they never romanticized it. There are lots of girls like alia's character that continues to be in these type of relationships and normalizing the abuse they face. But just because there are women like that doesn't mean it's okay or it can be romantic.
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