papaG & yuvi: adult child-parent conflict; am my own person - Page 3

Thought provoking post 👌 .What i feel is in every family with multiple siblings there is one sibling who is favourite and he/she becomes (in most cases)the communicator between the parents and not so favourite child .

Here it was aaditya but after he marries katha and walks out that link between Yuvraj n papaG was lost .and Yuvraj just did what his father asked him to do out of his responsibility keeping away his own intrests.

And Reet as she entered garewals after aaditya moved out she got all attention from papaG n MamaG which she loved as in one episode she said her own parents only favoured her brothers n ignored her so she always was deprived of that love .So she wants that attention from them n for that she wants yuvraaj to do his best to stay in papaG good books .here yuvraaj has to do overtime to keep PapaG happy n Reet too in turn he is exhausted and frustrated that despite trying his best he cant keep both happy .whereas aaditya he did whatever he wanted still is being praised .

Thanks for the tag mango.

Great post regarding parent-child and sibling relationship

I feel unintentionally parents always do comparison between siblings

I feel small token of appreciation or words of motivation always work on long run

Open communication- if someone feels unappreciated maybe by parents or sibling they should be open about rather than keeping it bottled up and building up the frustration

I feel getting validation from parents for self satisfaction is something that is psychologically build in all of us but that should not work on a negative term

Originally posted by: Twinklestar139

First of all, how did you get the time to write a full encyclopedia. Kudos to your brain for processing all these thoughts. I really enjoyed reading it especially cause I'm one of those people who rarely cares to dissect the other characters if it's not the main lead lol.

To your point about parents and how they value their children differently or not, I think a lot of it has to do with their own upbringing and the culture they grew up in which goes on to reflect their own parenting skills later on. We don't know much about PapaG's background, but I'd like to believe that he might have dealt with something similar with his parents and is now using a similar way of parenting on Yuvi. Ideally speaking, every child should be treated equally by their parents regardless of whether the child lives with them or not, regardless of if the child is alive or not, regardless of how successful the children are. For example, if one is more successful than the other, that should never be used as a means to expect more or less from the other. Hell even if their child is smart, parents should not be having greater expectations from that child. They should appreciate them and motivate them so that they keep doing well, but not expect so much from them that their own child feels undervalued every time. In fact, I really think it's not fair for parents to expect anything from their children and comparing them with each other or with anyone else's kid is a big NO NO. Every child is unique and they should be appreciated and loved for who they are. I know PapaG has many expectations from Yuvi but he needs to question himself about his own parenting style and realize that Yuvi is not Adi.

kekeke... the post was actually rather easy to write. 😆 I took longer to do the photos bit especially the 3rd collage as I am not that tech savvy.

on the face of it, yuvi's conflict with papaG is not that dramatic filmi. so I understand why people sort of skip over the family scenes. however, if you place it to real life context, then this type of conflict has far more bite as it is very real. so the post was really easy to write because it is rather common place. depending on the age group, the chatter around parent-child conflict looks different. but these are good convos to have and teaches you about people.

you raise an interesting point about papaG might have learned his parenting style based on how he was raised. it could be that the style he was raised under worked for him. so he didn't have a problem with his parents and therefore thought it was a good way to also raise his sons the same way. but as culture changes, what worked in one generation may not work with another...

it has been interesting to watch because normally side characters exist in many ITV dramas just to give pikachu expressions of shock and awe. 😆 but here, they are fleshed out and having their own problems that does not necessarily have to do with the leads. so how will it connect?

most ITV FLs are lecture queens whose nonsensical lecture and random techniques heal families. apparently katha does not have the golden touch despite being super woman. we already saw reet needling katha after papaG and yuvi's argument. so I am curious to see how the Gfamily conflict spills over into her life and why the makers are spending so much time building the Gfamily dynamics.

Originally posted by: Prateeksha19

Thought provoking post 👌 .What i feel is in every family with multiple siblings there is one sibling who is favourite and he/she becomes (in most cases)the communicator between the parents and not so favourite child .

Here it was aaditya but after he marries katha and walks out that link between Yuvraj n papaG was lost .and Yuvraj just did what his father asked him to do out of his responsibility keeping away his own intrests.

And Reet as she entered garewals after aaditya moved out she got all attention from papaG n MamaG which she loved as in one episode she said her own parents only favoured her brothers n ignored her so she always was deprived of that love .So she wants that attention from them n for that she wants yuvraaj to do his best to stay in papaG good books .here yuvraaj has to do overtime to keep PapaG happy n Reet too in turn he is exhausted and frustrated that despite trying his best he cant keep both happy .whereas aaditya he did whatever he wanted still is being praised .

yea, poor yuvi right? it does sound like adi got praised regardless of what he did except for his marriage with katha. but now that he is dead, he has become even more golden in memory as angelic noted. so even the stuff where adi may have gotten wrong is completely forgotten.

but in regards to whether it would make a difference between a single child and one with siblings, there are still parents out there who feel disappointed with their only child. in some cases, the single child feels more pressure to perform and if they are average and cannot fulfill the parents dreams, then it becomes harder.

I have heard of cases where the guy did engineering to please his folks but after working for a bit, took off in completely different tangents such as photography, traveling, cooking etc. at that point, the guy had his own money and was not dependent on them and felt free to do career stream he liked. and these were only child. after some teething, the parents also accepted the change in career.

yuvi seems like a nice guy but he is not suited to running a hotel or working under papaG. they might be better hiring an actual manager to run the place while yuvi pursues something on his own.

Originally posted by: Ssp123

Thanks for the tag

I completely agree with your opinion.

This happens in case of multiple siblings and sometimes it can effect the sibling bond

yes it is sad when partiality by parents spills over and ruptures sibling bond. when you are younger, it may be easier to repair. but when they are adults, then it spills over into larger group of people that includes the spouse and children.

while yuvi does not have a problem with aditya per se, he is indeed frustrated at being compared to and falling short. reet is totally insecure and already started showing teeth at katha. as of now, aarav and his cousin sisters get along really well. will the issues between adults affect the children?

Originally posted by: gina24

Thanks for the tag mango.

Great post regarding parent-child and sibling relationship

I feel unintentionally parents always do comparison between siblings

I feel small token of appreciation or words of motivation always work on long run

Open communication- if someone feels unappreciated maybe by parents or sibling they should be open about rather than keeping it bottled up and building up the frustration

I feel getting validation from parents for self satisfaction is something that is psychologically build in all of us but that should not work on a negative term

am curious about what kind of communication papaG and yuvi have when they are not talking about business. yuvi for example was aware that papaG had bought gifts for aarav and intended to send it to him via mamaG. he was also much aware before reet about papaG wanting to meet aarav and didn't think much about it. so we are not shown the good moments between the two men to see what their vibe is. can they openly share stuff or just chitchat about whatever that is going on? or they are restricted to just chatting about business. it would be harder to communicate that you feel unappreciated if there is no real conversation going on. so it would come out like a volcano bursting at some crisis point. it will be interesting to see how that gets relayed to papaG and under what circumstances...

am curious about what kind of communication papaG and yuvi have when they are not talking about business. yuvi for example was aware that papaG had bought gifts for aarav and intended to send it to him via mamaG. he was also much aware before reet about papaG wanting to meet aarav and didn't think much about it. so we are not shown the good moments between the two men to see what their vibe is. can they openly share stuff or just chitchat about whatever that is going on? or they are restricted to just chatting about business. it would be harder to communicate that you feel unappreciated if there is no real conversation going on. so it would come out like a volcano bursting at some crisis point. it will be interesting to see how that gets relayed to papaG and under what circumstances...

Kathas collegue having affair with yuvraj means all this is going to end up badly for katha .50 yrs of earthcon party n that guy singing for Viaan n katha s going to give food for gossip in.office as to something is gog between viaan n katha and this can surely reach reet somehow i think .she already saw them together. 😳

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

yes it is sad when partiality by parents spills over and ruptures sibling bond. when you are younger, it may be easier to repair. but when they are adults, then it spills over into larger group of people that includes the spouse and children.

while yuvi does not have a problem with aditya per se, he is indeed frustrated at being compared to and falling short. reet is totally insecure and already started showing teeth at katha. as of now, aarav and his cousin sisters get along really well. will the issues between adults affect the children?

Adding to that as per the precap on sonytv live, PapaG is telling mamaG that katha will be 1000 times better than Yuvraj in handling business and reet overheard 😆

Originally posted by: Viaanrocks

Adding to that as per the precap on sonytv live, PapaG is telling mamaG that katha will be 1000 times better than Yuvraj in handling business and reet overheard 😆

Haye how will an architect better in handling a hotel management business

Kuch bhi

I don’t want yuvraj to be hating on katha also

But I guess that’s the way show wants to take

U forget, before being an architect she is a mahaan itv bahu & FL - paidaishi sarva gunn sampann. Show kitna bhi hatke or progressive ho, there are some holy cow itv tropes that they will never change 😕

Looks like PapaG has swung to other extreme & become a Katha bhakt!