Originally posted by: SlytherInMe
I am making it a big deal because her entire basis of keeping it a secret was so foolish and dobi. She thought it was a prank? Okay and? She didn’t consider the risks in going to an ad shoot by herself especially if she was suspicious about its legitimacy??
Shiva never accused her of having an affair, stop putting words into his mouth. And his outrageous reaction was after he saw her roaming around Somnath with an unknown man. Any partner would be hurt if they saw their partner rooming around with an unknown person on a bike. There is a certain level of intimacy to that.
@bold, To be frank, while I understand that riding a bike with an unknown person could be an "intimate" act, I think the scene should be taken into consideration as a whole. At this point of time, Shiva and Raavi have both confessed their feelings for each other and have re-married. Per their characters, they believe in absolute love... which is why even after Shiva's supposed "death," Raavi continued to yearn for him or why Shiva would put his life forward to save Raavi if her life was ever at risk. But, him being angry that his wife is riding a bike with another man doesn't really make sense.
Shiva already is well aware that Raavi is a social butterfly (as can be seen during the Kanwad Yatra where Raavi had multiple guy friends who fondly called her "cat"). It would be very different if he never saw her interacting with other unknown persons and then all of a sudden was on a bike with them. But, since he's learned to accept her for all her flaws/strengths, (at least in my point of view), he should not have reacted so strongly to the bike situation. Really his reaction should've been, "Is that Raavi? What is she doing with that man on the bike? Maybe I'll ask her when I get home." For me, it's not an ego clash, it's just straight up lazy writing for him to have this reaction shown on TV.
I mean, quite honestly, if someone asked me what I was doing with an unknown person on a bike with them, I would straight up ask them if it was alright for them to be kissed by an unknown girl and not have any strong visceral reaction to it.
As for secret keeping, I don't think it is a flaw. I know many people who keep secrets temporarily. I think the difference here is the intention to reveal the secret. For all the secrets Shiva has kept from Raavi, it never seemed as though he had the intention to tell her anything, but for this secret, it seemed as though Raavi was going to tell him eventually, so I don't think it is "dobi" of her to keep such a thing from Shiva. She just wanted to surprise him and the family and there is nothing wrong with that.