Anupamaa Live Update and Daily Discussion Thread 16 Jul 2022 - Page 4

Originally posted by: Potato_couch

While I agree with you to some extent, to some extent it is also Anupama's fault for accepting this responsibility. Do you remember when Toshu was calling the baby a burden Anu very righteously stated that she will step up to take care of the baby and when dadi is there no need to fear. If you hear something are you wrong to assume that they will stick by their word when the time comes?

Doesn't negate the fact that Toshu is effing irresponsible for expressing his displeasure with the kid after planning for it together with Kinjal.

This is every indian grand parents favourite line to say-

Tum bas paida kar do, bachhe hum sambhal lenge

Aur unki inhi baaton mein aakar log apna career ambition, priorities bhul kar bachha paida kar lete hain then except of doing some, "alle lele...mera raaja beta/beti...so cute...", koi grand parent kuch help nahi karta🤣🤣

So if couple plans pregnancy because of these fake dada dadi/nana nani promises then they are doomed. And its their fault not grand parents'

Originally posted by: Bechain_Bulbul

So if couple plans pregnancy because of these fake dada dadi/nana nani promises then they are doomed. And its their fault not grand parents'

People prepare so much before adopting a pet and here we are talking about having a child. Phew!!

Originally posted by: strancho

OK after reading so many comments and opinions, I have one question. Suppose Vanraj and Anupama were not divorced and then they would have taken a decision to foster a kid? Would Pakhi, Toshu and Samar feel the same way as they are feeling now?

My opinion: They surely would be shocked but I don't think they would feel insecure about their new sibling. May be because father is same?

Tagging the moms I know.

I think You are right

First of all, in a normal family, members discuss even it's about changing the paint of house or bringing a pet into their family. The parents and children have genuine respect for one another even when there are disagreements.

Here, yes children should be informed about decision to foster a kid as otherwise, they will feel like they don’t have importance in mom's life any more. But this is applicable in the case of Samar only. Bcoz Paritosh and Kinju’s insecurity is that who will take care of their child. Pakhi’s concern is what her friends will say. If a few of her friends come and say, wow Pakhi, you have a great mom, she has adopted a baby. What a noble deed!! I can bet she will ask Anu to adopt 2 or more kids.

Moreover, they are not small kids who need attention, they will have their families in just few years, and then they will not have time to think about their parents.

These people would react in same way, if Anu-Anuj informed them about their biological child. In this family, nobody is mature enough to understand each other, with no concern, or trust…. Just blaming and taunts are in their genes except for Samar.

One question: If Kavya insists to plan for the family, will Vannu take permission from his kids before planning or inform them, once Kavyais in the family way. In this case, the simple excuse is ho gaya, ho jata hai, it is natural. How will Baa react in this case?

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

Here, yes children should be informed about decision to foster a kid as otherwise, they will feel like they don’t have importance in mom's life any more. But this is applicable in the case of Samar only. Bcoz Paritosh and Kinju’s insecurity is that who will take care of their child. Pakhi’s concern is what her friends will say. If a few of her friends come and say, wow Pakhi, you have a great mom, she has adopted a baby. What a noble deed!! I can bet she will ask Anu to adopt 2 or more kids.

One question: If Kavya insists to plan for the family, will Vannu take permission from his kids before planning or inform them, once Kavyais in the family way. In this case, the simple excuse is ho gaya, ho jata hai, it is natural. How will Baa react in this case?

I was never against informing. They should have absolutely.

BOLD: Pakhi was always a paltubaaj. Kabhi idhar, kabhi udhar. Uska khaali apna matlab bas.

That lady will surely be concerned of log kya kahenge but after all it would be her aankhon ke sitare ka sitaara, so she will give 5 panno ka bhaashan then.

Originally posted by: ga1986

Agree on this ... Had Vanraj and Any decided to foster it might have been easier , especially for Toshu and Pakhi ... The children , though of mature age , are still trying to come to terms with the fact that their mother , who was around them 24x7 , attending to their every need and henpecking them ( here it is Anu’s fault also ) , now belongs to someone else and her priority will be different.. Kinjal calling Anu in middle of night is an eg that though they are trying , they still expect Mummy to leave everything at the drop of a hat and attend to them ( a lot of it is fed by Vanraj and Baa also , who have always manipulated Anu’s love for the kids to emotionally bind her to the house and get their way ) ... The strongest thread binding Anu to Shah house was the kids , and they fear this bond will definitely weaken with Choti Anu’s coming ...

Btw for all the glorification of parenthood and motherhood that the show does , the way they are showing Jaltosh expecting Anupamaa to literally bring up their baby is wrong ... it’s better to have kids only when you feel you are ready , then expecting others to do all the hard work ( n parenting is a LOT of hard work ) ... Seeking support from family members is fine , but the way these 2 are behaving shows they are both not ready for the responsibility at all .... N why should it be Anupamaa all the time , there is Kavya who is more than willing to help nowadays , Rakhee can pay for all the helps in the world ... Kinjal and Babuji’s unhealthy attachment with Anupamaa is currently the biggest issue that will prevent her from moving on , I think Vanraj mentioned this to her in the temple conversation they had before wedding ...

And makers ko Shah’s ko ghusana hai so definitely all kind of tracks will keep cropping up however illogical they might be ...

Acc to the serial, to raise a child poora gaon chahiye, army reh gayi hai, woh bhi bula lo.

Think about those families where there are no family members to support them or Dadi or dada themselves need care 24x7. Before planning a baby, now parents themselves think that how will they manage. Even in joint families, kids are ignored, grandparents don't have stamina or their health does not allow.. what ever the reason.. Parents complain that their kids are spoiled, kids spend most of their time in front of TV.

As a parent, we can only give what is in our hands. life is about adjustment, one cant have laddoos in both hands.Every time family bhi ho, facilities bhi ho, time bhi de, yeh toh shayad hota hoga.

The parents should plan a baby only if they are ready and that to with less dependency on others.

Originally posted by: ga1986

Haven’t watched recent 2-3 episodes but going by updates , I feel we unnecessarily blamed Anuj for handing over the empire to Mukku ... Would have been better if she was the sole owner of the Kapadia empire , would have prevented all these unnecessary vultures from claiming their n their kids “ Haq “ ... Anuj n Anu would have lived peacefully in their 1 bhk doing matar cheelna or methi saaf karna or whatever rather than dealing with this Padhik n Backless Bhabhi nonsense 🤣😃... Asking to give us AK back in suits kitna bhari pada

Ab kya kare, galti toh ho gayi humse.

Now, bhagwan AK se suit waapis le le🤣. yehi keh sakte hai

I want ask - when the little Anu calls V "mooch waale uncle" or points to Toshu "gusse waale log" why does everyone giggle instead of correcting the child?

I do NOT like kids who talk overly smart to the extent of insulting others. Parents/adults encouraging(i.e not stopping) it is even worse, IMO.

Behavior like these must be nipped in the bud. If not, this is what will grow into "backless babhi" (?) kind of comments.

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

I want ask - when the little Anu calls V "mooch waale uncle" or points to Toshu "gusse waale log" why does everyone giggle instead of correcting the child?

I do NOT like kids who talk overly smart to the extent of insulting others. Parents/adults encouraging(i.e not stopping) it is even worse, IMO.

Behavior like these must be nipped in the bud. If not, this is what will grow into "backless babhi" (?) kind of comments.

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

Acc to the serial, to raise a child poora gaon chahiye, army reh gayi hai, woh bhi bula lo.

Think about those families where there are no family members to support them or Dadi or dada themselves need care 24x7. Before planning a baby, now parents themselves think that how will they manage. Even in joint families, kids are ignored, grandparents don't have stamina or their health does not allow.. what ever the reason.. Parents complain that their kids are spoiled, kids spend most of their time in front of TV.

As a parent, we can only give what is in our hands. life is about adjustment, one cant have laddoos in both hands.Every time family bhi ho, facilities bhi ho, time bhi de, yeh toh shayad hota hoga.

The parents should plan a baby only if they are ready and that to with less dependency on others.

Here I am raising a kid all alone and also managing household chores but still getting time to see this nonsense serial. But Anupama Didi will need a village to raise an orphan child who survived 7 years without any family member or caregiver. But Anu Didi's standard of taking care is different I guess. She believes taking care of a pregnant woman means letting her sleep holding pallu so I can imagine what taking care of a baby means to her.

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

I want ask - when the little Anu calls V "mooch waale uncle" or points to Toshu "gusse waale log" why does everyone giggle instead of correcting the child?

I do NOT like kids who talk overly smart to the extent of insulting others. Parents/adults encouraging(i.e not stopping) it is even worse, IMO.

Behavior like these must be nipped in the bud. If not, this is what will grow into "backless babhi" (?) kind of comments.

Second reason why I am not interested in this track at all. The first being obvious that the whole timing and Anuj's desire to adopt a kid didn't make sense to me when I didn't see him mention of a kid before.