Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD
Good question. IMO, if V and Anu decided to foster a kid or have a biological kid of their own, the existing kids would surely be a bit jealous and irritated maybe a little bit insecure as having a new sibling means you have to rearrange your life and lose a bit of your share of attention from your parents. But here the insecurity is completely different. Here the concern is more about losing your parents than your attention. Let's be honest, any person regardless of age and situation wants his parents to be together. Because parents are our pillar of existence and nobody wants this pillar to break. But divorces happen, husband wife gets separated. But there is a saying husband wife can divorce but parents can't. Deep down Anu's kids knew that though their parents are divorced they will always be connected through them. They know Anu loves Anuj but she will always share an unique bond with V that she shares with none, but now she will share the same bond with Anuj. Since Anuj is much more caring, loving and responsible human being than V, slowly the love and respect Anu still has for V as the father of her kids will fade away. That's what they fear. When you become a mother, anything related to your child be it his broken toy becomes your first priority. So even if Anuj is not Anu's first priority, through baby Anu he will slowly become her first priority, Kapadia house will become her first house. A woman can love or hate her husband, but she is always tied to her kid's father. Now through this kid she will always be tied to Anuj. The baccho ka pita tag which was solely V's will now be shared by Anuj. Before baby Anu only Anu's kids were her family but now Anu has two different families. This is their biggest insecurity. If the father was same, the family would have been same but now with different fathers the families are different. And in reality it is very difficult to give equal priorities to both family, somehow one always takes the front seat. I am both a parent and a child, so I understand their fear, uneasy, insecurity. They are not wrong. Their reaction is perfectly justified.
Agree on this ... Had Vanraj and Any decided to foster it might have been easier , especially for Toshu and Pakhi ... The children , though of mature age , are still trying to come to terms with the fact that their mother , who was around them 24x7 , attending to their every need and henpecking them ( here it is Anu’s fault also ) , now belongs to someone else and her priority will be different.. Kinjal calling Anu in middle of night is an eg that though they are trying , they still expect Mummy to leave everything at the drop of a hat and attend to them ( a lot of it is fed by Vanraj and Baa also , who have always manipulated Anu’s love for the kids to emotionally bind her to the house and get their way ) ... The strongest thread binding Anu to Shah house was the kids , and they fear this bond will definitely weaken with Choti Anu’s coming ...
Btw for all the glorification of parenthood and motherhood that the show does , the way they are showing Jaltosh expecting Anupamaa to literally bring up their baby is wrong ... it’s better to have kids only when you feel you are ready , then expecting others to do all the hard work ( n parenting is a LOT of hard work ) ... Seeking support from family members is fine , but the way these 2 are behaving shows they are both not ready for the responsibility at all .... N why should it be Anupamaa all the time , there is Kavya who is more than willing to help nowadays , Rakhee can pay for all the helps in the world ... Kinjal and Babuji’s unhealthy attachment with Anupamaa is currently the biggest issue that will prevent her from moving on , I think Vanraj mentioned this to her in the temple conversation they had before wedding ...
And makers ko Shah’s ko ghusana hai so definitely all kind of tracks will keep cropping up however illogical they might be ...
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