Originally posted by: Bottlewater
I want Ram to know the actual truth that it was his family all this while behind the miseries. I want him to feel guilty for everything he has done to Priya from bad mouthing her to let her rot in jail or only coming to meet her after knowing that she was pregnant, Blaming her for his misery, not taking a proper stand for her when she was leaving kapoor mansion, ignoring her at his birthday party, keeping Vedika at his home and insulting her by doing so, leaving her in midst of nowhere during akki fiasco . He always treated Priya secondary to his mother and brother. I want Priya to never return to him. Pihu can be co-parented. Priya already got her share of punishment of hiding the truth. She was in jail for 2 years, always changed her place so to make sure that pihu do not know her past and this proves that she is living in guilt , did not meet her own family for the past 5 years, was kicked out from the chawl, got a label of criminal, had to listen to Ram's taunt . She nearly gave up on her life during elevator scene. But remembered Pihu and hence changed her mind. This woman deserved better. First it was her father then Neeraj and now Ram.
I will hold Ram accountable for a lot of things but not for leaving her in jail and not checking up on her. I agree with most of your points:
- When he got to know about Raj feeding him prawns, he could have gone ahead with the annulment but before that he had to be open with her about it. Spoken to her, heard her out and then taken a call
- About his bday party, I remember him feeling guilty and his guilt seemed genuine when he found Priya in a drunken state. If he wanted to ignore her, he could have that without dancing with his ex too. Dance with Brinda, Sara or Sandy perhaps. Y Vedu 🤢
- Vedu - yes he was wrong there. But from the little of what I saw, he tried to help her as a friend. Not as an ex lover who felt obliged to protect her from her current husband. His friends and Sara are to blame here as well. When Ram wanted to tell Priya, y not encourage him? Priya had been honest about Neeraj who is her BIL now. So y could not Ram tell Priya that Vedu who is currently his friend and a business partner's wife was his ex? Why will Priya take that as a betrayal? In fact Priya was not interested to know herself in the beginning. But when Vedu got into their lives, instead of advising Ram to hide it, they should have encouraged him to come clean before Priya
- Shivi's death was unnecessary first of all. But if makers decided to show it, we can't do anything about it. Ram would never have forgiven anyone who were indirectly responsible for Shivi's death. Shivi was like a child to him. No matter how much you love your partner and you can even lay down your life for them but when it comes to a child there is no boundary you wouldn't cross. He was not a rational person from the start. He wore his heart on his sleeve and while sometimes it became his strength its always been his biggest weakness that allowed him to be manipulated by his step family. If he was practical like Priya, he would have thought things through carefully. He had an evil family by his side who had been manipulating him from day one.
- Yes his family sucks big time. But you need to understand the difference between Ram and Priya's upbringing. Ram was always an innocent boy who was raised to love and care for people around him. When VK married Nandu, Nandu pretended to love him but at the same time she never let Ram forget that she was a step mother who loved him despite not being his mother. When you love your own flesh and blood, it is something organic. Something that is supposed to be that way coz there is no other way to it. But when someone who is not your mother, takes on that role and cares for you only 2 things are possible - you either reject them in your life and refuse to acknowledge them (which commonly happens) or you feel indebted to them for eternity for loving you despite not having any bond with you. The latter happened with Ram because he was a very loving child. He was not a spoiled boy who would hate his step mother. He always aspired to be like his dad as his dad was his world to him. His father always kept his wishes above everything else and after he died, he was made to step into his father's shoes for his step siblings. Unlike Ram, neither of them felt an iota of gratitude for anything Ram. Shivi though was nice she always took Ram for granted. Priya on the other hand, grew up facing the harsh realities of life. Her father betrayed them so badly and with her mother not growing a spine, she hardened herself. She saw people for who they were and she felt no obligation before calling a spade a spade. For Ram to see his family's devious ways, he had to break out of the delusion he had been living in all his life and that is not easy whereas Priya lost her innocence at a tender age coz of MS. Even his friends who could see through Ram's family could not bring out the truth coz at the end of the day they might be like family but they are not. Even in friendship, there are boundaries one cannot cross. Priya was the only one who could have done that being his wife and she was beginning to get a grasp of things. But before she could decode Nandu, all hell broke loose with MS being found as VK's murderer along with Varun and then Shivi's death.
- If he could take a stand for Priya when he got to know MS tried to kill him, the least he could have done was stand by her again and let her explain about the number plate. Even Priya shouldn't have walked out with MM. She made a mistake there. She has always fought her own battles. Then y did she let MM take a decision for her then? Y didn't she also tell her mom that its her marriage and she needs to sort it out as Ram's family was her family too?
- Ram coming back to Priya only after he got the news of her pregnancy - this made me SICK 🤢 like I cannot even explain to what extent. But here I blame the makers for hurrying through this track. Maybe if Priya's pregnancy hadn't come out so soon, he might have tried to meet Priya provided he didn't discuss it with Nandu. But immediately after Shivi's funeral this news was out and it looked like Ram came there to see her just for the child. So we do not know if he would have come otherwise or not
Priya saying that lie was not right on any grounds. I do not blame her for keeping Pihu away from Kapoors especially after realising what Nandu could have done. But she destroyed Ram in the worst way possible by letting him believe he was so downtrodden that his own wife slept with another man and got pregnant with his child. Priya could have concealed her pregnancy altogether. This was worse. Or lied to him saying the reports were a false alarm. Was it hard for Nandu to get the reports changed? But even if Nandu had done that, Nandu knew that Ram would melt for Priya and even if she were not pregnant, he will try to get her out once he calmed down. Nandu did not want to take that chance.She struck when the iron was hot. So she asked Priya to say that lie. Why didn't Priya take that chance and tell Ram the truth and tell him she wishes to be away from him? She could have given the excuse that her family broke bcoz of him as well and taken a last promise that he will let her have the child and give up his rights on him/her? There were a 100 different possibilities rather than malign her character and Krish's along with hers. Krish was a friend but did that give her any right to spoil his name like that? Was it fair to him? What if he decided to move on in life and found someone else? What if Ram out of spite or concern for Priya, told that girl that Krish has a child with his ex wife? Priya has also committed her fair share of mistakes. Both are wrong here.
P. S - Sorry for the long post and I have lost count of the countless ones I have made here 😆 Though I will happily curse Ram in my next post, I wanted to bring out his perspective coz as much as we like to see leads who are ideal even in the fictional world, that is not the case at all.
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