Disagree fundamentally with Anupama's mother! - Page 2

Originally posted by: pink_doughnut

I don't agree with what Anupama's mother said today about Anupama keeping Anuj as her first priority. Perhaps, I am a bit more traditional, but I do not think Anupama should have any such conception in her mind. Be it her children, husband or her career, all are equally important. I know Anu's children are not so young that they need her constant attention, but as children of broken homes, I think they constantly need to be reminded of the fact that their parents still prioritize them and that they are not remnants of a left behind past that they do not wish to remember. I don't see the need for anyone to rank the important people in her life that way? Perhaps it is because of my personal experience with how divorce and remarriage affect family dynamics, but I felt hurt when I heard what Anupama's mother said.

I think anupama mom is right

As you age your partner and hubby needs you more than your kids or parents etc

Especially after 40s you must give 80% concentration on husband than other family

Because as people get aged they need care and love etc more

After 40s men especially start getting unwell life style diseases etc so wife should become mother and spouse both and give more time and care

Kids are big will marry or have married and have own life

But hubby has no one to take care than a wife

Anupama charcater is such other than anuj kapadia she cares for everyone else

Thats worst character of wife

Anupama both sons are adults have own life its only pakhi that needs mom

Anupama should concentrate on anuj and her own life

Thhen anj is also not toddler that he that he need every time anupama to. Agar shaadi ho gayi to bus anupama ko. Yahi kaam hai Har times anuj ke charo taraf hi ghumna ??

Kya anuj k khud apme kapde nahi press kar sakta kya woh khud bhi apmi migraine ki dawai nahi le sakta, kya khud khaana paros ke nahi kha sakta. Yeh sub anupama kare?? Phr vanraj और anuj mein kya difference reh jaayega agar anupama anuj ko khaana bhi parosgi in chote kaam ke liye anu ka sahara, Lena, padega anuj ko??

Ta

Hona to yeh chahiye ki chalo kaam to saari zindagi laga rahega chalo hum lpg ek saath shopping movies restaurant aur game khelte at least once in month

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Thhen anj is also not toddler that he that he need every time anupama to. Agar shaadi ho gayi to bus anupama ko. Yahi kaam hai Har times anuj ke charo taraf hi ghumna ??

Kya anuj k khud apme kapde nahi press kar sakta kya woh khud bhi apmi migraine ki dawai nahi le sakta, kya khud khaana paros ke nahi kha sakta. Yeh sub anupama kare?? Phr vanraj और anuj mein kya difference reh jaayega agar anupama anuj ko khaana bhi parosgi in chote kaam ke liye anu ka sahara, Lena, padega anuj ko??

Ta

Hona to yeh chahiye ki chalo kaam to saari zindagi laga rahega chalo hum lpg ek saath shopping movies restaurant aur game khelte at least once in month

I am floored seeing this statement.

@blue - what does it mean? I did not follow.

I want to say anupama ko ki shaadi ke baadbus anuj ke liye bus favorite khana na banate dikhaye

Anupama aur anuj at least once in month saare kaam khuch time ke liye bhul kar enjoy karna chahiye

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I think anupama mom is right

As you age your partner and hubby needs you more than your kids or parents etc

Especially after 40s you must give 80% concentration on husband than other family

Because as people get aged they need care and love etc more

After 40s men especially start getting unwell life style diseases etc so wife should become mother and spouse both and give more time and care

Kids are big will marry or have married and have own life

But hubby has no one to take care than a wife

Anupama charcater is such other than anuj kapadia she cares for everyone else

Thats worst character of wife

Anupama both sons are adults have own life its only pakhi that needs mom

Anupama should concentrate on anuj and her own life

I believe after a certain age, kids become independent, they have their own circle, own priorities. they don't have time for even themselves. nowadays, either kids are outside their home town bcoz of studies or jobs and sometimes abroad.

Only husband and wife are the best companions of each other. What harm in taking care of each other.

If a woman wants to be treated like a queen, she must treat his husband like a king.

and yess. work, kids friends everyone has their own role and importance.

if we talk about anupama serial, anuj never expects anything from anu. he is always with her in kitchen, even has prepared food, halwa for her. He always gives her priority

It really is very simple. Anu will now be married to Anuj. That makes him THE priority in her life, both socially and legally.

Let alone also reciprocating this total love that Anuj shows her!!!

The boys are grown up and don't need Mummy's pallu anymore. Exchanges regarding Pakhi can be done even over the phone. I've seen the expediency and efficacy of that in my immediate surroundings. Since Pakhi lives in a family set-up where so many people can help out, that cry for Mummy is really no longer needed. Not at this age!!

If the children would emigrate to America, where would they cling to their Mummy anyway??

Nay, let Anu start this new life completely and freshly with Anuj, unencumbered by these so-called responsibilities towards her children.

As for the Shahs, she really HAS NO RESPONSIBILITY AT ALL anymore. Since her divorce there are really no ties anymore, at least not of such a nature as to compel her to give up her married life to look after the parents of her ex.b

Selflessness is one thing, but the makers have made her stupid, considering her continued slavery in that house. And that rankles.

So, KANTA MA WAS SUPER RIGHT. It is now going to be Anu for Anuj, just as he is there for her - wholeheartedly.

And all this, by the way, has nothing to do with Anu cooking or cleaning or pressing clothes for Anuj.
As a matter of fact, I wouldn't be surprised (and happily welcome it) if he turns out to be actual homemaker from now on 🥳

Originally posted by: surabhi01

I want to say anupama ko ki shaadi ke baadbus anuj ke liye bus favorite khana na banate dikhaye

Anupama aur anuj at least once in month saare kaam khuch time ke liye bhul kar enjoy karna chahiye

maine toh anuj ko hi anu ke liye khana, halwa, chai banate dekha hai. yahan tak matar bhi cheel raha hota hai. maine toh aajtak kisi bf ko matar cheelte hue nahi dekha.

usne anuj ko kab imp di hai.

aur bechare ko agar migraine ki dawai de bhi di toh kya hua.

woh tohh ghar mei sabkoo ek doosre ki care karni hi padti hai.

anupam ka sar ya pairo mei dard hua toh anuj toh par bhi daba dega

Originally posted by: T4Thahaanfan

It really is very simple. Anu will now be married to Anuj. That makes him THE priority in her life, both socially and legally.

Let alone also reciprocating this total love that Anuj shows her!!!

The boys are grown up and don't need Mummy's pallu anymore. Exchanges regarding Pakhi can be done even over the phone. I've seen the expediency and efficacy of that in my immediate surroundings. Since Pakhi lives in a family set-up where so many people can help out, that cry for Mummy is really no longer needed. Not at this age!!

If the children would emigrate to America, where would they cling to their Mummy anyway??

Nay, let Anu start this new life completely and freshly with Anuj, unencumbered by these so-called responsibilities towards her children.

As for the Shahs, she really HAS NO RESPONSIBILITY AT ALL anymore. Since her divorce there are really no ties anymore, at least not of such a nature as to compel her to give up her married life to look after the parents of her ex.b

Selflessness is one thing, but the makers have made her stupid, considering her continued slavery in that house. And that rankles.

So, KANTA MA WAS SUPER RIGHT. It is now going to be Anu for Anuj, just as he is there for her - wholeheartedly.

And all this, by the way, has nothing to do with Anu cooking or cleaning or pressing clothes for Anuj.
As a matter of fact, I wouldn't be surprised (and happily welcome it) if he turns out to be actual homemaker from now on 🥳

bechare ki shaadi toh ho jane do pehle,

jo shaadi se pehle matar cheelta hai , Anu ke liye khana chai bhi banata hai

baad mei sweeping , dusting bhi kar dega, USS bechare ne kab mana kiya.

I may not have conveyed my feelings fully accurately here. I am not saying that Anu needs to abandon Anuj and run to help Pakhi or Samar whenever they need even a teeny weeny bit of help. All I am saying is, Anu should not encourage such narrative. Her mother said be a daughter, sister and mother but be a wife first. Why do we make the relationship with our spouse the most important relationship in our lives? For instance, hypothetically, imagine that Anuj wants to move to the US tomorrow and Anu has to go with him leaving her kids behind, I mean technically she can, but I would not blame her kids if they resent her. She said she will be present in Toshu's baby's life if he likes it or not. I mean technically she cannot do anything right, as in it is Toshu's right to decide who has access to his kid and who doesn't (unless he is an unfit parent of course).

I just think this narrative of our husband being the most important person in our lives is really outdated and kind of toxic. I wish her mom had said put yourself at the top of the priority list.

And kal if Anu and Anuj have a baby, I think she needs to assure her kids, no matter how old they are, that they are as important to her as the new kid is, unless they feel that the new kid is Anu's attempt to replace them with a child whose father she loves?

There is no right or wrong here I feel. It is not about what anyone should think. Feelings are feelings, but it is up to us to decide how we respond to them. We can do what our hearts feel is right, but we cannot expect the people in our lives to fully accept it, which sometimes is what Anu is doing I feel.

Pls don't think I am only critiquing Anu, I think Vanraj is a piece of trash who is not worth commenting over. And honestly the romeo shayar avatar of Anuj is grating on me. Very surprisingly the person I am enjoying the most on the show now is Kavya? Especially after the smack down she gave the entire family over the house owning drama.