POLL: money, money,money! -- Arpita & Sundar - Page 6

Financial compatibility is not about status its about how you save, invest and manage money. Here in America, many couple go through premarital counselling and money is a big part of the conversation including discussing outstanding debts, credit scores, savings, etc.

A couple with incompatible education levels can make do but incompatible financial goals will fail because while one person may live paycheck to paycheck other will max out their credit cards and put themselves in debt and not worry about it.

Arpi and Sundar will have similar issues, she is from a family/background where they never had issues with money, she may not spend frivolously but I am sure she never had to penny pinch so it will cause issues in this relationship.

Originally posted by: nmurali

Financial compatibility is not about status its about how you save, invest and manage money. Here in America, many couple go through premarital counselling and money is a big part of the conversation including discussing outstanding debts, credit scores, savings, etc.

A couple with incompatible education levels can make do but incompatible financial goals will fail because while one person may live paycheck to paycheck other will max out their credit cards and put themselves in debt and not worry about it.

Arpi and Sundar will have similar issues, she is from a family/background where they never had issues with money, she may not spend frivolously but I am sure she never had to penny pinch so it will cause issues in this relationship.

👏👏 - super!!! that is a real valid point. people look at status during rishtas to ensure compatibility but what we should be looking at is really whether our thinking and spending on finances align.

Arpita would not have to penny pinch unless she is in some situation where she has to only rely on Sundar for money. I don't think the feelings are strong (more close to non-existent perhaps) to elope...

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic -- I am keeing my fingers crossed that the writers write a convincing love story for Arpita and Sundar. I want good stuff to come to Arpita and not something half baked! we know that money can certainly cause problems but based on our discussions, it also comes clear that communication, alignment of values and goals also makes a difference when it comes to dealing with financial issues as a couple. so please writers, don't keep disappointing us!

So with regards to this track....they have always shown Sundar's feelings more, Arpita's not much....so if they decide to get them married, firs6 would be Arpita's consent...why is she suddenly being a doormat kind and letting family decide for her...Aryan's were valid...love is all ok but to lead life we have to be practical to a large extent.....for Aryan to consider Sundar, they have to show being rich and financially secure is not everything, a person who will stand by you, care for you and also takes initiative to further himself and provide for their spouse.

ASR can always help in setting up Sundar. As a loan or Arpita's share...blah blah.....all said and done it's in the hands of the couple ....talk it out and put all their concerns on the table. But it's drama will have to see how it will be handled.

Who ever believes that love will feed you…

Is living in the ☁️….. money and social/status compatibility is equal important…

The moment Arpi has to sacrifice her needs to the income off sundar.. he first adjustment is made.. and will she be able to do so each time…or will he bro step in…which will make sundar adjust to arpi needs…these adjustments will cause problems i the relation…

The social adjustment are also there… arpi status as a rich heir will fall will also cause the same problems….

I guess it has to work with understanding bw the couple

And also it shouldn't matter if wife earns more

The crux here is Sundar has no family of his, a house of his own even if it's rented ...or anything else we can't expect Arpi to go stay in T quarters or whatever...and yes financially stability does matter....we can't survive on feelings alone. How much ever hunky dory it might seem in the starting of a relationship as we progress reality intrudes....and Arpi has always lived in luxury...

Originally posted by: shali

Who ever believes that love will feed you…

Is living in the ☁️….. money and social/status compatibility is equal important…

The moment Arpi has to sacrifice her needs to the income off sundar.. he first adjustment is made.. and will she be able to do so each time…or will he bro step in…which will make sundar adjust to arpi needs…these adjustments will cause problems i the relation…

The social adjustment are also there… arpi status as a rich heir will fall will also cause the same problems….

I find it interesting that at least on this poll, there is not a single vote saying financial compatibility does not matter and it is classist way of thinking.... so guess we are all a practical lot. 😊

Originally posted by: aaradhaya1688

I guess it has to work with understanding bw the couple

And also it shouldn't matter if wife earns more

it all depends on the guy's ego and how secure he is in himself. sometimes he is okay but those surrounding him are insecure and so change the beat. also, it matters on how the wife thinks as well -- does she look down on him for earning less or is she okay with it? so the attitude from both sides matter...

I spent most of yesterday sleeping and resting after a really hectic five months so am coming back to say that ultimately I have no faith in these writers nor expectations that they will handle this track well. ITV is all love conquers all with these rich person/poor person couples.

Yet they ultimately go down the “well actually she learns English and becomes fashionable per modern standards” tropes (even if there’s nothing inherently wrong learning other languages or whatever) or when she or he when they have the rich girl married poor guy story, if they don’t learn English it’s usually a “hindi/bangla is perfect on its own and I don’t need to grow as a person”. This whole trope is a mess on its own but none of the writers truly stick to “poor people are fine actually/doing their best in a system stacked against them.”

I also don’t really care about sundar being insecure or not, I have a much bigger issue with his lack of goals that are intrinsic to him/about growth and that doesn’t even mean that he has to go find some fancy job. He just literally has not been written to care and all of a sudden we’re supposed to believe arpita loves him back and that they’ll make a happy couple that can support one another and grow old together? They’ve gotten a total maybe (fully just estimating here) 20 minutes of screentime and we’re supposed to root for them? Sounds fake. If the writers manage to pull something that’s digestible off, good for them but I’m not watching until it’s all done and figured out.

Okay now to answer the actual question mango, we live in a capitalist society. We unfortunately cannot just live off of love and happy feelings and canonically aryan is the only one who works in the rathore family/they draw money from all their businesses and they’re not gonna write them off/sundar will somehow end up in the mansion anyways so this is all a moot point imo. I think in real life however, I agree broadly with what everyone else has said. Two people in a relationship and sometimes other people (like if there’s an in law or any number of possibilities for people who the couple is responsible for) must discuss where they land on numerous issues including finances. What happens if someone gets sick? Or they have to move because someone lost their job? Itv is just vibes 😂 hopefully this makes sense, I’m eating sehri right now lol.

makes sense chotorani! 😊

I should keep my expectations low; I think if the writers were smart, they would milk this for all it is worth because there is so much drama they can get out of financial squabbles. however, it is probably not what audience want to see and hence the fairytale love conquers all is more likely. lets see how it plays out.