Originally posted by: tptwi
Wonderfully put, Grace! While I agree with you that Abhi is used to cutting his relations when they turn sour, I do think that he’s more dramatic than he lets on 😂 For instance, he thinks he has cut Harsh out of his life, but we have all seen deep moments of concern Abhi has expressed towards him. The thing is that as impulsive and angry has Abhi is on the outside, he has a heart that melts in an instance. Even if he holds grudges, his heart never stops loving. He was so angry at Akshu, failed to trust her, was being a complete idiot during the confrontation. It took Manjari to knock some sense into him, but he showed up when it mattered. He has to work on himself, as does Akshu, but they both really do make up for each other’s downfalls. They both can and will learn a lot from each other.
I was thinking more about his priority jaap yesterday in the context of Harsh and Manjari. This man has never been the priority of anyone in his entire life. He has always chosen Manjari, and Manjari has always chosen Harsh. Again, this is another root cause of his insecurities. Akshu is not responsible for them, although her initial rejections of him did deeply trigger him. It’s so natural to want to be loved, to want to see that the other person loves you just as much as you love them. But, again, due to his rash and impulsive nature, his insecurities at this point are clouding his ability to see how much Akshu loves him and how much importance she gives him.
Him asking her if she’s upset with her decision was really sad looking at it from his POV, because again, he feared that he was actually her second choice. This entire thing of choosing and choices is wrong and not how relationships work, but given his insecurities and how impatient he has become, it makes sense.
I really wish he could have heard Akshu telling Aarohi why she’s going to Abhi yesterday. Again, Akshu is not as expressive and shows her love quietly. She didn’t say those things to Abhi, but it was the gesture of breaking free of Aarohi in that moment and going to him that showed how deeply she loves him and how he truly is her everything. And yet, he could not see that.
When Akshu told him to give her time and that she’s slow but that doesn’t mean she loves him less, it reminded me of the Udaipur contest scene. Abhi slows down to match her pace, and they reach the destination together. Later on, she gives her share of the reward to him for him to take home. That is the definition of their love. She is slow, and he is going to have to see that it will take time for her to break free of her traumas. He will have to match her pace. And the thing is, when he’s being rational, he sees it. He’s the one who saw she was being manipulated by Aarohi when no one else did. But, in his own insecurities, he forgets that and loses sight of it.
In turn, she will give him everything…her all, entirely selflessly expecting nothing in return.
That scene was truly symbolic of their relationship before it even started!
I disagree with everything completely. A lot of things to be said, but for lack of time and in the interest of brevity, just the Bold parts:
Akshara is the only one responsible for his insecurities. She is still thinking about having her sister not attend the wedding or losing Abhimanyu and his love entirely. That sister who is a criminal, by the way, for hitting someone and leaving them to die. And that sister who actively destroyed proofs and blackmailed her into hiding the crime.
So many people have pointed out to her how wrong her aroo is, and that the choice here is between right and wrong.
But still Akshara can't even bear her sister not attending the wedding. But she expects Abhimanyu to accept her sister who almost killed his mother. That sister who was so flippant about the entire thing, lying, hiding, having criminal intent after the accident, what not. That sister for whom she routinely hides truths not only from Abhi but also from the family. She wants Abhimanyu to eventually forgive and accept that sister as part of the wedding. That's the hope she had when she went to the park. How insensitive and plain wrong is that? Even disgusting, in my opinion.
Not a single thought about his feelings, peace or relationships even though he has done a huge favour on both sisters by not sending them to jail. Which he did only for her feelings, peace and happiness, and even said so. Usually, anyone would break-up if they found that their partner's sister caused a life threatening accident to their mother, and went on to hide that truth.
For the sake of her relationship with Abhi, she isn't even able to bear the sister not attending a wedding for 3 days, which is appalling and proves his insecurities right. If she valued him and the relationship, she would immediately understand his mindset behind wanting the criminal (aroo) out of the wedding. But she's unable to choose between the sister's wedding attendance and her so called true love. That sister for whom she was happily going to jail, leaving her wedding and more importantly, forsaking the truth.
By staying silent and not making a choice, and repeatedly saying "I can't choose between the two" she's acting as though he's asked her to murder her sister to marry him. And she doesn't even realize that her sister was about to murder his mother. By staying silent, she has already made a choice - Arohi, and was broken and crying because she doesn't have the courage to accept and express this truth. There's nothing to choose here in the first place, but the issue is Abhimanyu holds no importance at all in her life. If he did, she wouldn't think at all between sister's wedding attendance and his love, especially when the sister has committed a crime that almost killed his mother.
It's so obvious that she repeatedly chooses Aroo over Abhimanyu, and his insecurities are only because of her blind dumb behaviour with respect to Aroo alone. He doesn't have any problem with her loving others. It's her insanity regarding the criminal Arohi which made him ask her to choose. "Rishton ki samajh se problem hai", as he said today. She doesn't understand rishte for all her self-righteous mahanta lectures - and the choice wasn't even a choice to begin with. There's no one dying if her sister doesn't attend the wedding. Whereas his mom almost died due to the same sister.
She's a grown woman who should be held accountable for her decisions. She's responsible equally in all of Arohi's mistakes and crimes by actively shielding them. No amount of abuse story is going to justify Akshara's pathetic behaviour, because her repeated defense of Aroo is very calculated every single time, and not spur-of-the-moment or just once.
She doesn't love Abhimanyu. If she did, she'll understand how difficult it is for him to not legally punish Arohi for the crime. Instead, she expects him to happily allow Arohi in the wedding after all that has happened. Anyone will be insecure if their fiance is so blinded by sibling love. Or if their fiance has such senseless and crazy love for anyone. Akshara has completely lost sight of right and wrong, and needs therapy now, not marriage.
She's just infatuated, at best, with Abhimanyu, and doesn't deserve his love, where he's ready to compromise on so much for her but she can't even recognize the need to punish a criminal just because the criminal is her sister. She can't even bear her sister getting such a miniscule punishment for leaving his mother to die and almost killing her. She has no place in her life to give anyone, since all the space is already given to aroo.
If abuse was a one-way route, then nobody would have ever come out of it. Here, Akshara herself doesn't want to let go of aroo and doesn't want to come out of the abuse. That's the issue. She knows aroo is wrong but still actively, soch samajh ke, supports aroo's crimes, which is ridiculous.
It's a conscious choice she makes, thinking about aroo's career and cries. Not a decision where she's majboor or anything. Before going to the park, she even went to explain to her "jaan" aroo that she loves her and her importance hasn't reduced LOL 🤢
In front of aroo, she has no self-respect, no sense of right or wrong, and acts brainless, doing exactly what aroo wants her to do. So, the insecurities are only natural as she's shown that he or his mom's almost death holds 0 importance in front of aroo. When she doesn't even respect herself when it comes to aroo, how can she respect any other person?
Edited by HahaHeheHuhu9 - 3 years ago
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