Originally posted by: iheartChai
@red I am so thankful that she explained this to him. It is true almost every decision we have seen her make has taken time. Especially, major decisions that affect people.
@blue I totally agree with this line. He makes these grand gestures and say these things but when he is actually tested he faulters. Even Manjari pointed that out when he wanted to cancel the wedding. Either Akshara is not worth giving that chance or you are not worth giving that change to her or the relationship. Understandably it is due to his upbringing and the insecurities he has that Akshara unknowingly at times triggers.
@orange Abhi is use to cutting and running when relationships become sour. He has no issues cutting people out and only those he dearly loves he holds them close. He is practical in that way. You see how he has cut his father out of his life. But no matter how much distance he puts the truth is Harshvardhan is his father. That is a relation he can never remove. So in some sense you can say Abhi generally does not value family relations as much. Hence if he had to he could cut ties with his family members if they behave badly like Arohi. Akshara on the other and value all relations regardless taking both the good and the bad.
Abhi is still upset and his emotions are running very high. What he said about his insecurities are understandable. He has little patience right now for anything. As some have explained he's the speeding bullet train but Akshara is the old school locomotive
He expects her to reach his speed but in reality things take time. He needs to learn patience.
Wonderfully put, Grace! While I agree with you that Abhi is used to cutting his relations when they turn sour, I do think that he’s more dramatic than he lets on 😂 For instance, he thinks he has cut Harsh out of his life, but we have all seen deep moments of concern Abhi has expressed towards him. The thing is that as impulsive and angry has Abhi is on the outside, he has a heart that melts in an instance. Even if he holds grudges, his heart never stops loving. He was so angry at Akshu, failed to trust her, was being a complete idiot during the confrontation. It took Manjari to knock some sense into him, but he showed up when it mattered. He has to work on himself, as does Akshu, but they both really do make up for each other’s downfalls. They both can and will learn a lot from each other.
I was thinking more about his priority jaap yesterday in the context of Harsh and Manjari. This man has never been the priority of anyone in his entire life. He has always chosen Manjari, and Manjari has always chosen Harsh. Again, this is another root cause of his insecurities. Akshu is not responsible for them, although her initial rejections of him did deeply trigger him. It’s so natural to want to be loved, to want to see that the other person loves you just as much as you love them. But, again, due to his rash and impulsive nature, his insecurities at this point are clouding his ability to see how much Akshu loves him and how much importance she gives him.
Him asking her if she’s upset with her decision was really sad looking at it from his POV, because again, he feared that he was actually her second choice. This entire thing of choosing and choices is wrong and not how relationships work, but given his insecurities and how impatient he has become, it makes sense.
I really wish he could have heard Akshu telling Aarohi why she’s going to Abhi yesterday. Again, Akshu is not as expressive and shows her love quietly. She didn’t say those things to Abhi, but it was the gesture of breaking free of Aarohi in that moment and going to him that showed how deeply she loves him and how he truly is her everything. And yet, he could not see that.
When Akshu told him to give her time and that she’s slow but that doesn’t mean she loves him less, it reminded me of the Udaipur contest scene. Abhi slows down to match her pace, and they reach the destination together. Later on, she gives her share of the reward to him for him to take home. That is the definition of their love. She is slow, and he is going to have to see that it will take time for her to break free of her traumas. He will have to match her pace. And the thing is, when he’s being rational, he sees it. He’s the one who saw she was being manipulated by Aarohi when no one else did. But, in his own insecurities, he forgets that and loses sight of it.
In turn, she will give him everything…her all, entirely selflessly expecting nothing in return.
That scene was truly symbolic of their relationship before it even started!
Edited by tptwi - 3 years ago
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