How to be a good daughter

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Remember, Atif, that I love you. I love you for how nuanced you have been in portraying the urbane classism and class-disparity vis-a-vis the Tripathis. Episode 14 remains one of the most impactful pieces of cinematic narration I have ever seen on television. From Dhruv's children christening humble potli as "Chudail ki potli" to the Tripathis caring more about Imlie's Aadhar card than setting up a fair wage for her. From Rupi showing her the shitty corner to inhabit while Meethi rummages through her stationary in PD synchronously to the conscientious patrakar reminding her to heed her jagah. All was gut-wrenchingly impactful. I know Aryan is and will be antithetical to this classist arrogance.

Also remember that I don't decontexualise things just to provide an outlet for underlying anger/hatred/frustration.

Further remember that I understand what it is to have unprecedented trauma at an young age and be forever relapsing.

Full disclosure hence that it's not an analysis of anything but the full promo. I am not claiming that the promo will play out in the show. I do understand that promos are supposed to elicit mass response, and this one has succeeded exceptionally.

Fuller disclosure : People will hate me for saying this, but there's nothing wrong or degrading about being a domestic worker. Not even if you're educated or married to a billionaire. Because, simply put, there is nothing degrading about honest work.

Now, in the past episodes, it has been established that Imlie and Meethi were impoverished and socially ostracised. It was further established that Meethi earned her living by working as a domestic worker at Auntie Blue's house— most likely sweeping and doing other janitorial works.

Why the f-ck is Imlie caricaturing her own mother's hard honest toil to fill their bellies in the promo? To one-up Aryan? WTF? She's making fun of herself and her own mother to get back at Aryan?

And no. This is not to assert her working-class identity against Aru's privileged one. She's literally doing a minstrel dance.

Now imagine, a domestic worker tuning into the the telly (please bear in mind the overwhelming caste-based disparity in the domestic and janitorial sector as well), this viewer is not only looking for escape like all of us but probably resonates with Imlie more than anyone of us. Imagine their profession being reduced to a caricature. And their humanity reduced to their mere occupation as Imlie rants about her pehchaan.

Imagine them seeing not only Aryan's guests being embarrassed by Imlie's antics, but also the only man who ever valued her— her husband— being hurt by her caricaturing, and disparaging her antics when it would seem that he's disparaging their occupations. When their occupation would be pitted against Imlie as an ineligibility to be Aryan's wife by his guests and another section of the audience?

What does that say?

Don't break my fuçking heart, man. Don't let my Aryan and Imlie be reduced to this.


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Posted: 3 years ago
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how can she be sooo sensitive yet soo insensitive at the same time is beyond me

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Imlie doesn't think twice before she makes her move.

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: -TeriMalang-

Imlie doesn't think twice before she makes her move.


well the age old argument isn't it?

she's a stupid teenager...

but the writers are leaving nothing to root for in her character which is disturbing at this point.

earlier when she was with Tripathi's she came across saner as the people around her were more pathetic,

but now toh

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: SundariP


well the age old argument isn't it?

she's a stupid teenager...

but the writers are leaving nothing to root for in her character which is disturbing at this point.

earlier when she was with Tripathi's she came across saner as the people around her were more pathetic,

but now toh


She is throwing toddler tantrums .

And they stand void !

She coming across unnecessarily rebellious .

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: -TeriMalang-


She is throwing toddler tantrums .

And they stand void !

She coming across unnecessarily rebellious .


rebelling is okay...

mostly she's relapsing and using aryan as punching bag

which he in any case intended... so he gets no sympathy either😵

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: SundariP


rebelling is okay...

mostly she's relapsing and using aryan as punching bag

which he in any case intended... so he gets no sympathy either😵

He is still a human with emotions in right place.

She is putting him through wat she had already been through . One sided relation . And humility for carrying that relation

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Posted: 3 years ago
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@deltablues - I had the same thought as well and found it in bad taste. (posted it here.) Servants were deemed part of essential services in our city. So even during the strictest lockdown, they were allowed to move and go to work. Why? Because senior citizens living on their own (with adult children based elsewhere) who are completely dependant on their servants for food and to get groceries and medicines were having a meltdown and feeling helpless. So the police IG included the servants as essential workers and many of them went about working sincerely -- to ensure that no senior citizen marooned at home would go hungry or be abandoned. My point is that the pandemic has definitely taught many in our society that every person counts -- from the top to the bottom.

Hopefully this promo is just nonsense and has no bearing on actual plot. Lets have Tom & Jerry fun upmanship -- gadhe! jungli! -- not this. 🤦

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Imlie will just make our helping hand even scream that no one behaves that way. Believe me the society is also improving. Their kids are getting degree, our helping hand didi's daughter is in class 7, our past helping hand bua's daughters, 1 has a degree in hotel management now and the other is in first year of college.


Who the hell Imlie is representing? The city domestic helpers are conscious and even the villagers have a way to behave and knows how should they behave.


First and Last she represents None only Downgrades the stereotype!

There's a saying people should behave according to STHAAN(Place), KAAL(Time), PATRA(The type of people who are in front of you) in Sanskrit. And believe me I doubt even Atif cared about it with this BIZARRE promo that is ought to hurt sentiments for the working class as well as for the elite class. Even middle class like me can't digest it!

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: SundariP

how can she be sooo sensitive yet soo insensitive at the same time is beyond me


Every time I feel a shred os sympathy she does something to make it vanish


How are even supposed to root for her?

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