Aarohi is depressed..what a joke !? - Page 3

Originally posted by: ayushisingh29

Yaar i don't understand aarohi's trauma..aarohi was introduced as a confident girl..who was career oriented and yes she wanted to marry abhimanyu but she never loved him..

So now seeing aarohi obsessed over her broken marriage is something that I can't understand..

I mean its not like that aarohi and abhimanyu were in a relationship or abhimanyu gave her promises or got physically close to her..they had NOTHING..

People so get depressed when they suffer a break up..but aarohi and abhimanyu had no relationship..they never talked to each other properly or went on a date..

It was just a marriage which was based on lies and manipulations..and it broke..that's all

And now aarohi is behaving so psychotic..and how can she even compare her own marriage with abhira's marriage..I mean the only similarity between both the weddings was abhimanyu..apart from that the emotion, feeling ,intimacy everything is different..

Even the most confident person can be depressed. Sometimes it's known as high functioning depression. They go on with their normal lives, achieving well in life but underneath all that they are depressed.

Arohi was never in love with Abhi. But she was in love with the idea of being Mrs A Birla and being part of a power couple. Presume she is missing that, mourning the loss of her dreams and now having to see it becoming the reality for someone else right in front of her eyes.

It is the loss of her dreams that is paining her. Hurting her. It is the loss of being the main star of the Goenka's that she is mourning. Everyone had indulged her and now to her shock no one even once asked her how she is.

She is not comparing her marriage...she is comparing the events that was going to lead to her dreams to the events that is leading to Akshu's completion of dreams. She is mourning that. It is hurting her, reminding her that she had been a total failure and is now coming second to Akshu - her biggest trauma. High achievers have trouble accepting failures and it can badly trouble them.

I don't deny you but if you see how she was shown to be someone who was always obsessed with Abhimanyu and win him. Yes she didn't love him but wanted Abhimanyu for herself. And Abhi taking proposal made her bestest dream come true .. So when he didn't show up on marriage can she forget him easily no .. And she never loved Akshara truly ...I don't think she got changed.. We human beings have tendency to throw our failures on someone else and she used to do that on Akshara.. Always blamed her for anything wrong in her life so now seeing same customs on her sister and guy whom she wanted to win she is not able to take it but that doesn't mean she is not depressed ... She is depressed, feeling suffocated , mad and that's because of how writers rushed things

Originally posted by: Harshadfan21

I don't deny you but if you see how she was shown to be someone who was always obsessed with Abhimanyu and win him. Yes she didn't love him but wanted Abhimanyu for herself. And Abhi taking proposal made her bestest dream come true .. So when he didn't show up on marriage can she forget him easily no .. And she never loved Akshara truly ...I don't think she got changed.. We human beings have tendency to throw our failures on someone else and she used to do that on Akshara.. Always blamed her for anything wrong in her life so now seeing same customs on her sister and guy whom she wanted to win she is not able to take it but that doesn't mean she is not depressed ... She is depressed, feeling suffocated , mad and that's because of how writers rushed things

Aarohi never loved abhimanyu but she was obsessed with the idea of being with abhimanyu..

She herself admitted on her broken wedding day that she was dying to marry him as he was her dream man..

But abhimanyu rejecting her brutally twice for akshara has taken a toll on her and she's not able to cope up with it..

Its just that she's not able to take the rejection

But again in season 2 gayu was also deeply in love with kartik but she backed off the moment she got to know about kaira being in love..plus gayu also happily celebrated Kaira's wedding..so yeah there are girls who know how to take rejections gracefully and aarohi is not one of them

Originally posted by: Harshadfan21

I don't deny you but if you see how she was shown to be someone who was always obsessed with Abhimanyu and win him. Yes she didn't love him but wanted Abhimanyu for herself. And Abhi taking proposal made her bestest dream come true .. So when he didn't show up on marriage can she forget him easily no .. And she never loved Akshara truly ...I don't think she got changed.. We human beings have tendency to throw our failures on someone else and she used to do that on Akshara.. Always blamed her for anything wrong in her life so now seeing same customs on her sister and guy whom she wanted to win she is not able to take it but that doesn't mean she is not depressed ... She is depressed, feeling suffocated , mad and that's because of how writers rushed things

@ red, 🤣 so true. It's like they are in a race and leaving things half baked!😆

Arohi is a child who had wanted Abhi the doll. It was in her grasp then somehow she lost it.

We will now be seeing her getting more and more triggered...it will be affecting everyone but I think Abhi is going to get fed up.

Bet he is wishing Akshu had listened to him when he said they should have eloped!😊😆

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

@ red, 🤣 so true. It's like they are in a race and leaving things half baked!😆

Arohi is a child who had wanted Abhi the doll. It was in her grasp then somehow she lost it.

We will now be seeing her getting more and more triggered...it will be affecting everyone but I think Abhi is going to get fed up.

Bet he is wishing Akshu had listened to him when he said they should have eloped!😊😆

Haaaaa haaaa exactly 💯💯💯💯

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

Even the most confident person can be depressed. Sometimes it's known as high functioning depression. They go on with their normal lives, achieving well in life but underneath all that they are depressed.

Arohi was never in love with Abhi. But she was in love with the idea of being Mrs A Birla and being part of a power couple. Presume she is missing that, mourning the loss of her dreams and now having to see it becoming the reality for someone else right in front of her eyes.

It is the loss of her dreams that is paining her. Hurting her. It is the loss of being the main star of the Goenka's that she is mourning. Everyone had indulged her and now to her shock no one even once asked her how she is.

She is not comparing her marriage...she is comparing the events that was going to lead to her dreams to the events that is leading to Akshu's completion of dreams. She is mourning that. It is hurting her, reminding her that she had been a total failure and is now coming second to Akshu - her biggest trauma. High achievers have trouble accepting failures and it can badly trouble them.

I think I was trying to say same thing but you explained more beautifully ❤️❤️❤️

Arohi is a spoilt brat her entitled behaviour was pushed by her family without any discipline. She's so used to getting what she wants that she can't take it that someone had said no to her. Now she throwing a tantrum and chucking all her toys out of the pram! I don't think she has depression but it classic traits of narcissist behaviour! If she can't get what she wants then why should the other person especially akshu be happy. I just watched a few clips of kid Arohi on twitter! My god my blood is boiling! The worst mistake abhi did was propose marriage to Arohi! I was so looking forward the wedding rituals, especially the mehendi where I wanted akshu to hide her mehendi from abhi because the fear of it getting erased like last time, then an heart to heart of how she felt and how he felt during that time!

Originally posted by: Harshadfan21

Haaaaa haaaa exactly 💯💯💯💯

I think everything is leading them back to that moment, where they will end up having a small wedding with no one or just few family.

Abhis seriously on the verge of losing his temper with Arohi.😈

I really wish this trigger/depression has not been introduced. It is not something for a show like YRKKH to show as they won't deal with properly.

Pasting my comment from another thread ----

It doesn't matter to me whether Aarohi actually switched the cards or not. What matters is the intention. She was about to throw paint to destroy the card AND she was carrying around the card all morning... so even if it was not her doing, it was her wish all along.

Back track to even before the card fiasco...

She purposefully knocked over the tilak AND tried ruining the wedding pictures, which is why Abhi warned her in the first place. Abhi is impulsive and does not control his words, but he is not wrong at all to be suspicious of her and be on high alert around her. He has experienced first hand what she is capable of! I think that people saying that Abhi is triggering Aarohi are failing to see that the only reason why Abhi is warning Aarohi is because of her own nature and her own actions!

Back tracking another step to before the tilak ceremony...

She purposefully revealed that Abhira and Kaisha were at the park to Manish... because again, they had something that she did not. See, if Aarohi was just feeling bad and crying and having flashabacks, I would truly sympathsize for her. But it is the fact that she is going out of her way to try to ruin things for her own sister that shows her true intentions. It is human nature to feel bad and maybe even a little jealous in Aarohi's circumstances...but the extent to which Aarohi's jealously escalates and the kaands she creates are entirely unacceptable.

Aarohi was totally fine and even "forgave" Akshu while Abhira were separated. But, the second she saw that the families were accepting them, she started plotting again. I don't think she is shown to be flip flopping. This is just who is she. As long as she is on "top", she is happy and carefree. The second someone, especially Akshu, gets "something" that she does not have, she loses it.

This was her problem with Abhira in the first place...she could not understand why Abhi loved Akshu and not her...because in her mind, Akshu has been and always will be inferior to her. That is why again, the nurses's comments led her to say "I will show you who's best" yesterday...because she needs to prove to herself that she is better than Akshu in every way possible...she cannot hear a single nice thing said about anyone except herself.

Also, signs are pointing that this time, Aarohi's target is on Abhi's back. She is jealous of Akshu and cannot see her happy, but as she herself said, she wants to cut Abhi's wings. Why? Because he had the audacity to call her out on her actions. Because he is not falling prey to her act of being a victim. She is going to try to harm him, which won't go down well with Akshu at all. Because, Akshu can tolerate all the pain and suffering in the word...but she cannot tolerate Abhi being harmed. She will go against the entire family and put her own life in jeopardy too...as we have already seen multiple times by now.

I truly believe that nothing and no one can put Aarohi in her place except Akshu. She thinks Akshu is emotionally weak and that she can keep manipulating her and using Akshu's love for her against her. But, Akshu is actually the strongest character in this show. Someone's calmness and love does not make them weak...and Aarohi does not understand that.

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On the topic of depression, it infuriates me that the makers are making a mockery out of mental health, so I would rather not comment. All I will say is that mental health does not come and go like this... it does not suddenly appear the second your sister starts experiencing happiness. This is jealously, ego, and entitlement. Nothing else.

Originally posted by: ayushisingh29

yeah I get your point..

Aarohi never loved abhimanyu but she was obsessed with the idea of being with abhimanyu..

She herself admitted on her broken wedding day that she was dying to marry him as he was her dream man..

But abhimanyu rejecting her brutally twice for akshara has taken a toll on her and she's not able to cope up with it..

Its just that she's not able to take the rejection

But again in season 2 gayu was also deeply in love with kartik but she backed off the moment she got to know about kaira being in love..plus gayu also happily celebrated Kaira's wedding..so yeah there are girls who know how to take rejections gracefully and aarohi is not one of them