Mukku is too sensitive from childhood that's why.

Anuj said Mukku was too sensitive from childhood . I think agar kisi aur lady ke saath ye incident hua hota to wo police case kar deti as she was in USA also but i think Mukku darr gayi as usne kabhi ye sab dekha nahi tha wo bahut naazo se pali thi. So she did not told her brother about her abusive husband . Jab uske husband ne pehli baar uspe haath uthaya usi waqt usko Anuj ko batakar police case karna chahiye tha .

Domestic abuse doesn't happen in one moment where they hit you and u walk out of the relationship....it starts with subtle ways where the abuser begins with saying manipulative and rude things and then apologizing saying it was 'out of love'.

Self confidence is then killed...the person is made to feel small, first in private and then in front of people (trust me one won't even understand this is happening to them until its too late).

Being in US or anywhere doesn't make a difference.

The educated ones have to deal more with the mental abuse cos there both are equally qualified, but despite that women will be put down in subtle ways. Women don't voice it for various reasons ( all justified cos to each their own)

I've had a friend who was victim of domestic abuse in the US and kept forgiving her husband cos 'he apologised', 'suddenly hit her cos of anger' 'didnt mean it' 'he wouldn't have done it if she didn't trigger him' 'u hit me back if u want to' ' u earned that beating' and so on...she kept blaming herself for his poor behaviour. It's more psychological and definitely not easy to identify it's happening to oneself till it's late.

People don't walk out because they are even more scared of the life ahead if this relationship breaks. They can't see a positive side ahead so they find positives in an abusive relationship and continue tolerating both physical and mental violence.

And no amount of 'duniya dekhna' prepares you for this. One has an image of one's life, ones partner and ones future...one won't sabotage it before giving it multiple attempts to work it out, especially women...we won't give up without trying everything.

I know women who know they should go to the police station, but don't do it cos they are worried about the consequences. Be it backlash from police , family, inlaws everyone they know...they don't want more problems.

Women need awareness, financial independence, strong family support, very high self respect and (constant) self confidence to confront mental and physical abusers and walk out of such relationships -be it marriage, live-in or any relationship. It definitely takes more than what we can imagine.

Originally posted by: U_nicorn

Domestic abuse doesn't happen in one moment where they hit you and u walk out of the relationship....it starts with subtle ways where the abuser begins with saying manipulative and rude things and then apologizing saying it was 'out of love'.

Self confidence is then killed...the person is made to feel small, first in private and then in front of people (trust me one won't even understand this is happening to them until its too late).

Being in US or anywhere doesn't make a difference.

The educated ones have to deal more with the mental abuse cos there both are equally qualified, but despite that women will be put down in subtle ways. Women don't voice it for various reasons ( all justified cos to each their own)

I've had a friend who was victim of domestic abuse in the US and kept forgiving her husband cos 'he apologised', 'suddenly hit her cos of anger' 'didnt mean it' 'he wouldn't have done it if she didn't trigger him' 'u hit me back if u want to' ' u earned that beating' and so on...she kept blaming herself for his poor behaviour. It's more psychological and definitely not easy to identify it's happening to oneself till it's late.

People don't walk out because they are even more scared of the life ahead if this relationship breaks. They can't see a positive side ahead so they find positives in an abusive relationship and continue tolerating both physical and mental violence.

And no amount of 'duniya dekhna' prepares you for this. One has an image of one's life, ones partner and ones future...one won't sabotage it before giving it multiple attempts to work it out, especially women...we won't give up without trying everything.

I know women who know they should go to the police station, but don't do it cos they are worried about the consequences. Be it backlash from police , family, inlaws everyone they know...they don't want more problems.

Women need awareness, financial independence, strong family support, very high self respect and (constant) self confidence to confront mental and physical abusers and walk out of such relationships -be it marriage, live-in or any relationship. It definitely takes more than what we can imagine.

I know once case in USA jaha wife ne Husband ki police complain ki aur police le bhi gayi par ek do din mein society pressure mein case wapas bhi lena pada. IN USA also wife complain kar deti hai police aake le bhi jaati hai par phir wife ko hi pressure mein aake case wapas lena padta hai.

I am sorry that your friend had to suffer that way. I hope she's doing fine now.

Rest, completely agree with everything you have said.

Originally posted by: U_nicorn

Domestic abuse doesn't happen in one moment where they hit you and u walk out of the relationship....it starts with subtle ways where the abuser begins with saying manipulative and rude things and then apologizing saying it was 'out of love'.

Self confidence is then killed...the person is made to feel small, first in private and then in front of people (trust me one won't even understand this is happening to them until its too late).

Being in US or anywhere doesn't make a difference.

The educated ones have to deal more with the mental abuse cos there both are equally qualified, but despite that women will be put down in subtle ways. Women don't voice it for various reasons ( all justified cos to each their own)

I've had a friend who was victim of domestic abuse in the US and kept forgiving her husband cos 'he apologised', 'suddenly hit her cos of anger' 'didnt mean it' 'he wouldn't have done it if she didn't trigger him' 'u hit me back if u want to' ' u earned that beating' and so on...she kept blaming herself for his poor behaviour. It's more psychological and definitely not easy to identify it's happening to oneself till it's late.

People don't walk out because they are even more scared of the life ahead if this relationship breaks. They can't see a positive side ahead so they find positives in an abusive relationship and continue tolerating both physical and mental violence.

And no amount of 'duniya dekhna' prepares you for this. One has an image of one's life, ones partner and ones future...one won't sabotage it before giving it multiple attempts to work it out, especially women...we won't give up without trying everything.

I know women who know they should go to the police station, but don't do it cos they are worried about the consequences. Be it backlash from police , family, inlaws everyone they know...they don't want more problems.

Women need awareness, financial independence, strong family support, very high self respect and (constant) self confidence to confront mental and physical abusers and walk out of such relationships -be it marriage, live-in or any relationship. It definitely takes more than what we can imagine.

This makes sense but i think Mukku's childhood also is somewhere responsible. She was too innocent and sensitive as Anuj said ki agar wo mazaak mein bhi kabhi gusse mein ghurta to wo saham jaati thi.

USA kisi aur planet pe nahi hai. Issi duniya mein hai. Rampant misogyny waha bhai hai. Rich logo ka police pe pressure waha bhi chalta hai.

In USA, 1 in 7 women and 1 in 25 men suffer through domestic violence. Stop blaming survivors for not reacting appropriately enough. Domestic violence is a huge betrayal of trust that crumbles your entire world. There are enough 'strong' people who aren't able to react swiftly enough in such situations. Jab tak khud pe nahi beet-ti, aisi baatein bola bohot easy hota hai.

Moreover, Malvika's husband didn't just hit her. He raped & emotionally abused her too. Standing up against all that is even harder.

PS. Did they ever say that Malvika was married off to USA? IIRC Anuj only said her husband was US-return or something.