Leela had a valid point - Page 3

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Saaf Matlab baa can say anithing any where. Kisi ke bare mein bura kyo sochna. Anupama ne kya bigaada hai baa.that she keep cursing anupama

Aur waise bhi aaj tuk leela kisi baat se khush hui hai? usko kisi na kisi cheez problem rahi hai. Aise log to bus bahana dhundte hai ghar mein jhagda kar neeche liye

Anupamaa uski choice ki bahu nahi thi simple. Whether usne kuch bigaada ho ya nahi, usko bas anupama as DIL nahin chahiye thi that's why she is cursing her as way of making herself feel better about it.

See agar uske hissab se ghar mein kuch na ho toh woh chiddi hui rahegi, uski saas ne kabhi uski nahi suni toh woh bhi anupama ki nahi sunna chahti.

Originally posted by: Rein123

But this is not their first diwali now is it? Before this he celebrated all his diwali's with her only that time he did not find her aggressive? He cares more about Anupamaa then his wife. Why did he have to go to Anupamaa during Diwali knowing how she'd react to it?

It's not about demanding equal rights on the ancestral property, it was the tone he used with her when he asked to leave the factory. To her that was insulting given it came from her husband out of all people. When he didn't think twice before insulting her then given her nature it was obvious she would react that way, so I don't get why people are so shocked by that?

BOLD:

1. I think he does care about Anupama more specially the last few weeks- the crap that has been said about Anupama, he is also hurting. If one child is sick you give more attention to them. Anupama is hurting and she respects baapuji(who I am not a fan of myself) and he reciprocated that in his own way so he feels he needs to be with her and not with the people because of whom she is out of his house. Which is fine.

2.. Have you heard Leela talk to anyone?? She’s the most insulting person. so basically she just spoken to exactly how she talks to people. If you can’t hack it please don’t dish it out. No one is shocked. We are happy that the strings are broken. But angry people commit murder. Should their families not be shocked that they did that Just because they are always angry- so it’s expected????

Agar uski choice bahu nahi bhi thi still anupama does not deserve such hateok u cant love but atleast normal behaviour to kar hi sakte they

My mother is also not my grandmother choice but aaj tuk my grand mother never curse my mother. Unka behaviour meri mother ke prati normal raha

Originally posted by: bob-bob

Don’t agree with a lot written except yes Baapuji is at fault.

Does that mean Baa has the right to talk like that. On that premise Baapuji was right to talk to Baa like that because it was because of Baa that his daughter (Anupama) had to leave the house - which is not Baas either.

Also yes money is important but does that mean all rich kids have it easy? A lot struggle to get the attention of their parents. So I can’t agree with that. And if we want to talk about money Anu wanted to work Vanraj stopped her. My husband and I work and look after our child our house and parents. So vanraj is a crappy parent he gave things but not moral education.

Secondly iv said it before if Leela hated their financial situation then she too could have worked. I knw a lot of women her age who have worked and supported their husbands.

Lastly vanraj is a not grey. He is a nan who has subjected his Wife to abuse - emotional, mental and physical. That does not make him grey that makes him an abusive husband who is a bad man. Kindly stop romanticising abuse as grey. It is not.

Baa has never acted like the elder of the family. She’s being a self centred narcissist with major anger management issues.

And I think a lot of us have spoken about this - just because they are your parents does not mean it is ok to tolerate the crap that went down the last few episodes. Just because they are your parents does not mean you have to celebrate your festivals with them if being around them makes you unhappy. We do not have to celebrate with the elders if they have not earned the respect. Age does not equal respect. Please. Vanraj loves his mother why did he leave the ?!?! I reckon if Vanraaj had not gone this would not have happened because BaaVya worship the ground he walks on and would be ok. So please blame him.

It is her house, husband and wife have an equal right over the property owned by the family and here it is the ancestral property and this Bapuji himself goes around preaching to Vanraj when he had kicked Anupama out in the middle of the night saying nikal jaao mere ghar se. Developing the same costs a lot of money which was spent by her son, not her husband thereby consolidating her rights over it further.

If he can use such language then he should be prepared to here the same back in return and this is Leela who is known to have a sharp tongue so it's obvious that whatever she'd say would come out 10 times more harsh.

Rich kids don't have it easy, but If I had to choose between attention and a decent lifestyle, i would any day choose the latter. There is a reason why people work their butts off just to earn a extra few bucks, because that is what would help them secure their children and themselves financially. No body wants to sit on the roadside and beg for alms or stay below the poverty line. Yes rich kids struggle emotionally but you know what? I would prefer that any day over having to cry for food, clothes, shelter and an education. Those who are born rich obviously wouldn't get this nor do I expect them because while they struggle for the attention of their parents it not like those who are poor are showered with love and attention 24x7, go look at the children who are forced to work at the age 7 or 8 at the roadside just to make a living and not starve, you think they are able to spend quality time with their parents or feel loved for that matter? No they don't either!

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Agar uski choice bahu nahi bhi thi still anupama does not deserve such hateok u cant love but atleast normal behaviour to kar hi sakte they

My mother is also not my grandmother choice but aaj tuk my grand mother never curse my mother. Unka behaviour meri mother ke prati normal raha

Ab har koi ek jaisa thodi na hai, some people rant and take out their frustration to make themselves feel better while some just keep it to themselves. Cursing Anupamaa is Baa's way of coping with having to put up with an unwanted bahu, to each their own.

I am not saying it's right but it's not like this happen at all, your grandmother may not curse your mother infront of you but can you guarantee the same behind your back? Cursing and taunting are sometimes done subtly as well, if not that then it's because she has given up and just decided to accept things as they are.

Agar peeche bhi boti to ham logon ko baat kisi na kisi tarah pata chal jaati. Ghar ke log hi bata dete. To. Aaj tuk kabhi curse nahin kiya my mother ko

Originally posted by: bob-bob

BOLD:

1. I think he does care about Anupama more specially the last few weeks- the crap that has been said about Anupama, he is also hurting. If one child is sick you give more attention to them. Anupama is hurting and she respects baapuji(who I am not a fan of myself) and he reciprocated that in his own way so he feels he needs to be with her and not with the people because of whom she is out of his house. Which is fine.

2.. Have you heard Leela talk to anyone?? She’s the most insulting person. so basically she just spoken to exactly how she talks to people. If you can’t hack it please don’t dish it out. No one is shocked. We are happy that the strings are broken. But angry people commit murder. Should their families not be shocked that they did that Just because they are always angry- so it’s expected????

Anupamaa is not the only one who is hurt, Baa is also hurt. Yes you may not agree to this, but she is also hurt. While her reasoning is completely wrong regarding anupama, it's was quite evident and apparent that she did not approve of Anupama's and Anuj's friendship as she found it wrong from her perspective. She never expected Anupamaa to go against her after how she had supported her against Vanraj and Kavya now did she? So why does only Anupamaa get that attention and not Baa? Hasmukh could have tried to make Baa understand or correct her way of thinking too much earlier now couldn't he?

At point 2, yes i have and i don't like her for the same reason, but then Bapuji knew this now didn't he? Yet he thought of fighting with her over a point that could literally be used against him that even in front of everyone? That was his foolishness to start this tera mera business in front of the entire family, she just gave it back to him 10 fold.

All right babe I’m ready to sleep so shall continue another day:)

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Agar peeche bhi boti to ham logon ko baat kisi na kisi tarah pata chal jaati. Ghar ke log hi bata dete. To. Aaj tuk kabhi curse nahin kiya my mother ko

nahi pata chalti, aisi baatein bacchon ke saamne nahin ki jaati. Aur phir kitne time tak woh tumhari mumy ko curse karegi? Eventually she might have accepted her right? But this is not the case for everyone.

Mere pados ki ek aurat hai jo apni bahu ko din raat curse aur abuse karti rehti hain. Kabhi Kabhi toh woh uss per bartan bhi utha ke maarti hai, ek baar toh usko chot bhi aayi thi and this happened in front of all the guests.

Originally posted by: Rein123

People with a sharp tongue can do that, the lady who insults each and every person around her, you really think she'd shut up if her husband raised his voice against her? I have seen a lot of women who insult their husbands over money every now and then, Baa is not the first one because yes money matters and that is what feeds you at the end of the day. Baa can't insult bapuji but he can insult her to support his so called daughter?

She wasn't behaving like this since Anuj entered the show, she was always like this from the beginning itself, people just forgot about it ever since Vanraj's affair got exposed.

Kids who see their fathers insult their mom's day and night do the same back in return to their mothers and wives, it's normal. In Vanraj's case it's paritosh who took after him. Vanraj picked up the same from Leela who treated Anupamaa like trash just because she wasn't his choice thereby making Vanraj feel justified in his behaviour since he too didn't want to marry her either. Parents do differentiate between children be it a father or mother, all parents do it whether they accept it or not, for Vanraj Paritosh is the ideal son while Samar is a loser who takes after his illiterate wife, while Pakhi is his laadli but she still turned out fine now didn't she? Sometimes genes play a role too. Irrespective of that, he has always made sure to provide for them and that is what counts more at the end of the day, ask the children who literally starve and cry for a decent lifestyle and you'll see what i'm talking about, it's very easy to say that he did not give them the right upbringing and all that, but what you have forgotten was he never took the responsibility of his children's upbringing, for him providing as the breadwinner was his main duty.

Whatever a person wants be it positivity or negativity, there is a basic sense of responsibility towards one's family, when you neglect that you will end up seeing outbursts and reactions like that of baa. They can celebrate with Anupamaa but ignoring their own home for her was kind of wrong according to me.

1. Support his daughter: so it all comes down to supporting his daughter? Isn't it supporting right v/s wrong? Bapuji chup baithe toh galat bole toh galat. Bas has been On a tirade and absolutely no one should say anything to her because after all money matters and since Bapuji didn't provide her any so he should just keep quiet?

2. There are many husbands who physically abuse their wives so does that mean there kids must also beat their mother since that's all they have ever seen? There are many MIL who treat thier SILs as shit but does that mean every husband is justified in doing the same? No because they all know how to break a chain, they know what's right what wrong? They know how to treat someone right? And why didn't Samar turned out the way Toshu did? And in case you forgot Pakhi didn't turn out fine, she has insulted and demeaned her mother a lot in the past and might continue to do in the future when something won't go her way. Moreover favoutism is one thing and differentiation a different thing. You don't call your son a nachaniya just because he is not going the traditional route. Lastly it's great Vantaj provides financial support. Kudos to him! But what kind of era are we living were we can't hold a father responsible for not providing basic aliens to his kids. What misogyny is this that baap ne paise toh uska kaam khatam? And there are many kids who live in castles but crave for their parents love

3. I can't believe you are justifying Baa's tirade? So she was right in saying that Bapuji should only be a mute spectator? It's his choice that he wants to be away from toxicity. Why blame him? Anybody would want some happiness especially on Diwali