Ram and Priya are both terrible siblings - Page 2

Originally posted by: vaidharbhi95

Was reminded of this quote "Your trauma is valid. Even if other people have experienced ‘worse.’ Even if someone else who went through the same experience doesn’t feel debilitated by it. Even if it ‘could have been avoided.’ Even if it happened a long time ago. Even if no one knows. Your trauma is real and valid and you deserve a space to talk about it. It isn’t desperate or pathetic or attention-seeking. It’s self-care. It’s inconceivably brave. And regardless of the magnitude of your struggle, you’re allowed to take care of yourself by processing and unloading some of the pain you carry. Your pain matters. Your experience matters. And your healing matters. Nothing and no one can take that away"

Just because others have been through worst and are able to handle it, is no reason why someone else should be able to do it. It can be taken as inspiration, but not as a parameter of judgement. We need to look at these people with empathy and kindness.

Priya is unable to do the second part of the above quotation. She is unable to unload her pain, unable to heal herself with self-love.

Different people process pain and tragedies differently. A traumatic childhood, parental separation can cause serious mental health issues. Therefore, i see her as a victim.

I agree it would take a lot of time for ITV audience to warm up to Priya .

Again, would agree and disgree with you. 😆 Long ago, there was this legal drama where they showed this woman who fought for her husband who had been wrongfully arrested for a crime. She had waited for him for years. When he was finally out, they ended up getting divorced a short while after. When the lawyer asked her in surprise what happened, she said that he was so angry that he seemed angry at the whole world and wanted everyone to apologize. However, while your trauma is valid but does it mean that everyone around you should suffer because you are miserable? Does the world owe you a favour because you had a hard time? -- While I don't remember the drama exactly, I do remember that scene and sentiment; something that stayed with me. Just a food for thought.

So, I sympathized with Kashaf (the prototype for this version of Priya) whereas I am mostly meh on this Priya. I am sort of removed from any feeling either way (like or dislike) and the problem is the writing and the bizarre shatabdi pace. The characters are so far very one note and all we are getting from Priya is that she is kind of morose. We need a more 3D picture so that she feels real -- so audience can see different notes to her. There is nothing wrong with characters that start out as less than lovable. I have seen that in plenty of dramas but we need to see growth and different aspects to their personality so they feel more real. So we see them as flawed but lovely people. I am mostly getting that with Ram but would say the writing is not quite there with Priya (at least for me, it isn't there yet). Fingers crossed, we will get there. 😊

Ok after reading the posts here, I think I kind of get the perspective about Priya where she stands separate from the crowd.

My point was very beautifully and succinctly put across by @vaidharbhi95. All I wanted to say is everyone reacts differently to adversity and it's ok for Priya to not be happy with her current situation.

That said, yes her siblings can put their foot down and set their boundaries- where if her negativity is too overwhelming, they can talk to her and have her control her impulses. It would not change her thought process, but she atleast would not share every opinion she has. Not sure why they are scared of her, actually 🤷‍♀️ It's not like she will hit them if they don't listen to her or something. 🤔

Ram and Priya, more than being flawed, are hurt and hungry for love. And they display it differently- Ram by seeing everything with rose tinted glasses and making life a Shah Rukh Khan tragedy 😆 Whereas Priya has stripped out all colors from her life and has made her life a Ram Gopal Verma tragedy ( well the good ones) 🤣

And that is why their journey will be interesting. Priya might ground Ram's heady nature and Ram might give some brigthness and color to Priya's dull life. Hopefully she will learn to laugh and take life a bit more easy.

Unfortunately, the two may never be hands off the siblings- Shikki will probably float through life with Ram and Priya's support. Ram will probably still take care of Shubham's business till the end. 🤷‍♀️ The family part is what I am not sure of.

I totally agree on the Ram part and seen the consequences of such parents around me ...

the girl was better than Shivi types but when she got married she misse all that pampering and could not cope. She became too needy and her personal life came crashing down

The boy is my fam.friends son ..never heard a no in his life a son afer 3 daughters totally spoil t his life wth drugs and booze . Similar over pampering

I totally believe in setting boundries and there should be some give and take in relationships atleast of respect .