The reality of victim shaming - Page 70

Ye hamri patni hai 100 times bolne se kli patni nahi banjathe.

Rishte ke base hota hai trust jo ye imlie pe bilkul nahi karta ..

Ye bahut ganda paltega 👍🏼

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This is very apt for the coming reveal. What adi sees on the camera is not going to tilt the situation but whose words he chooses to believe!

Originally posted by: Apudip

Aadi jab padhai ke liye Imlie ko daant tha to wo thhik tha aur wo Imlie se payaar bhi kartha tha lekin ab jab wo usse daant raha hai to wo payaar nehi karta hai aur sabke samne Imlie ki beijjati bhi kar raha hai 👏isse kehte hai selective vision😆

Aadi Imlie ke barein mein bahort clear hai ,praise bhi khulke sab ke samne karte hai aur daant bhi sabke samne lagate hai ,isme itna special keya hai 🤷

This time the issue is very much different than daant fir padhai or some random one ..

Here what is he doing ..he believes on everyone except Imlie. . the typical way he is taking out his helplessness frustration on Imlie ..it's not just daant fatkaar but it's serious one where she is at least trying to find out his innocence and in that process sometimes a person fail ..

Why can't he trust / believe Imlie ?? The way he is agreeing all the lame excuses given by DD why can't he do that with Imlie??

Imlie humari patni hai is just a sentence now !! It doesn't make any fark at all..

One side Imlie ko patni bolke Ghar me rakhna aur dusri side after this kaand too DD ko aap kanhi nahi jaayegi!!😳 kyun ?? What does he want even??

He wants to live with Both of his wives under one roof ??😡

Originally posted by: opsora2090

he blamed her impulsive decision. imlie filed a case on basis of a saree ka tukdaa , jo baat adi pehle bola tha saree cant be a proof, tab imlie nei mana but aj jab kc bola same baat imlie ko manna hi paraa

it is not about trusting distrusting imlie, it is about what he saw n he happened. uske hisab se imlie ko galad fami ho rahee hain baar bar aur sabud v nei toh in what basis he will think himself free. and for this case Adi's fam has to be sufferer equally n which is happening . aparna , radha, bade kaka kay liye no mercy but pankaj ji , nishant, rupi all r facing these , baat pura fam ka hain.. from his side he is correct cos uske bajase pura parivaar bhugat raha hain.. imlie bass case hi kiaa but sabud nei tha uskaa..isiliye he blamed her decision.

ha hamare liye intolerable cos we know the truth , but adi nei .. n adi anytime soon wont disbelieve malini . cos he is in gruilt trip, uska ek hi guilt hamesha rahega as he married malini n later giving divorce, malini kc faked, malini accepted adilie n two times he blamed n proved wrong . so uske andaar ek guilt strongly working which anu mentioned today. Adi ka weakness is guilt, iss guilt kay chakkar pe he could do anything n wohi ho raha hain

but adi hamesha galad nei hotaa

You're right. Imlie made an impulsive decision. Ok, then he blamed her decision, I'll leave that.

But why is he not considering that jo dd jaap karti rahi vo suddenly aisa kyu karrahi hai.. and insecure, immature kahe toh.. he knows how mature she is. he himself told dd that vo hamesha hum dono ko saath mein dekhte aarahi hai when she said imlie might be insecure. ab kya hua? All of these mistakes of Adi are being magnified because they are dragging things for too long.

Anyway, I just remembered that I'm on my period. Zyada depress hogayi hoon mai. lol i almost cried after watching sbs ☺️ so please ignore my rants, and thank you for helping me here ❤️

Originally posted by: Panchhi1

This time the issue is very much different than daant fir padhai or some random one ..

Here what is he doing ..he believes on everyone except Imlie. . the typical way he is taking out his helplessness frustration on Imlie ..it's not just daant fatkaar but it's serious one where she is at least trying to find out his innocence and in that process sometimes a person fail ..

Why can't he trust / believe Imlie ?? The way he is agreeing all the lame excuses given by DD why can't he do that with Imlie??

Imlie humari patni hai is just a sentence now !! It doesn't make any fark at all..

One side Imlie ko patni bolke Ghar me rakhna aur dusri side after this kaand too DD ko aap kanhi nahi jaayegi!!😳 kyun ?? What does he want even??

He wants to live with Both of his wives under one roof ??😡

If I may.. he is not fighting against imlie but himself and she is the extension. Is it wrong? Maybe but it’s his character which is super flawed .

Originally posted by: Bakwas_BS

Today he blamed because his family has to come court.. Does he mean sachayiye ke saath lane ke liye bhi kli bhi family court nahi ana chayiye. ??

He said because of her court ana pada doesn't he know because of his family she was almost arrested by poilice... Even his mahan geheri dosti was there but noone stopped..

Aise tho nahi hai ki isko pata nahi hai.. Pata sabh kuch hai but he is selectively blind on things..

Yaha pe koi long run me harming thing nahi tah

Sweety, again I will say just one thing here - I get you and I understand your frustrations from all sides.

Partners are not perfect. Also fiction many a times reflect reality in a lot of ways. A daily show will always have a tendency to show the worst before things get better - that is how they gain sympathy of their viewers and get them to root for the female lead.

Now getting back to your points:

- Adi voiced what normal families always say - court ke seedi chadhna for any family is difficult. That is aggravated when the victim assumes that he himself is the perpetrator and his is the reason all this is happening and does not have an outlet to remove his frustration. The only outlet he gets is Imlie - galat hai, pata hai, lekin realistic hai. Even Malini was prosecuted last time by the T's because her mother sent them to jail, though that time she was actually not responsible. Here Imlie is the reason they're fighting a case that according to them has no basis, and instead is hitting their reputation as well, hence that frustration will come out in some way - jo ADI ne Imlie pe aaj nikala.

- I do not know if Imlie ever told him about the Police Station incident last time when she was blamed for no fault of hers, but that is like going back and asking Adi to handle every insult that Imlie has endured and ask Adi to question all of them. While we all want to see justice being served and Imlie getting justice, I remind you, she is sitara bahu (along with Adi), so her humiliation is a given - we will need to adjust our expectations accordingly

- I still maintain, anything thrown at them, Adi and Imlie will find their way to each other and Imlie will find her way to establish her identity. We either need patience or take a break and come back - I took one last week and this week I am much better with the episodes we were given. So maybe that is just me, but Adi for me is in character and very realistic, as I have encountered people like him in my life and they do behave exactly like him. One track mind with blinders and ostrichpana - horrible combination, but the best thing is telling them "I told you so" when you are proved right🤣

Originally posted by: Apudip

Aadi jab padhai ke liye Imlie ko daant tha to wo thhik tha aur wo Imlie se payaar bhi kartha tha lekin ab jab wo usse daant raha hai to wo payaar nehi karta hai aur sabke samne Imlie ki beijjati bhi kar raha hai 👏isse kehte hai selective vision😆

Aadi Imlie ke barein mein bahort clear hai ,praise bhi khulke sab ke samne karte hai aur daant bhi sabke samne lagate hai ,isme itna special keya hai 🤷

You're right. I think it is making me angry because dd was there. Ughhh I just can't tolerate her presence in their lives.

Originally posted by: Rollingdeep

If I may.. he is not fighting against imlie but himself and she is the extension. Is it wrong? Maybe but it’s his character which is super flawed .

Just gave a similar reply but in a more longer and extensive form, but agree with your words - she is an extension of himself, so he feels the most free with her only, more than anyone in the world.

Originally posted by: Apsvenky

Just gave a similar reply but in a more longer and extensive form, but agree with your words - she is an extension of himself, so he feels the most free with her only, more than anyone in the world.

Sorry yaar.. I just finished typing a long ramble to your comment … so was tired 😂😂.. my analysis is very Kachin type