Pandya Store|Episode Discussion #88|Mystery of Raavi's Lehenga - Page 39

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

Bold: I do understand. But I remember the first time I tried to clean my granny. I made a mess for which I got even scolded. It's not just about making someone sit. It's even about the comfort both have. That's why if Rishita is not comfortable with that work she didn't have to take the responsibility/given the responsibility (I actually don't know what happened before as I see it in skip mode).

Everyone has a first..me too had a first..but mom was very considerate and never said a thing abt how clumsy I was when helping her....if suman was a decent soft hearted person she would have tried to not make an issue of small mistakes..

Rishitha took the responsibility of suman when dhara told her about going out..I guess she never thought thru that something like this would also be required..if had thought thru, she should have told dhara that she can't help suman as she doesn't think she will be able to manage..

Still I am not complaining about her mistake...because she regretted ..she was really sorry for suman..

My problem is her accusing dhara later on for god knws what nonsense..and then justifying her stand instead of saying sorry and leaving the subject..

I know she is practical..but it is also true that she is selfcentered to the point that she never cares about others feelings...she does love everyone..but she should be considerate towards others situations or feelings before expecting things from others..

Originally posted by: Yooooo

I think she told she needs maid..And btw even Suman need to keep down her ego and listen to her once..Even elders can learn something from young ones..

Did she say that to Suman?..I think she told to dhara and gombi only..suman is the one ordering around.. so she will have to tell that to Suman too..

All the Pandyas remember Raavi only when they need Raavi's help.

She is a free ki maid for them.

Suman is sorry excuse of a human.

The way she treats people.

How can we call her better than Mami?

Atleast mami apne dushman ka bura chahti hain yaha toh Suman ussi ki baja rahi hain who babysitted her for 10 yrs and is pregnant.

Just to make Suman come less vile the put that bgm, it still wasn't funny but simply insulting and insensitive.

Originally posted by: deeps07

Everyone has a first..me too had a first..but mom was very considerate and never said a thing abt how clumsy I was when helping her....if suman was a decent soft hearted person she would have tried to not make an issue of small mistakes..

Rishitha took the responsibility of suman when dhara told her about going out..I guess she never thought thru that something like this would also be required..if had thought thru, she should have told dhara that she can't help suman as she doesn't think she will be able to manage..

Still I am not complaining about her mistake...because she regretted ..she was really sorry for suman..

My problem is her accusing dhara later on for god knws what nonsense..and then justifying her stand instead of saying sorry and leaving the subject..

I know she is practical..but it is also true that she is selfcentered to the point that she never cares about others feelings...she does love everyone..but she should be considerate towards others situations or feelings before expecting things from others..

I don't think she accused Dhara she just told her that she didn't know such a situation would arise when Dhara had gone out. And Dhara was already hurt from Suman's words and hence she also retaliated saying now it has happened. Rishita didn't like the tone and the fight continued. We all know Rishita is a bit immature compared to what Dhara is. So it was expected from her.

And she just expected support from everyone. She even let go of the washroom matter ( as she was acclimated to her rich lifestyle) and lot more. And we can't forget the way she stood up for Dhara when everyone were taunting her. None spoke. She had no gain there. When she came to know what urged Ravi to slap Shiva, she even clearly stated that Shiva hurt Ravi's self respect that's why Shiva should go and convince her. She has cared about everyone.

Okay she can't help in the household chores but she is doing as much as possible from her end. And like Rishita has adjusted I think Pandya people should also adjust to her and her thoughts now.

And currently she is just expecting that the family will support her to work. Which I totally agree with. If she wants to be financially stable and not dependent on anyone no one should stop her instead encourage her. Maybe tomorrow she can build her own washroom.

All just want someone who understands everything and doesn't question a word with what is happening. Something Dhara has been doing in front of Suman for long. And those people don't even deserve that someone understands them. How much do they understand?

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

Bold: Loud claps for all these statements.

Yes in cases where your parents are medically dependant on you, you need to stay back. And Suman should indeed be proud of all her sons and especially the daughter in laws for taking care of her so well.

And in today's world being selfish without harming someone physically or mentally and hurting their self respect is like very smart. She is indeed a smart woman and that's the reason I fall in love with her. Like her modern approach be it marriage counsellor, fertility doctor rather than going to temple (but at the end it's belief so can't say anything) and adult diapers etc. She has tried to easen the burden on everyone including herself but Suman just being stubborn doesn't want to listen to youngers.

Sometimes I feel Anita would be the best bahu for her.

Ditto! For a mil like suman, no diapers no nurse 😡 meri taraf se kuen mein jaaye pond mein lake mein ya ocean mein kood jaaye ya bhaad mein jaaye.

Dils r also humans , somebody's daughters somebody's sisters . They r not to be treated this way by any elder or her husband ...Haan.. pyar se bolo..respect deke bolo..love and respect is a two way street.

There is no selfishness in it. It's called management . Figure out the solutions instead of cribbing. I have always said that dhara is setting a bad precedent .. ..nobody can be a superwoman .....after 25 km walk she is filling buckets for the family, massaging n steaming her mils head , it's atrocious and grown up men , unko chullu bhar pani mein doobna chahiye tha.

Sorry My frustration is at the peak today after watching Suman torturing a pregnant dhara and she is jumping around like a kangaroo ke ma ne aur kaam de diya🤢

Originally posted by: _charu_

Ditto! For a mil like suman, no diapers no nurse 😡 meri taraf se kuen mein jaaye pond mein lake mein ya ocean mein kood jaaye ya bhaad mein jaaye.

Dils r also humans , somebody's daughters somebody's sisters . They r not to be treated this way by any elder or her husband ...Haan.. pyar se bolo..respect deke bolo..love and respect is a two way street.

There is no selfishness in it. It's called management . Figure out the solutions instead of cribbing. I have always said that dhara is setting a bad precedent .. ..nobody can be a superwoman .....after 25 km walk she is filling buckets for the family, massaging n steaming her mils head , it's atrocious and grown up men , unko chullu bhar pani mein doobna chahiye tha.

Sorry My frustration is at the peak today after watching Suman torturing a pregnant dhara and she is jumping around like a kangaroo ke ma ne aur kaam de diya🤢

No no you don't need to say sorry. It's very much understandable. Like why why is Dhara setting such an example idk. She needs to rest have good food relax but no. But she is like "Kaam karwalo mujhse bhoj dalo mujhpe maa."

Yes taking women as superwoman is wrong at so many levels. Like why should she sacrifice herself, her peace just for sake of family love. I mean after being tortured so much is it even worth it.

Rather than that just stay the way you want to be. If God forbid tomorrow anything happens to the child Suman will blame everyone in the house except herself. She can even blame Dhara too.

The first trimester is usually to be more careful as premature abortion takes place majority of the time in those 3 months. Hope nothing happens like that.

Originally posted by: karuna_kini

All just want someone who understands everything and doesn't question a word with what is happening. Something Dhara has been doing in front of Suman for long. And those people don't even deserve that someone understands them. How much do they understand?

Also, just let it go if she did a mistake. Rishita apologized n therez nothing more she can do. Suman, dhara , dev, everyone gave her sermons that if she can't take up household responsibilities she won't be allowed to work. 🤢 she can be blunt but it's good if she blunt..its better than being dhara ..honestly i have seen women suffering endlessly coz they keep quiet to avoid.fights and unpleasant situations..its always better to let it out..I can't do it that's why I appreciate such a thing in a any woman. Bol do apne dil.ki baat🤩

Normally rishita type of girls r called muhfat insensitive and badtameez. Sai (ghum.hai) is also like that..but I am glad they have such characters bec I can't connect to devijis..I look upto dhara but I can't be like her..

Originally posted by: _charu_

Also, just let it go if she did a mistake. Rishita apologized n therez nothing more she can do. Suman, dhara , dev, everyone gave her sermons that if she can't take up household responsibilities she won't be allowed to work. 🤢 she can be blunt but it's good if she blunt..its better than being dhara ..honestly i have seen women suffering endlessly coz they keep quiet to avoid.fights and unpleasant situations..its always better to let it out..I can't do it that's why I appreciate such a thing in a any woman. Bol do apne dil.ki baat🤩

Normally rishita type of girls r called muhfat insensitive and badtameez. Sai (ghum.hai) is also like that..but I am glad they have such characters bec I can't connect to devijis..I look upto dhara but I can't be like her..

Yes it was not a crime. Neither crime happened from Suman by urinating at the door. Like what even? When she couldn't get up by herself whe she needed help for all the basic chores which people do on their own, she didn't realise she is paralyzed. Now when she urinated she realised. I mean seriously 😑 it's not that I am insensitive bur sometimes you need to come to terms with your situation which Suman never did. She felt she is bossing around so she can continue to do so and she has no weaknesses. But with this one incident she realised that she is nothing without her sons and dils. That's why her ego was hurt so bad.

And I don't even look upto such superficial characters like Dhara. Girls who know to call spade a spade I love them. If they are not letting Rishita work I am sure I have no bit of feelings left for that family.

Rishita has to work as all in that family are not interested in any improvement in their living conditions. I know that running behind success is too tiring but sometimes you need to level up yourself. Come out of comfort zones. And none can in that family.

I didn't much what happened on the forum but saw the precap and only thought that occurred to me was are they trying to make dhara the most loved or hated character as ab tak toh sirf shivi fans hate krte the but the way she talked and behaved with rishu today and in precap her fans are also gonna go against her🙄🙄🙄