Originally posted by: Autumn_Rose
I sort of found it annoying in some parts.. though I agree that there has to be a balance between modernism and traditional values..pak shows reinforce patriarchy way too much. Like how kashaf was making more adjustments.. kashaf gets a divide from her mom; we see Zaroon advising his sister; mom being career centric , not a good homemaker.. but how much advice does Zaroon get?
Sounded more like relationship depends on the woman more..
I think it depends... the drama was mostly from Kashaf's point of view ... her upbringing, environment and circumstances were based off the patriarchy system ... Actually Osama was the most normal character - he came from a stable well-to-do family with no baggage, and he liked Kashaf sincerely as a person. He had no inferiority or patriarchy complex.
I agree on Zaroon aspect partly ... i actually found him to be a hypocrite during the phase when he was engaged , and he was called out by his sister i remember. But he was growing as a person and that change was not understood by ppl around him. Zaroon noticed Kashaf's household and her family values - rather about man vs woman - i think idea was that despite their hardships, Kashaf's sisters and mom would make quality time for each other - and also would not shy away from calling each other out when one was in the wrong with advice etc. His family didn't have that - his issue was not that his mom worked; but rather didn't have that time for her children as other families might have. Actually Zaroon was in awe of K's mom because she managed the house while still supporting her family entirely on her own - so his issue wasn't the career but a balance between work and family. Their mom's philosophy was live and let live, which for young impressionable minds is not the best advice - they need guidance and nurturing; and that was missing. And during his sisters' divorce times, the mother was adamant her daughter will be better off without the guy without even listening to another POV. In hindsight, it wasn't the best decision ... Also, Zaroon had no issue with Kashaf working or having a career - he just had this ideal about family based on his own experiences. They married quickly and that was bound to create issues, which then happened.
I think it's very easy for someone these days to say they won't compromise in a marriage and that the person should accept the other as is, but it is far from reality. There are many things to adjust and adapt with, and you really do need to find common ground. And it happens in every relationship. It's not a walk in a rosy park, but it's not all bad either (unless you are in an abusive relationship). There will be ups, downs, misunderstandings, but the idea is to have the line of communication open. If that doesn't exist - regardless who is at fault, things won't work out. Also in my practical view, the "passionate love" only lasts for sometime - after that the relationship will be based on trust and friendship ... after all you keep growing as a person based on new experiences - you can never be the exact same person as you were at the time you fell in love - you somehow need to figure how to grow together.
Edited by esprit_00 - 3 years ago