Why is he doing all this? -help instantly

Cool_Dipti thumbnail
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Posted: 17 years ago
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Please read the entire thing...I really need ur opnions..

Iam a very pleasant-looking girl [as said by others] & I live in a private residential colony in my hometown in luxury apartments...& there came a new guy into our colony who is very good-looking & is a charmer by nature...at the first sight I welcomed him as all my friends did...He became very popular in our colony & among my friends..What irritates me is that all my friends have fallen for him & cannot stay quiet for a single second without holding his name in any of our general conversations ...morever I have always noticed that he speaks well to all of my friends except to me...& he does that on purpose ..he just smiles at me & thats it....I hated him for that attitude of his towards me...& later I began to hate him for everything he did ..every action of his..even at his smile...

.One fine day when he bumped into me by mistake..I shouted at him ....I used words against him & so did he against me..& we ended up having a heated argument.& unexpectedly I could not hold control over my emotions & started crying there ,that same minute in front of him😭..he became shocked seeing me cry & he calmed down...& I became all the more furious & pushed him hardly & left the site ...for days together I never came out of my house ....& one day when I had come out of the house for fresh air due to power failure ..I saw him with my friends in garden ..talking & laughing as usual..He looked at me but I didn't bother & went back in the house...Next d ay when my dad & mom left to work ,he came up to my place with a box of chocklates & I was shocked to see him smiling at me ..though I never returned him a smile & acted rude..but he still apologised to me with a smile & keep the box of chocklates on my table...after looking at my reaction which was like a stone towards him...he took it as a chance & told me things I never expected him to..

.He said that he always behaved in a conservative way to me because he always thought of me in a special manner..later he proposed to me..& I was shocked & was tempted to give him a shocked reaction..he smiled & he said that all these days he longed a glance of mine...He also said that he fought with me only because he loves me..he said that ..usually ..we get irritated & get angry only with people whom we love & are close with ..I was too touched with what he said..& then he knew that I wudn't speak back anything to him...so he said all that he wanted to & he left ...After that day ,my perspective toward him had changed ...everytime I go out to the shop & comeback & walk to my house..he smiles at me knowing the fact that I will not care to hoods..but he still does that..& I don't know how..but I felt good inside at every smile of his..but how can he love me?..he doesn't even know me!..my reaction to him was always cold!....then what makes him tell this?..& I heard two days ago that in 4 weeks time he'll be shifting to Delhi...I went home & cried badly to myself..I badly feel like speaking to him & he still looks at me from his window that gives a view to the balcony at my Tv room....I cried for him?..I don't believe that!..Am I beggining to ...??..please tell me what do I do??...Shud I speak to him...I want to..but how do I ?..coz after what he told me that day..I can't have a normal conversation him...He might want me to reply to his proposal before hearing anything else from me...but how do I tell him yes? ..please tell me..with my cold behavior towards him ..how can he fall in love with me???? What do I do??...Time is running from my hands..do I get into a relationship with him or have none?

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Nisha.Z thumbnail
Posted: 17 years ago
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Wow this is a tough situation.

I say talk to him you know how he feels and now since he is moving i think this is the best time to talk to him....Just tell him how you feel that you don't love him, but would like to get to know him as a friend first, and than who knows what will happen after that.....being honest about your feelings to some one is always the best thing...Good luck and i hope i helped.

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Posted: 17 years ago
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Originally posted by: Cool_Dipti

.I don't believe that!..Am I beggining to ...??..please tell me what do I do??...Shud I speak to him...I want to..but how do I ?..coz after what he told me that day..I can't have a normal conversation him...He might want me to reply to his proposal before hearing anything else from me...but how do I tell him yes? .. i don't think he would immediately ask for an answer .. but if he does then whether u like him or not..tell him the truth. if he doesn't.. then thats fine also.. just talk to him normal..start with a casual conversation about him moving n stuff...then bring up the proposal thing
please tell me..with my cold behavior towards him ..how can he fall in love with me????only he knows that but its not impossible.. i mean u no in movies n stuff it happens a lot lol i think its possible in real life too.. What do I do??...Time is running from my hands..do I get into a relationship with him or have none? this totally depends on u.. do what YOU want to and do wut ur heart says!!if u r ready then go for it.. if ur confused.. then just be friends with him n then see where it takes u!its not as complicated as it seems😃

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Posted: 17 years ago
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Thank u both of you...but I just don't know..I think..I'll rather not speak to him..b'coz if I do..then I might not control myself from stopping him from leaving to Delhi.. 😭 ..Thank u yaar..I'll definitely try & follow your advices.
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Posted: 17 years ago
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do talk to him becuase although u mite not feel like it or ur confused at da momment u might regert not talkin later on in life 😃 😳 hope it all goes ok
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Posted: 17 years ago
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hey i think u shd spk to him asap!....many times we waste a lot of time thinking yaar....jus go spk to him....its always better to go nd spk directlyy.......plus he wld be leavin in 4 weeks time....its diffucult to get into a relationship nd all wen u r so cnfusd bout wat u feel....i dunt think he wld ask u for an answerr.....but u can definately spend sme gud time wid him in dese 4 weeks...try nd make him feel gud!...u nva noe he mite becme ur best buddy!...

nd u noe wat i feel....ur in love wid dat guy too!...maybe its infactuation!..i dunno...but definately u hv sme feelings for dat guy!....nd dats y u criedd for him!..

the choice is yours!...hope your problem is solvedD!!........
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Posted: 17 years ago
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Originally posted by: cool~~gal

hey i think u shd spk to him asap!....many times we waste a lot of time thinking yaar....jus go spk to him....its always better to go nd spk directlyy.......plus he wld be leavin in 4 weeks time....its diffucult to get into a relationship nd all wen u r so cnfusd bout wat u feel....i dunt think he wld ask u for an answerr.....but u can definately spend sme gud time wid him in dese 4 weeks...try nd make him feel gud!...u nva noe he mite becme ur best buddy!...

nd u noe wat i feel....ur in love wid dat guy too!...maybe its infactuation!..i dunno...but definately u hv sme feelings for dat guy!....nd dats y u criedd for him!..

the choice is yours!...hope your problem is solvedD!!........

nah yaar.😊..Im not in love with him....100% sure....I cried just coz I regreted by fighting with him & did not get to experience the joy in his company which my friends did...& yeah we both cud definitely become best buddies! ..but no..I don't wanna move in fast pace & confess to him things which Iam not really sure of....thank u friends...Im so happy to receive all ur opinions..plus I did speak to him 2 days before.. after such a long time..just acted normal & he was delighted..now he's like 24/7 in my house with my set of friends..all of them cracking jokes & he for the first time behaved properly to me in the midst of my friends..& I just quietly listen to them & laugh & unbelievely daring ..after all which happened ..he teases me in front of all my friends for my "Angry young girl attitude!" 😆.... such a jerk!😆..😆

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Posted: 17 years ago
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Originally posted by: Cool_Dipti

nah yaar.😊..Im not in love with him....100% sure....I cried just coz I regreted by fighting with him & did not get to experience the joy in his company which my friends did...& yeah we both cud definitely become best buddies! ..but no..I don't wanna move in fast pace & confess to him things which Iam not really sure of....thank u friends...Im so happy to receive all ur opinions..plus I did speak to him 2 days before.. after such a long time..just acted normal & he was delighted..now he's like 24/7 in my house with my set of friends..all of them cracking jokes & he for the first time behaved properly to me in the midst of my friends..& I just quietly listen to them & laugh & unbelievely daring ..after all which happened ..he teases me in front of all my friends for my "Angry young girl attitude!" 😆.... such a jerk!😆..😆

hey that's fine that your not in love with him, but i still think that you sghould talk to him and clear the air about the fight and you're feelings. Since he is laving there is no point on leaving it in bad air. Just talk to him and say bye it was nice meeting you i hope you have fun where ever you are going .

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Posted: 17 years ago
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Originally posted by: Nisha.Z

hey that's fine that your not in love with him, but i still think that you sghould talk to him and clear the air about the fight and you're feelings. Since he is laving there is no point on leaving it in bad air. Just talk to him and say bye it was nice meeting you i hope you have fun where ever you are going .

Yes Nisha..your right..😊..& I'll definitely do that....b'coz now Im quite comfortable with him ...& he like shares & tells almost everything & all what he feels to me..I sometimes find that a little too embarrasing & don't understand why he does he tell only me all this...but thats really sweet of him to trust me...& I'll also tell him about my feelings...he shudn't feel that Iam not comfortable with him..but I fear that I don't get too close with him that later I shudn't feel uncomfortable with everyone else except him.. ..but as long as he's here..I'll not let go of him..😳..please keep replying to me Nisha & suggest me whats the best..😊

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Posted: 17 years ago
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i will say tok 2 him wen u hav d chnce....later u may not hav it ne more 😊

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