Kinjal never loved Paritosh

Yes, Kinjal never loved Paritosh, she only thinks that she loves him doesn't love him unconditionally as she claims to do so, how can a woman claim to love her husband when she puts him second to all? Why the hell did she marry him at all? Paritosh was ready to leave his own family just for her sake and become a ghar jamai but she? Is her attachment to that dysfunctional shah family greater than her own marriage? Paritosh may not be the perfect guy I agree, he may even be a jerk at times, but he was right about moving out of the family.

Kinjal's logic is that she never received love and was surrounded by only servants and what not during her childhood, however that still doesn't justify her disgusting behavior towards her own mother, a working woman!!! Yes a lot of working mothers especially in senior positions face the same problem as Rakhi has done and so do the kids in a dual income households, but instead of appreciating that as a sacrifice she is holding it against them like the ingrate she happens to be, today whatever job she is able to get, whatever qualifications she has to show on her resume are all because of her parent's sacrifices but she can forget that conveniently and elope to marry a guy she doesn't really love herself, she just wanted to change her family, there is no difference between her and Paritosh here. I used to think Paritosh is the selfish one, but I guess I was wrong, Its Kinjal who is the selfish one. I appreciated her when she used to take a stand for herself and Anupama but my dear, that doesn't excuse her current behaviour. Better to just divorce Paritosh and get the hell out of his life. 😡👎🏼

Marriage can’t survive with “My way or highway” attitude. This is what exactly toshu did and informed kinjal that if she will not come along with him then she is the one who is responsible for their separation. This attitude is not good for any marriage.

Kinjal said she needs some time to prepare herself mentally.

Marriage demands both partner’s emotional connection with each other. In a marriage, both husband and wife should come on same page before taking any decision.

It’s a sign of healthy & graceful marriage if husband and wife have ability to take decision by coming on same page with solving all the physical/mental obstacles for each other and with emotionally connecting with each other.

If one partner is saying I need some time to mentally prepare myself, other partner should give a thought about it, should try to emotionally connect with partner, should communicate more about the obstacles due to which they are unable to coming on the same page.

My way or highway attitude is dangerous for marriage .

do you think if Kinjal does not leave the shah house Rakhi will let toshu stay in the pant house she only wanted to creat the differences in both of them so they can end the marriage .

and toshu is flying high that its his ability ?

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Marriage can’t survive with “My way or highway” attitude. This is what exactly toshu did and informed kinjal that if she will not come along with him then she is the one who is responsible for their separation. This attitude is not good for any marriage.

Kinjal said she needs some time to prepare herself mentally.

Marriage demands both partner’s emotional connection with each other. In a marriage, both husband and wife should come on same page before taking any decision.

It’s a sign of healthy & graceful marriage if husband and wife have ability to take decision by coming on same page with solving all the physical/mental obstacles for each other and with emotionally connecting with each other.

If one partner is saying I need some time to mentally prepare myself, other partner should give a thought about it, should try to emotionally connect with partner, should communicate more about the obstacles due to which they are unable to coming on the same page.

My way or highway attitude is dangerous for marriage .

I agree with Tania ..I think we have so much of thinking in common. U always seem to echo my thoughts

This my way or highway is agnotizing .. she is not saying she won't move. She is saying she needs sometime.

When my dadu made seperate homes for his sons before he died. It caused us kids a lot of turmoil since we were not informed in advance

Originally posted by: kooki07

do you think if Kinjal does not leave the shah house Rakhi will let toshu stay in the pant house she only wanted to creat the differences in both of them so they can end the marriage .

This marriage will not crumble because of rakhi or any penthouse, it will collapse because of lack of emotional connection and incompatibility issue.

For me neither rakhi nor penthouse thing is responsible, they are just catalyst.

True Rakhi always wanted to break kinjal and toshu’s marriage. Major issue is husband-wife has no ability to decide anything by coming on same page, husband wife doesn’t bother to emotionally connect with other.

If one partner is saying I need some time to mentally prepare myself, other partner should give a thought about it, should try to emotionally connect with partner, should communicate more about the obstacles due to which they are unable to coming on the same page.

How can marriage will survive if husband wife has no ability to emotionally connect with each other? If husband wife has no ability to figure out ways for each other’s emotional turmoil?

Again I will say, neither rakhi nor penthouse is real reason for the failure of marriage.

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

I agree with Tania ..I think we have so much of thinking in common. U always seem to echo my thoughts

This my way or highway is agnotizing .. she is not saying she won't move. She is saying she needs sometime.

When my dadu made seperate homes for his sons before he died. It caused us kids a lot of turmoil since we were not informed in advance

Yes Anju ! So many time I have felt we are like minded people 🙌🙌

@bold : I can understand it’s extremely difficult to move forward with other’s decisions when your heart is not with it and you need more time to prepare yourself . Today kinjal said I need some time to prepare myself .

If one partner is saying I need some time to mentally prepare myself, other partner should give a thought about it, should try to emotionally connect with partner, should communicate more about the obstacles due to which they are unable to coming on the same page.

It looks extremely immature when husband wife behaves like this.

Jaise toshu bonding banana chahta hai rakhi se usi tarah se kinjal ko bhi right hai ki woh shah family se bonding banaye

Kinjal ne to kabhi ne kaha toshu se ki meri maa se baat nahin karo to to toshu ko kyon problem hai agar kinjal anupama se bonding rakhna chati hai

See if toshu want to live seperstely and Dont want joint family tub to toshu rakhi se bhi matlab nahin rakhna chahiye. Sirf apne mother father sister brothers se hi kyon seperate hona. Rakhi se bhi seperate ho jaao

Waise rakhi ki family bhi dus functional hi hai. Har jagah bus rakhi akele pahunch jaati hai baat karne keliye. Husband ki opinion to li hi naa jaati husband to saath mein hote hi nahin

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Marriage can’t survive with “My way or highway” attitude. This is what exactly toshu did and informed kinjal that if she will not come along with him then she is the one who is responsible for their separation. This attitude is not good for any marriage.

Kinjal said she needs some time to prepare herself mentally.

Marriage demands both partner’s emotional connection with each other. In a marriage, both husband and wife should come on same page before taking any decision.

It’s a sign of healthy & graceful marriage if husband and wife have ability to take decision by coming on same page with solving all the physical/mental obstacles for each other and with emotionally connecting with each other.

If one partner is saying I need some time to mentally prepare myself, other partner should give a thought about it, should try to emotionally connect with partner, should communicate more about the obstacles due to which they are unable to coming on the same page.

My way or highway attitude is dangerous for marriage .

You are right marriage cannot survive the my way or highway attitude no doubt, which is why they had discussed this much earlier. The problem is kinjal and her blind attachment to her in laws in the name of a family. No body was asking her to break off her ties with them, all he asked her is to move out and live separately. He has not stopped her or curbed her from doing whatever she wants but that doesn't mean she gets her way all the time either.

She shouldn't have married him if she didn't have the courage to accept that he too could want different things, she should have married someone like Samar instead, the fact is Paritosh and Kinjal are very different individually and have different needs, when Kinjal wants to live in a joint family even if its dysfunctional Paritosh wants a place where he has his own space and privacy. Yes he has a room of his own but it doesn't prevent his mental peace from getting ruined owing to the daily fights that take place in the house. Kinjal either doesn't seem to understand or she simply doesn't care, that's why I say she is being selfish to the core. If she has a problem with the penthouse being a gift from her mother then she should clarify that so that paritosh can arrange something else. But she is so adamant of sticking around and forcing him as well. She wants to take her time, fine she can but Toshu is not wrong either, she can't say that he left her and went later on.