Is Pallavi really that wrong? - Page 2

Originally posted by: d.padmini

Ok so I Understand everything you have said and I agree too but I still think we are going overboard with the Pallavi bashing especially calling her a trash character and how she does not deserve Raghav. Such constant bashing is what prompted me to make this post

Originally posted by: LondonFan

Pallavi has always been portrayed as someone who is strong, independent and has learned the real world because of being an orphan and widow.

Pallavi herself talked about how selfish and cruel people have been towards her because she was a widow.

Pallavi has always been able to differentiate between good and bad in the past.

She is not a child and is a 24 year old woman with life experience.

It’s not Raghav’s responsibility to guide her constantly.

Seriously! So it's not a husband's responsibility to guide his wife when that wife is clearly being taken advantage of.

Everybody is seeing a dumb Pallavi but I see a Pallavi who is being mentally exploited and emotionally blackmailed by Dr. Ramya, VD, Sulo and Mandaar and at the end it would be Raghav only who will take her out of this mess

Originally posted by: subbuappu

As someone already pointed out that it is about setting priorities... Keeping aside d fam, r fam etc., Who in the sane mind would like to baby sit some random person?? It's agreeable hadn't they confessed their feelings to each other that too after Mandar return.. every thing has a limit even if it is "good thing" or "responsibility"... Why Pallavi is not asking D Fam as why she have to baby sit him?? When she right fully asked why he was protecting keerthi? For that matter i wouldn't have liked if she baby sits Raghav too for any other issue... Also someone pointed that she has to trust Raghav because he has past issues...i don't agree with that too.. Like why she has to carry the baggage of past issues of some other person?? She should just think about her present and who she loves... That's all.. again we cannot defend the character saying she was like that right from the start... Then what about character growth?? Where did that go?? The writers messed up big time by never utilizing her biological brother and getting them for couple of episode... Had she been orphan, we can get the reason for her attachment but she isn't an orphan and very well here also cannot compare Raghav love to his family to her love with D fam which is 27y vs 2y ... This bull dog was running ambulance and saw worst to worst accident cases and deaths and how the hell is his mental health not in place??? Simple thing is she says bechara to Mandaar because he burnt his hand but no concern for Raghav who inspite of many insults shows at D house for her sake???

Ps.. i am no fangirl of a toxic ml or stockholm syndrome but logically thinking...

What a balanced comment!! You have raised all the valid points and I hope writers do work hard to une the damage they have done

First of all when has pallu listened to Raghu

Secondly he expressed that already that he is creepe but she just didn’t listen

Raghu did do tracking instead of understanding him she went tod family house without even discussing

He already had messed up he didn’t want to hurt her

Please why should Raghu always protect her she should be careful first

She going there is disgusting which married women goes to ex and which hubby give her the freedom to go there

Knowing sanki how can she agree to oath

This time pallu is wrong and it’s written as such we started hating her

Knowing that her hubby is getting award how can she forget

Why she needs aai to guide we’re is her brain

Her brain works when rao’s are wrong but withd family she is biased it’s not new always she take rao’s for granted

I don't agree that Pallavi is not at fault in this whole mess. She has chosen the mess. But, one thing Raghav should realise is the real test of their marriage is now. Earlier was nothing. There was no competition what so ever. Now that Mandar is back alive, the real choice lies now - in Pallavi's hands. The only one who can choose is Pallavi. She may have decided to go ahead with the marriage with Raghav because she might have realised that he is not a bad man after all. But I think any day she would still have an inkling in her mind that Mandar wud be a better person than Raghav. She always kept Mandar on a very high pedestal. And she had got married to Raghav by force and not by choice. Though she stayed back on her own will, she had not looked at the possibility that Mandar wud be alive one day. So looking at all these circumstances, Raghav should step back and allow Pallavi to make a choice on her own accord. She should not be pressurized in any way. For all he knows, she may never make the choice to return to Raghav. She might get back to her old routine and she might be happy making the d family happy. And that was what she always wanted before Raghav came into the pic. But, but, but if she returns back to Raghav he will know that she has returned for good and will never turn back! And he need not ever fear Mandar's interference again.

So Raghav sit back and enjoy the show. Have a kit kat!! Daru sehat ke liye accha nhi hai!

Originally posted by: ..sur..

Off-late all I can read in the forum is how Pallavi is taking Raghav for granted, how she does not value him or their marriage, how she is indifferent to his pain, how she is a trash/dumb/pathetic character, how she still left him even after knowing about his past and so on..

Yes, Pallavi is being taken on a ride and she should wake up and smell the coffee that Mandar is a psycho and VD is just emotionally blackmailing her.

Yes, she knows about Raghav's past and his fear of abandonment and she should be understanding when she chose to go the Ds BUT shouldn't Raghav be understanding too.

He knows about Pallavi's past and her over-attachment to the Ds. He knows how much she values them and still consider them as her mayka. She feels a sense of duty towards them like she needs to repay for all the love they gave her(a widowed DIL) and also he knows that Pallavi is at the Deshmukhs not for her ex-husband Mandar but for her Aai-Baba's son Mandar and there is a difference in that.

Raghav knows Mandar is a creep, he knows VD is a just selfish but rather than helping her see the truth, he is guilt tripping her.

If Pallavi is not doing her patni ka farz then I'm sorry even Raghav is not doing his pati ka farz. Rather than trusting her, helping her to get out of this emotional blackmail, he is adding misery to her already clouded mind

Also I want to ask everyone since when does trusting your partner has become taking him for granted?

Pallavi trusts Raghav, she trust that he knows that right now she is in a precarious situation and at the end of the she is PRR only but I don't think so Raghav trusts Pallavi and Mandar has picked that up very well and that's why he is able to make him insecure.

Raghav is far more shrewd than that Mandar and can easily play mind games with him but instead of doing that he is doubting Pallavi and letting Mandar win.

Im sorry if my views are against everyone but all I wanted to convey is that Pallavi is wrong but even Raghav is wrong too

Trusting and ignoring are two different things she trust but ignored.

How can one listen to Dr.Ramya and seat next to Mandar Raghav was equally hurt isn't it small things matter and on same day they had confession

It is a husband’s responsibility to take care of their wives but the whole issue here is that Pallavi is not gullible nor has she been shown like that previously.

subbuappu wrote:

"This bull dog was running ambulance and saw worst to worst accident cases and deaths and how the hell is his mental health not in place???"

In the real world, people who experience gory situations don't necessarily have good mental health. Sometimes the resources are not there for them, and sometimes even when they seek help, it does not have the healing effect that they need. Brave people don't magically build up tolerance to stress; rather, repeated exposure to life-and-death situations can wear away at a person's will to go on. I knew a paramedic who went on to commit suicide, and I've met ex-soldiers who had post-traumatic stress disorder. They did not deserve the added burden of societal expectations that it's just the job, deal with it.

Mandar's physical strength and his stressful occupation are not reasons that his mind should just handle an overwhelming situation of seeing his family members and not remembering them.

Please excuse my going on a tangent to the topic, and don't hold me responsible for the derogatory name and swear word in the quote.

The big question here is what does Pallavi want? She cannot say I love Raghav and he is my husband but will stay at my ex husbands house and nurse him back till he regains his memory. If she wants a marriage with Raghav then she needs to be there 100 percent just like Raghav.. It takes 2 people to make the marriage work and right now Raghav is in it alone. Pallavi needs to decide if she wants to stay married to Raghav or she wants to go back to d house as their DIL. But right now she has her legs on 2 boats and the destination is not the same and she needs to hop out of one to avoid causing further damage.

Originally posted by: vimeo

I don't agree that Pallavi is not at fault in this whole mess. She has chosen the mess. But, one thing Raghav should realise is the real test of their marriage is now. Earlier was nothing. There was no competition what so ever. Now that Mandar is back alive, the real choice lies now - in Pallavi's hands. The only one who can choose is Pallavi. She may have decided to go ahead with the marriage with Raghav because she might have realised that he is not a bad man after all. But I think any day she would still have an inkling in her mind that Mandar wud be a better person than Raghav. She always kept Mandar on a very high pedestal. And she had got married to Raghav by force and not by choice. Though she stayed back on her own will, she had not looked at the possibility that Mandar wud be alive one day. So looking at all these circumstances, Raghav should step back and allow Pallavi to make a choice on her own accord. She should not be pressurized in any way. For all he knows, she may never make the choice to return to Raghav. She might get back to her old routine and she might be happy making the d family happy. And that was what she always wanted before Raghav came into the pic. But, but, but if she returns back to Raghav he will know that she has returned for good and will never turn back! And he need not ever fear Mandar's interference again.

So Raghav sit back and enjoy the show. Have a kit kat!! Daru sehat ke liye accha nhi hai!

I feel Pallavi is herself very confused on what she wants. Making a choice is far behind..

Even if she says she loves him her actions suggest something else!!

So I don’t know how to react to such things !!